58.1.4.5.6 & 33.4 for moving in with new people

[kestrelw1ngs]

Hello forum people! Back with more big decisions.

So
I got an offer of a place to move out to.

Right as tensions between my ex and I built again around issues of chores &communication. Old cycles. Negative and endless and pointless.

Last week I asked Yi "im listening! How should I approach my housing situation?"
58.1.4.5.6>4

seems like "focus on inner joy and don't get pulled off thinking you know what will fix it (moving)!" ....or I don't know but it seems a very spiritual answer like, protect your joy and accept the bad situation you are in. I keep seeing things about consenting, surrender, and not getting hung up thinking a specific outcome will make you happy (Like The Untethered Soul).

Then this offer appears from an acquaintance....is it a temptation or a way out?

The catch is of course paying (high!) rent again will mean seeking another job which I don't have set up. I fear my whole life will become centered around scrambling to pay rent and very stressful as im not particularly stable and partially disabled so jobs...they're a challenge.

But the person who offered is better off financially and can help the first few months. Of course I'd have to pay him back.
The other catch is he and his partner are on rocky terms from what another friend told me.

The decision has to be made urgently.
I asked yi: "please advise on the situation with moving out with B"

And received 33.4>53

Now I could read this as A. Yes go for it, the small people being my ex who would be upset by me leaving.

or B. No, you will need a more gradual change (53), it will be inconvenient for B as he will have to find another roommate but you are not ready.

How would you interpret this combo of readings from Yi?
Not sure i am the "great man" in this hex line
......

 

[Trojina]

Right as tensions between my ex and I built again around issues of chores &communication. Old cycles. Negative and endless and pointless.

Last week I asked Yi "im listening! How should I approach my housing situation?"
58.1.4.5.6>4

The change patterns here are yang 25, yin 46 and so there's a tension between taking this as they come, being opportunistic (25) and viewing things more in terms of actual growth, forward movement. It feels like it's a question based on 'shall I just do the next thing that comes along' or 'shall I make my next step about moving up a step, improving my life'.

If you can take a step back and ask yourself if you move in with this guy is it actually a step up from where you are now? You don't want to end up going from the frying pan into the fire. I have no strong views from the readings because for example 33.4....

'Loving retreat.
Noble one, good fortune.
Small people, obstruction.'

.....could mean, as you said, to lovingly withdraw from your ex which she may not be that pleased about but is best for you. Or it could mean retreat from his offer. I guess it feels much more like withdrawing from an existing condition, that is where you are now, in which case it seems worth doing.


The first more general reading had lots of change lines and I think it draws your attention towards being much more aware of what this will mean in terms of your life situation. Ideally you want to be growing, moving forward. It looks like there's a lot of feelings calling to be heard (58)that possibly blind you (4) to the need to actually move forward in your life rather than go from one bad situation to another. I think that's something to carefully consider.


This worries me

But the person who offered is better off financially and can help the first few months. Of course I'd have to pay him back.
The other catch is he and his partner are on rocky terms from what another friend told me.

It worries me you are heading into financial dependence again.

We don't have this so much in the UK. Here if a person cannot support themselves financially they get housing benefit and other benefits so they don't have to become financially dependent on friends. Probably different where you are but if there are things you can claim do claim them won't you. You have said you have significant health issues so I don't really see that you should be struggling quite so much. It just doesn't seem right to me you should be so stressed over affording rent and so on when you have long term health issues. It just shouldn't happen that because you have health problems you have to rely on friends.

Your decision seems to rest on a number of factors

1. Do you trust the friend?
2. Might it become difficult if he is subsidising you?
3. Is this a move up or a move sideways?
4. Are you burdening yourself with debts you cannot meet
5. Is it a time to form a long term plan for a better life (46) or simply take the next option(25). These are only the change patterns but they do help 'organise' the reading the way a magnet organises iron filings. The suggestion here with 46 as yin pattern may be more for you to resolve tension by having a plan for an easier/better life.

Those are the questions 58>4 raise for me

33.4 makes it look a good idea ....I think but it could be taken another way?

 

[my_key]

There seems to be 2 separate aspects within your queries. One about your current housing situation and one about moving out in response to the demands of making a quick decision.

Right as tensions between my ex and I built again around issues of chores &communication. Old cycles. Negative and endless and pointless.

