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em ching

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Hi all,

I am set to meet up with someone I've been emailing. It's going to kind of be a blind date because we only met once, but we've been emailing recently. I want to meet him for the experience, and think of it as meeting a friend, but my instincts are reluctant. I don't think I like him in the way he does me, etc.

I asked Should I give him more of a chance than my head and heart are currently giving him?
55.6 > 30

This answer is about not being aloof and screening yourself off. I want to be more of a social creature, and lament when I'm not, and dates are always interesting, but now I have some attention, I'm worried about it being awkward etc and/or disappointing him. Especially if he has one idea and I another. But then of course in the flesh it might be different... Perhaps I should try not to have any expectations either way.
And 30 is sort of about spreading your light indiscriminately isn't it? I wonder if there's a danger of him 'clinging' to the idea of me? And I can of course empathise with him there, but it doesn't make me any more attracted to him :S

Unrelated issue.
When I'm with people especially, speaking, I get Brain block. Can't find the right words to express myself, forget facts, etc. etc.
I asked the Yi to comment and got 55.2,6> 49

55.2 > something is eclipsing me? Perhaps inside? I have been sleeping very badly recently too. Mind over-active especially at night. Something inside me has usurped power? prohibiting movement?
55.6> somehow I feel above expressing myself so I isolate myself?? though I do try, but as I said I just get brain block... But I am sometimes more articulate with some people more than others, though I don't want to be...

Hmmmmm....

49 > yes this is something I wish I could change about me.

I wonder if it's hormonal/chemical, or just genetic...

Any commentries on 55.6 especially would be helpful :)

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hi em!

I'm sure you know already how 55 is about a surge of incoming stimuli, overflowing you with data that need processing, categorizing, interpreting . . I think in 6th line there's too much deliberating on such, too strict of an effort to fit them into precise boxes to the point where it gets overwrought, swallows you up and you end up inside the box instead (grrrr!) -mind block sounds very much like it, getting too lost in one's thoughts/perspective could be another way of saying it. Wilhelm in his comments on the line's fan yao (30.6) writes what sounds like a good remedy: 'asceticism that is too strict, like sentences of undue severity, fails in its purpose.' So it sounds to me that you should just go ahead with the meeting without thinking too much about it -don't put the cart before the horse by worrying from before about what comes after . .

and with 55.2 preceding, it looks like you get swamped by focusing too much on negative expectations and fears, or could be it's past experiences that are clogging you up . . perhaps it'd be much better if you could take a deep breath and say something stupid to break down your own self-censoring? if the person across 'gets you' then you'll have made a good start. When we get blocked people can feel it and they get blocked too . .
In 49 a new way of relating to your environment gets built underground first and then revealed by gradually letting go of your old ways . . it doesn't come overnight and it takes effort to achieve -it might feel uncomfortable at times- but it brings forward a natural circle of change and progress . .

wishing you a fun appointment!!

p.s.:not sure what you mean with your last question, on the hormonal/genetic distinction, care to explain?
 

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hi em!

I'm sure you know already how 55 is about a surge of incoming stimuli, overflowing you with data that need processing, categorizing, interpreting . . I think in 6th line there's too much deliberating on such, too strict of an effort to fit them into precise boxes to the point where it gets overwrought, swallows you up and you end up inside the box instead (grrrr!) -mind block sounds very much like it, getting too lost in one's thoughts/perspective could be another way of saying it. Wilhelm in his comments on the line's fan yao (30.6) writes what sounds like a good remedy: 'asceticism that is too strict, like sentences of undue severity, fails in its purpose.' So it sounds to me that you should just go ahead with the meeting without thinking too much about it -don't put the cart before the horse by worrying from before about what comes after . .
and with 55.2 preceding, it looks like you get swamped by focusing too much on negative expectations and fears, or could be it's past experiences that are clogging you up . . perhaps it'd be much better if you could take a deep breath and say something stupid to break down your own self-censoring? if the person across 'gets you' then you'll have made a good start. When we get blocked people can feel it and they get blocked too . .In 49 a new way of relating to your environment gets built underground first and then revealed by gradually letting go of your old ways . . it doesn't come overnight and it takes effort to achieve -it might feel uncomfortable at times- but it brings forward a natural circle of change and progress . .

wishing you a fun appointment!!

p.s.:not sure what you mean with your last question, on the hormonal/genetic distinction, care to explain?

Hi Rodaki,

Have highlighted the helpful/relevant bits - thanks!!
I have been feeling overwhelmed recently (thankfully though last night I slept! So will be able to focus on my work today! Feel So much better having slept.) Funny thing was the night before last, I was reading a book talking about the importance of sleep :eek: which probably didn't help trying to sleep that night. The hormonal/genetic distinction was from my having read that for example, estrogen plays a part in preserving the brain cells and memory, as well as the production of serotonin (the happy chemical :)) amd sleeping patterns... I was also wondering if it was just genetic (my mum can be quite forgetful) but I think I just need to concentrate more (or less) :confused: think you're right it probs does come down to being self-conscious.

Also I'm meeting another guy too soon so I guess that could be why 55 came up (not used to the attention haha!)

Will see how it goes. Thanks for your take on 55.6 - all I could see was a warning not to be arrogant or aloof...

Lise: You are the center of your life, so be present there. No reason can be important enough to screen yourself off. See all that happens and react if necessary, make your own fate, don’t let fate just happen and don’t let others decide about your fate.
- Reminding you to ensure you're true to yourself and remember fundamentally you are in control of your life. So seems to be saying remember to say no if something doesn't feel right...

A little different from Wilhelm who seems to criticize wanting so much to be in control (fits in more with what you said. I guess expecting something to go wrong suggests a certain lack of faith in another person which is arrogant):
This describes a man who because of his arrogance and obstinacy attains the opposite of what he strives for. He seeks abundance and splendor for his dwelling. He wishes at all odds to be master in his house, which so alienates his family that in the end he finds himself completely isolated.

Hilary definitely describes the situation in my head:
The signs of what to do are emerging, and the demands on you are clear – all too clear, and all too
many.
You’re inclined to shut yourself away and block it all out. You become oblivious to others,
absorbed in your own, private, altogether more manageable world.


I'm glad to have these invitations really, I should act/think on that gladness :)
And not take so much responsibility for the outcome...

Thank you!! :)

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rodaki

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thanks for the feedback em

and don't forget: 'be not sad, be like the sun at midday'!
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