59.2.6 to 8; Long distance relationship

[UncarvedBlock]

Hello!! I'm hoping for some feedback with this reading- 59.2.6 to 8.

Not long ago I met someone online and have formed a long distance relationship with this person without having physically met. The situation has caused some fear and doubt so I asked the iching "is what we are doing the right thing?". The reading looks good to me, but I'm not very experienced and I'd appreciate more insight if possible. Cheers!

 

[Matali]

Hello, it is a difficult situation if you want a real relation. 59.2 : maybe you could keep this person to have just conversation. Line 6 speaks about your fear and doubt.

Hello!! I'm hoping for some feedback with this reading- 59.2.6 to 8.

Not long ago I met someone online and have formed a long distance relationship with this person without having physically met. The situation has caused some fear and doubt so I asked the iching "is what we are doing the right thing?". The reading looks good to me, but I'm not very experienced and I'd appreciate more insight if possible. Cheers!

Hello
Difficult to answer because the first line is positiv (friendship.. as 8) but the second line is not... long distance and maybe this long distance is a good thing... Try another question perhaps (sorry for m'y english i am french

 

[UncarvedBlock]

Thank you for responding Matali! I asked another question - should I travel overseas to meet this person? The result was: 56.4.5.6 to 39. Is this an indication I should go or not?

 

[Trojina]

Hello!! I'm hoping for some feedback with this reading- 59.2.6 to 8.

Not long ago I met someone online and have formed a long distance relationship with this person without having physically met. The situation has caused some fear and doubt so I asked the iching "is what we are doing the right thing?". The reading looks good to me, but I'm not very experienced and I'd appreciate more insight if possible. Cheers!

Line 6 asks you to disperse, run fast away from what disperses you past the point you need dispersing. Line 2 suggests you turn to trusted support you know you can rely on. If there's fear and doubt then the reading asks you to take it seriously.

Hard to know how to take it since this could be to do with dispersing your anxiety about the relationship or it could be about dispersing the relationship, which do you think ?


There's no certainty in 59, it's hard to know where you are. Line2 often refers to a factor that is reliable in all of this, sometimes that's another person but whatever it is it is tried and tested, something you have leaned on for support time and time again. Is that him or is it a trusted friend or relative who is advising you ? In line 6 one really does have to get the heck out of whatever is spreading you out like Nutella on a slice of bread. I think it is Hilary who said of this line, in her commentary, that whilst the hexagram is Dispersing, in line 5 there's generosity, by line 6 you have to realise '..some things, like blood, are better kept on the inside'

Everyone knows that LDRs where the other has never been met have the possibility of being not all they seem. You see the whole of a person when you meet in the flesh, you only see the bits they choose to present when they are online. You have 8 as relating so there's this option to fully join with him or not. I really don't know. Yi aside I'd certainly advise caution about how genuine this is.

I asked another question - should I travel overseas to meet this person? The result was: 56.4.5.6 to 39. Is this an indication I should go or not?

I think it may be too hard for you. You have 39 as relating so going ahead with this isn't easy, it's not something to do on a whim.

The cast reads as a sentence "Travelling's Limping" Hmm doesn't look great does it and it looks quite lonely too, there's not enough support there in your plan. It's good to note those change lines give a 12 yang pattern and 11 yin pattern. I think you may not be able to go, too many obstacles - Covid 19 ? money ? accommodation ?

If we read the lines as a story of you going it might be you arrive, it's okay but you feel ill at ease (line 4) , you do make a connection (line 5) but it burns out very quickly and you feel quite a loss (line 6)

Is there for you someone else in the picture that's far more reliable than this guy but you are overlooking them ? Both casts seem to show you are in a lonely place, feeling little support but the 39 and the 59 and lines show actually it's time to turn around and take what's on offer to you more near by, things you really trust or that you could really trust. Be careful you don't place yourself in vulnerable situations where there's nothing to rely on (59.6) (56.6)

If there is no one you trust fully right now then decide to put your faith in trusting yourself. If it doesn't feel right then don't place yourself in vulnerable situations.