Last week I asked Yi "im listening! How should I approach my housing situation?"
58.1.4.5.6>4

58<>4
At the point of asking this question you are fully caught up in the tedious old dramas that you and your ex-partner play out with each other. You are directed to take an approach held by the clarity that comes to you through this repeated disorder playing out in your home (housing)(4). In this current 'housing situation' you are being called upon from a deep place to increasingly speak and act in ways that will have lasting effects on your world. 58 reinforces this in advocating that you find ways to actively express yourself and your unspoken thoughts and feelings: even if this is only, at first, to friends or others you can trust.

The decision has to be made urgently.
I asked yi: "please advise on the situation with moving out with B"

And received 33.4>53

Here you voice a question specifically directed at making a hurried decision regarding moving out of your current housing.

33<>53
Your situation is enwrapped in a context of waiting for or needing a creative impetus to be followed (53) and also to be aware that there is no need to rush. Held within taking a gradual approach are opportunities for you to speak your truth, which may not be there for you in responding to the urgency required in making this decision. What beckons to you in 33 is a respectful and compassionate way to deal with the self-diminishing dramas of your world. Retiring from these dramas, and the threats they represent to you, under your own volition, will be a small yet important victory for you. 33.4 - for the noble one there is good fortune. Small people (who are unable to stand in their power) will be blocked and only be able to carry on in the way they have always carried on.

... or it might mean nothings at all like this for you.

Good Luck

 

[kestrelw1ngs]

The change patterns here are yang 25, yin 46 and so there's a tension between taking this as they come, being opportunistic (25) and viewing things more in terms of actual growth, forward movement. It feels like it's a question based on 'shall I just do the next thing that comes along' or 'shall I make my next step about moving up a step, improving my life'.

If you can take a step back and ask yourself if you move in with this guy is it actually a step up from where you are now? You don't want to end up going from the frying pan into the fire. I have no strong views from the readings because for example 33.4....

'Loving retreat.
Noble one, good fortune.
Small people, obstruction.'

.....could mean, as you said, to lovingly withdraw from your ex which she may not be that pleased about but is best for you. Or it could mean retreat from his offer. I guess it feels much more like withdrawing from an existing condition, that is where you are now, in which case it seems worth doing.


The first more general reading had lots of change lines and I think it draws your attention towards being much more aware of what this will mean in terms of your life situation. Ideally you want to be growing, moving forward. It looks like there's a lot of feelings calling to be heard (58)that possibly blind you (4) to the need to actually move forward in your life rather than go from one bad situation to another. I think that's something to carefully consider.


This worries me

It worries me you are heading into financial dependence again.

We don't have this so much in the UK. Here if a person cannot support themselves financially they get housing benefit and other benefits so they don't have to become financially dependent on friends. Probably different where you are but if there are things you can claim do claim them won't you. You have said you have significant health issues so I don't really see that you should be struggling quite so much. It just doesn't seem right to me you should be so stressed over affording rent and so on when you have long term health issues. It just shouldn't happen that because you have health problems you have to rely on friends.

Your decision seems to rest on a number of factors

1. Do you trust the friend?
2. Might it become difficult if he is subsidising you?
3. Is this a move up or a move sideways?
4. Are you burdening yourself with debts you cannot meet
5. Is it a time to form a long term plan for a better life (46) or simply take the next option(25). These are only the change patterns but they do help 'organise' the reading the way a magnet organises iron filings. The suggestion here with 46 as yin pattern may be more for you to resolve tension by having a plan for an easier/better life.

Those are the questions 58>4 raise for me

33.4 makes it look a good idea ....I think but it could be taken another way?

Yes in the US especially in my state getting housing assistance or disability benefits is very difficult. Its possible but I haven't been up to the task and have been making very slow moves tat direction such as applying for some support services. But I make just a small amount too much for health coverage now so I'm going to try and cut work hours just enough. Its a whole web.

This is definitely a move sideways, maybe slightly up and to the left as I wouldnt be burdening my ex anymore but I asked Yi again and got 62. Too Little.

So that swings it to the 46 side of things. I messaged him yesterday and declined the offer. I don't want to end up in more debt.

Things are not going well for me mentally. I'm able to get through work then just lying in bed. I asked yi why I feel this way, 21.3>30
how to bite through it and I got 4.5.6>29
So I'm not sure. I've taken 30 before as "separation" from the ex but it also seems to be how we can't get away from each other and are bound up together.

No idea as far as plans for a better life. I've had plenty that didn't pan out.