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I met a fellow and after a rocky start, we had what turned out to be a six month turbulent, exciting, fun, but at-times-difficult relationship. For a lot of reasons, I've been having no end of relationship-anxiety and am fearful at times about what to do. I get very indecisive or tentative, for example. We have a certain amount of communication problems. He rang tonight, saying that he can't take this anymore and doesn't want to continue seeing me. I'm heartbroken, distressed, distraught, really all those things one feels when this happens. I don't want to believe it, I'm in love with him and think there's the potential for a good relationship between us, but something in his voice made me think he meant what he said. So I asked three questions:
what can I do to repair our relationship? 56.4 > 52
I think this speaks to my feeling insecurity in the relationship, anxiety over not losing what very tenuous connection we have left, and desire to maintain a romantic relationship with someone who isn't interested in being with me any longer. I don't see the advice on what I can do to make things better between us, though. As far as the relating hexagram 52 goes, I'm thinking it's telling me that quieting my desires will bring some much-needed emotional rest for me, but again, how this applies to "making it all better" escapes me.
what will he do now about our relationship? in other words, what can I expect from him now? 59.2.6 > 8
I'd especially appreciate some feedback on this, I think I'm looking at it with too much hope for reconciliation when I should be more objective, or overcompensating for my feelings and not seeing something positive. I can see it saying that he'll try to understand where I'm coming from, but the 6th line makes me think that even if he's successful in seeing my side of things, he still may leave the relationship altogether, to avoid getting hurt, say, or stick with his "family" rather than include me in his close circle of friends again. I don't know what to make of the relating hexagram. To me, this is similar to the 59.6 -- holding together within himself rather than including someone outside, though I'd love it if it meant a new union for the two of us. I know it's always iffy asking what someone else is going to do or how someone else feels, but I couldn't help myself and can't ask him at the moment.
what more, if anything, will happen between us? 25.2.5 > 38
Since I didn't want our relationship to end, again I'm unsure if I'm being overly optimistic. To me this sounds as though we will go through our every day routines, doing the best we can at them, with no eye to our future as a couple, and that the resolution of our problems will come as a natural result of having no expectations. I'm unsure if the resulting hexagram 38 refers to the current situation of opposition and estrangement or if it's pointing to an aspect of the future which is benign (we are, after all, opposites in many ways. I'm a woman, he's a man, for example) or less favorable (we disagree, so there won't be the happy ending I'm hoping for).
Thank you for taking the time to read my post, any feedback given me would be very much appreciated. I'm really at a loss about a constructive way to proceed and if possible, I'd like to salvage the relationship . . .
petit chou
I met a fellow and after a rocky start, we had what turned out to be a six month turbulent, exciting, fun, but at-times-difficult relationship. For a lot of reasons, I've been having no end of relationship-anxiety and am fearful at times about what to do. I get very indecisive or tentative, for example. We have a certain amount of communication problems. He rang tonight, saying that he can't take this anymore and doesn't want to continue seeing me. I'm heartbroken, distressed, distraught, really all those things one feels when this happens. I don't want to believe it, I'm in love with him and think there's the potential for a good relationship between us, but something in his voice made me think he meant what he said. So I asked three questions:
what can I do to repair our relationship? 56.4 > 52
I think this speaks to my feeling insecurity in the relationship, anxiety over not losing what very tenuous connection we have left, and desire to maintain a romantic relationship with someone who isn't interested in being with me any longer. I don't see the advice on what I can do to make things better between us, though. As far as the relating hexagram 52 goes, I'm thinking it's telling me that quieting my desires will bring some much-needed emotional rest for me, but again, how this applies to "making it all better" escapes me.
what will he do now about our relationship? in other words, what can I expect from him now? 59.2.6 > 8
I'd especially appreciate some feedback on this, I think I'm looking at it with too much hope for reconciliation when I should be more objective, or overcompensating for my feelings and not seeing something positive. I can see it saying that he'll try to understand where I'm coming from, but the 6th line makes me think that even if he's successful in seeing my side of things, he still may leave the relationship altogether, to avoid getting hurt, say, or stick with his "family" rather than include me in his close circle of friends again. I don't know what to make of the relating hexagram. To me, this is similar to the 59.6 -- holding together within himself rather than including someone outside, though I'd love it if it meant a new union for the two of us. I know it's always iffy asking what someone else is going to do or how someone else feels, but I couldn't help myself and can't ask him at the moment.
what more, if anything, will happen between us? 25.2.5 > 38
Since I didn't want our relationship to end, again I'm unsure if I'm being overly optimistic. To me this sounds as though we will go through our every day routines, doing the best we can at them, with no eye to our future as a couple, and that the resolution of our problems will come as a natural result of having no expectations. I'm unsure if the resulting hexagram 38 refers to the current situation of opposition and estrangement or if it's pointing to an aspect of the future which is benign (we are, after all, opposites in many ways. I'm a woman, he's a man, for example) or less favorable (we disagree, so there won't be the happy ending I'm hoping for).
Thank you for taking the time to read my post, any feedback given me would be very much appreciated. I'm really at a loss about a constructive way to proceed and if possible, I'd like to salvage the relationship . . .
petit chou