58 and 41.1.3

[zola]

First i Asket what are the Feelings between him and me at the moment and i got 58 which is Joy, and i dont understand because wie are having a really hard time at the moment. He is my boyfriend who lives on another continent and has betrayed me with someone end of last Year. She is in the Same country and he decided to stay with me and i with him. At the moment it is all very distant so i asked the ic to Tell me about him and her and got 41.1.3 to 18 how should i understand this. Is his relationship decreasing with her and one has to go and wie will get a chance to repair the damage that happened because of this? Because of 58 Joy? Tanks for any help. Xo

 

[foxx777]

First i Asket what are the Feelings between him and me at the moment and i got 58 which is Joy, and i dont understand because wie are having a really hard time at the moment. He is my boyfriend who lives on another continent and has betrayed me with someone end of last Year. She is in the Same country and he decided to stay with me and i with him. At the moment it is all very distant so i asked the ic to Tell me about him and her and got 41.1.3 to 18 how should i understand this. Is his relationship decreasing with her and one has to go and wie will get a chance to repair the damage that happened because of this? Because of 58 Joy? Tanks for any help. Xo

I think H58 indicates that you and he need to get back to this joy, this true relating. Lakes resting on one another, is very difficult with a geographical distance. I am unsure about this other person who has entered in, but the geography may play a big part (if you feel he is still seeing her?) and I will also look to 41.1.3. Yes, H18 is about repairing damage, which you will need to do.

THE JUDGMENT
THE JOYOUS. Success.
Perseverance is favorable.
The joyous mood is infectious and therefore brings success. But joy must be based on steadfastness if it is not to degenerate into uncontrolled mirth. Truth and strength must dwell in the heart, while gentleness reveals itself in social intercourse. In this way one assumes the right attitude toward God and man and achieves something. Under certain conditions, intimidation without gentleness may achieve something momentarily, but not for all time. When, on the other hand, the hearts of men are won by friendliness, they are led to take all hardships upon themselves willingly, and if need be will not shun death itself, so great is the power of joy over men.

THE IMAGE
Lakes resting one on the other:
The image of THE JOYOUS.
Thus the superior man joins with his friends
For discussion and practice.
A lake evaporates upward and thus gradually dries up; but when two lakes are joined they do not dry up so readily, for one replenishes the other. It is the same in the field of knowledge. Knowledge should be a refreshing and vitalizing force. It becomes so only through stimulating intercourse with congenial friends with whom one holds discussion and practices application of the truths of life. In this way learning becomes many–sided and takes on a cheerful lightness, whereas there is always something ponderous and one–sided about the learning of the self–taught.

It is obvious in line 3 that one of you has to go. He cannot be focused on her, and still joyously relating to you. Either she must exit the picture, and you and he can return to joyous relating, or the continents separating you are causing him to seek someone whom he can interact with more often. I had this happen to me, and it really was just the geographical distance. I was at a disadvantage. How often can you and he get together? Line 1 means perhaps you should exit. Could it shock him into changing things?

Line 1
"When one's affairs are finished one leaves quickly. No harm in this. One reconsiders this through discussion." [The behaviour acts as a defense (facade) but is also an obstacle to progress]

Line 3
"Three people walking together causes one to leave. One person walking results in acquiring a friend." [concentration through a withdrawal followed by concentration through an attraction (approach). Someone defers.]