58.2 > 17 "a picture of our relationship" - she just cancelled the reunion??

[JoeCampbell]

58.2 > 17 "a picture of our relationship" - she just cancelled the reunion??

Hello

Coming at this more than a little confused. We had planned a reunion after 6 months apart, meet in Greece tomorrow for a 2 week holiday - reconnect etc. etc.
Then her grandmother became ill and she cancelled.
I offered another chance - come later, even if only for a few days. She said sorry, not coming.

I am still working through my anger, hurt and disappointment but am letting it settle before I contact her again. I asked "Please give me a picture of our relationship as it is right now" and got 58.2 > 17

58: Opening - a mouth open, joyful and outgoing expression, bringing people together, motivating to overcome hardship (OK, perhaps that bit).
Line 2: opening a clear channel for honest communication, speaking with true conviction, regrets vanishing...

James deKorne on Line 2: stay centred and keep the faith.... Nigel Richmond seems positive too.

But I asked how things are right now between us - and for me right now, I am certainly not Joyful and full of creative expression!

How does 58.2 reflect my question? If anyone could please shed some light, I might get some peace.

Thank you
M

 

[mirian]

Hi JoeCampbell,

Just a thought: all this joyousness that you mention that is associated to Hex 58 is also represented in the hexagram as self-indulgence, pleasure, a frivolous attitude. So, what I am trying to say is that what I experience with hex 58 is that it can go from real joy and open communication to superficial satisfaction seeking behaviour. And line 2 advises to avoid the latter. Since you asked about the relationship itself, it makes me wonder if this holiday is a good idea at all. You could be having a good time together, having fun, enjoying the sunshine, but then what? So what would this holiday actually do for the relationship itself?

As I said, just a thought.

 

[JoeCampbell]

Thank you Mirian - your reply resonates, the last sentence especially.

 

[JoeCampbell]

Thank you Mirian - your reply resonates, the last sentence especially.

And to conclude the story....after several days with no contact, she wrote to say that the idea of the holiday had been a mistake, she had just wanted it to be a bit of fun until she realised that I love her and it wouldn't be fun for me afterwards (!) hence the cancellation....as she wrote "I don't love you"....so there we are, perhaps I have been spared more suffering.
Most of my posts since late 2012 have been to do with this relationship, which is now over.....a blessing in disguise perhaps.

 

[rosada]

Thank you so much for giving us the up date, Joe.

Really interesting how the hexagrams are so clear in hindsight:

58.2 SINCERE communication...

so now you can...

17. Give it a rest.

Best wishes,
Rosada

 

[Tim K]

Wilhelm's commentary on 58.2 is spot on:
We often find ourselves associating with inferior people in whose company
we are tempted by pleasures that are inappropriate for the superior man. To participate in such pleasures would certainly bring remorse, for a superior man can find no real satisfaction in low pleasures. When, recognizing this, a man does not permit his will to swerve, so that he does not find such ways
agreeable, not even dubious companions will venture to proffer any base pleasures, because he would not enjoy them. Thus every cause for regret is removed.

Basically it means that the state of your relationship was not that good, that it was inferior and should be stopped...