 

[Trojina]

Also regarding going to his country has he offered to come to yours ? A tell tale sign of a flake is that they will always have a reason not to come to you so you have to go to them. I'm not saying he is a flake but keep an eye on who is making the effort here. With the casts you had I'm not sure you can afford the effort as you need more support or need to go to a support in your life whatever that is that you have always seen as a refuge to get help with this. It might be a place you always go to think, a book you always look at, a relative, your faith. Whatever has shown you that it is trustworthy go to that first. Go to your altar in line 2.

 

[Matali]

Thank you for responding Matali! I asked another question - should I travel overseas to meet this person? The result was: 56.4.5.6 to 39. Is this an indication I should go or not?
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39 is an obstacle (long distance or something else). 56.4.5 : this person is a virtual friend... do you use Skype or something visual ?

 

[UncarvedBlock]

Trojina and Matali thank you both for your insights!!

I should have said from the outset that my fear and doubt is to do with the practicalities of being involved online/long distance and the challenges such a situation can present. I also should have said this isn't a person I met randomly online; it's someone I've come to know through close friends, we skype regularly - there's no question about her genuineness or sincerity; my intuition about this individual is good.

For me Dispersing (Expansion) feels like a dissolution of anxiety about the relationship despite the fears/challenges it presents. Line 2: 'dispersing, flee to your support, regrets vanish' reiterates and supports Dispersing: "..staying true to the deep connection through the temple... good to make the commitment and venture into the unknown." Line 6 'Dispersing blood. Leave, go out and far away. Not a mistake.' - sacrificing fear as a necessary part of Dispersing? To quote Hilary "It might help to remember that ancient China was a lot less squeamish than we are. Blood sacrifice was a normal part of life, and essential to the ongoing flow of energy between humans and spirits."

The 2nd reading "Travelling/Limping" is problematic indeed. My intuition about travelling right now isn't good, something I need to reflect on.

 

[Matali]

Trojina and Matali thank you both for your insights!!

I should have said from the outset that my fear and doubt is to do with the practicalities of being involved online/long distance and the challenges such a situation can present. I also should have said this isn't a person I met randomly online; it's someone I've come to know through close friends, we skype regularly - there's no question about her genuineness or sincerity; my intuition about this individual is good.

Pour moi, Dispersing (Expansion) ressemble à une dissolution de l'anxiété face à la relation malgré les peurs / défis qu'elle présente. Ligne 2: «Dispersez-vous, fuyez vers votre soutien, les regrets disparaissent» réitère et soutient Dispersing: «... rester fidèle à la connexion profonde à travers le temple ... bon de prendre l'engagement et de s'aventurer dans l'inconnu. Ligne 6 'Dispersion de sang. Partez, sortez et loin. Pas une erreur . '- sacrifier la peur comme une partie nécessaire de la dispersion? Pour citer Hilary "Il pourrait aider à se rappeler que la Chine ancienne était beaucoup moins délicate que nous. Le sacrifice de sang faisait partie de la vie normale et était essentiel au flux continu d'énergie entre les humains et les esprits."

La deuxième lecture "Voyager / boiter" est en effet problématique. Mon intuition de voyager en ce moment n'est pas bonne, je dois y réfléchir.
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En tout cas c'est un ami et c'est positif.

 

[Trojina]

You've just posted a quote - and then some in French in a quote ?

I don't get it - why the French ? No one on this thread has written in French and it's an English speaking forum so I'm baffled. This happened inexplicably on another thread too.

Oh hang on it's Matali not the querent. There aren't many French speakers here so why write in French ?

 

[Matali]

You've just posted a quote - and then some in French in a quote ?

I don't get it - why the French ? No one on this thread has written in French and it's an English speaking forum so I'm baffled. This happened inexplicably on another thread too.

Oh hang on it's Matali not the querent. There aren't many French speakers here so why write in French ?

I don't understand too. When i write with my phone, the translation is automatic. But now, with my computer, i write with my "simple" english

 

[Trojina]

It must be difficult trying to converse here if you can't speak English