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[val75]

Hello all,

I still can't get my ex out of my mind. It's been a few months since I last heard from him. So I asked 'what are the chances that he will contact me at some stage in the future?'.

I don't know what to make of it, the line seems auspicious but hexagram 60 is about limitations.

Any insight would be appreciated.

 

[yxeli]

Hi,

ah yes, the ex. i know the feeling well!

this could be read a number of ways, but im just gonna thro the most common way right out for starters; the yijing may be politely asking you to restrain yourself. Answer me this: how many times have you consulted the i ching about this particular subject? if the truthfull answer is 'alot', then i'd take the above interpretation: ''stop right where you are missy! if you really want to master this situation you have to master yourself first!''

it's the hardest thing to do sometimes. and with regards to your question, i would say that 'self restraint' is about recognising your daydreams towards him, recognise the amount of memories that are resurfacing, recognise the emotions your feeling, and restrain them. take control of your actions. that includes nipping that first fantasy in the morning in the bud. become aware of the limitations of this situation. right now he aint around. thats a limitation right there. yi often seems to whack me around the head when i need to get right back down to the earth.

if however this is your first ask around this situation in a few months, i would imagine Yi is asking you not to be too demanding of this guy. dont lay down the law and then not lay down some well founded laws for yourself first. in this case i always see this line as the line of 'you cant ask from another what your not willing to ask of yourself' type scenario. its a method of recognising your own limits, sticking to them, and by doing so you will naturally show this guy where your coming from, but as soon as you start setting down the rules for anothers behaviour without taking into account your own , this can cause problems.


Hope this was somewhat usefull!
Yx

 

[val75]

Thanks yxeli,

It is definitely a situation of the earlier scenario as I have relentlessly asked the Yi for insight in regards to this situation so I think the most common way of interpreting this reading as you pointed out applies to my query…basically what you said:

"...i would say that 'self restraint' is about recognising your daydreams towards him, recognise the amount of memories that are resurfacing, recognise the emotions your feeling, and restrain them. take control of your actions. that includes nipping that first fantasy in the morning in the bud. become aware of the limitations of this situation. right now he aint around. thats a limitation right there. yi often seems to whack me around the head when i need to get right back down to the earth"

…that's so spot on! Thank you!

 

[yxeli]

the thing that really helped me get back on track after the same experience your going through was with yi's help. BUT, and the big BUT is this: You must always ask from YOUR perspective. numero uno. your number one in this instance, not what he's thinking, not what he's doing, not wanting yi to tell you that he loves you, that he misses you, that eventually you'll be reunited like in a majestic scene from a movie.

you will always be left wondering about yis response if your asking 'how does so and so feel about me', 'how does he see me', etc etc etc....... why? because you cant back it up with experience. when you ask with YOU being the main subject of the question, then, you can see if yis response is correlating with your direct experience.

you need to bring it right back home girl. and the way to do it through yi anyway is be completely self centered. and i mean that in a positive way!

take the power back. ask questions like 'how should I be viewing the situation between me and ...' 'What should MY position be towards ...' and my all time favourite : 'what is the next step that's best for ME regarding this relationship'

all i can say is that i know exactly what your going through. Whether or not you guys get back together, who knows? all you have to work with is YOUR day, YOUR time. start asking questions to yi that will assert YOUR sovereignty over YOUR life. and dont ask anymore about his perspective, or what might happen down the line. Keep it real. keep it present. in fact, through yis responses about YOU, you can figure out the lay of the land between you and him.

ME ME ME!!




yx

 

[val75]

thanks yxeli,

I followed your advice and this is what I got:

how should I be viewing the situation between x and I? 39 Unchanging

what should my position be towards x? 16 unchanging

what is the next step that's best for ME regarding this relationship? 16 unchanging

Now hexagram 39 does not surprise me at all since we have not had any contact since around Feb, and unfriended him on fb…but I cannot see what the Yi is trying to tell me with hexagram 16…

Interesting how all hexagrams came up as unchanging and hexagram 16 came up twice…hmm