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firehorse

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I haven't posted in a very very long time, but I have been a silent reader of this website, and try to learn as much as possible. I find myself here again because I need some help...

I am 8 months pregnant, and I am suddenly without my partner, the baby's father. I found him one day last week in a prescription drug stupor...I dropped him off at the hospital, he spent the week detoxing, and now he is a drug rehab for at least 28 days. I don't know which end is up, I don't know if I want him in my life, but perhaps I'm willing to give the chance if he can do the work, get things together. I am aware that the odds are against this. I really had no idea he was struggling so much, or that he had a drug problem. Yes, I am very very angry...

Anyway, I asked what X will make of this coming month in rehab. 59.6 - 29.

Is this a message to me to cut my losses and run? Or is it just a description of what's going on right now? Or could it be about him - that he can "disperse" with the maladaptive behavior and become whole again?

Any input is very welcome - I am firmly grounded in reality right now!

As an afterthought - I asked "What do I do about X and me?" 22.2 - 26. Any thoughts?
 
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Hi Firehorse
"Anyway, I asked what X will make of this coming month in rehab. 59.6 - 29." I feel the answer you got is in relation to X.

59 - Rehab will be a clearing away for him. A chance to sort himself out.
59.6 - It's going to work for him by keeping temptations at a distance. A chance for a fresh start.
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29 - He's been here before and so gets another chance to overcome his fears.

"What do I do about X and me?" 22.2 - 26.
22 - Show yor inner strength. This will allow your true worth to show through. Be big, bold and beautiful.
22.2 - Be brave and patient. Things will come good for you in the long term

26 - A time for great effort and achievement. Look at what has happened before, where you are at teh moment and decide the direction that is best for all .

Hope this helps with your thinking.
Mike
 
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Mike, I appreciate the conditions you've attached to the outcomes.
 

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I was hoping I was interpreting correctly, but then the doubt sets in...thank you for your time and experience with this...it really is giving me strength. I just wish I could give him some.
 

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I asked what X will make of this coming month in rehab. 59.6 - 29.


Hex 59.6 I think he has made up his mind to not only do this for himself but for you as well, he knows the danger of not complying, so he will do his best to get well.

Hex 29 suggests that he will have a hard time of it but he knows that it cannot be avoided, he must go through with it, if he is sincere then he will come out a winner.

I asked "What do I do about X and me?" 22.2 - 26.

Hex 22.2 you see him taking drugs but that is external, you have to look to the heart of this man to see his worth.

Hex 26 this hex has the idea of holding firm or holding together, like in taking care of this person, so it is saying stay together.
 

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What do I do about X and me?

22.2 Lends grace to the beard on his chin.
The beard is a superfluous ornament.

A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.

You do not need to be thinking you ought to do back flips to keep this relationship because some how the child "needs" this sort of father or because you owe him some sort of second chance. Whatever you do should not be motivated by some concern that you some how OUGHT to keep the relationship going. And you certainly don't need a second baby to care for just now.

26. Not eating at home brings good fortune.

Not having him under the same roof 24/7 maybe a good thing. Meet ouside of your home to talk. Maybe attend an
Alanon meeting togther as in...

"The superior man acquaints himself with many sayings of antiquity and many deeds of the past, in order to strengthen his character thereby."

Certainly many have gone down this road before you. I Ching seems to be encouraging you to connect with some sort of support group so you know what recovery is like and don't have to reinvent the wheel.
 

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Thank you all for your input...I realize a don't need another child, struggle with just moving on, because I do want to give him the chance for recovery, maybe holding onto hope that he can once again be the man I fell in love with...but I do know that I can proceed alone if necessary...don't want to, but I can.

Thanks again
 

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I like your second question. Looking at LiSe's reading on this hexagram, it's changing line, and the resulting hex, I think that this relationship may be an important part of your path.

From 26 "Gather the signs, store them and save them in your soul". It may offer you an opportunity to deal with some of the overarching issues you have faced (and likely will continue to face until you resolve them).

From 22: "Beauty is Qi showing." etc. I think it's important for you to cultivate your own inner strength, your Qi. Find your joy, find the things in this world that match your gifts and needs, the activities that make you feel alive and whole and vibrant.

I see line 2 as saying don't waste the time you have between now and the time you are together again. Spend every precious minute of it learning about yourself, learning about substance dependence issues and about co-dependence.

You know first hand the beauty of waiting while your baby prepares to be born, none of that has been wasted. You have some growing and blossoming to do of your own while you wait for the little one to be born, and while you wait to see what Papa does with himself while he is away! Make every minute of your wait count, rest when it's time to rest, eat when it's time to eat, and use your energy to find your joy.
 

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Two years later...

As I am searching through the hexagram index, I found this post from two years ago. I always find it useful when someone comes back and tells the forum about an outcome...so here goes...

I have a beautiful baby girl, well actually almost a toddler now. I did allow her father back in my life for a while...until he repeated his actions, then I asked him to leave. So, does that mean after his repeated OD on Rx drugs, I dispersed with him, so it was a message for me, not about him?

He plays a very very small part in my daughter's life, which is probably for the best. Afterwards, I did find out all sort of lies, etc. It's like he was living a double life.

Looking back is much easier to interpret than going forward!
 

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Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl! so nice to hear from you ....

too bad about the rx drugs and your partner, and yes, it does seem the YI was speaking to you. interesting, isnt it? Its as if you asked how he would do in rehab because you felt you needed him so much ( understandably)...but the yi said "forget it, get away from him, he can be trouble"

best of evrything to you
 

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Firehorse

Your bravery has shone through. Congratulations.



Mike
 

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