61.1.2>20 Inner Truth, Think About It???

[dancing white ferret]

Yey, it's Monday... LOL, JK! Well, I have decided to start off on a new foot this month, and focus more on me and less on Mr. X's in my life. After numerous admonishments from the Yi for asking inappropriate relationship questions, I finally accepted that it apparently is just not the right time for love for me. And the certain someone I am interested in, well, the Yi hasn't given me a clear answer about that one, probably because there isn't a clear answer. It has implied a few times that I can not have what I want, at least not right now for sure... So, I finally resolved to ask something about just me, not related to any relationship. Something that would give me some perspective to get my life headed in the right direction. So, I asked,

"What insight do I need to help me make the most of the coming month?" and I got 54.3.4>11.

Aaaaaaaaaaah!!! Really?! I'm trying to get away from thinking about this stuff, and the Yi gives me 54.3.4>11... So, I thought maybe this has to do with some other area of my life, like work or something or just a broad sweeping statement about settling for second best. So, I followed up with,

" What area of my life is the 54.3.4>11 reading about... and got 54 UC!

It is about relationships!!! .... Why Yi, are you bringing this up?! ... Well, it does seem like that is what the Yi is getting at here to me. It's about settling for men who will not make me queen, and I am a Leo, so there is really no other way to go... So, I read this as the Yi saying I will have offers to settle as a concubine, but could wait for something better. And, should, because I know I won't be happy as a "concubine." I think this is pretty clear, but am of course open to other takes on this. The Yi keeps pointing out I should wait here, so it is clearly not an ideal time for relationships here. And, although I of course welcome insights on any of the above, I think that one is pretty clear. I put it more for background, and the real question is about the following...

"What is now the right time for?" and got 61.1.2>20?

"How are these readings related to X?" and got 8.1>3

I wonder if this is related to the current Mr. X in my life, the one I have become a little gaga over... I can't quite make out what the Yi thinks of them... So, I'm reading the 61.1.2>20 as this is a time for contemplation. Not to have any hidden plans (line 1), and line 2 is kind of saying just be yourself, and other like minded individuals will respond. 8.1>3 seems to mean be sincere and honest... They both seem to point to a need for authenticity. A need to be devoted to the truth. Not totally clear on what I should be doing here, or what this has to do with the current Mr. X in my life. Line 1 for hex 61 is particularly perplexing for me. I've received that line before, and never really know what to make of it really. Always feels like I am missing something with that one. I feel like the Yi has brought me back to the same line of questioning I wanted to get away from... Any insights here are welcome... Thanks in advance for reading this, and for your replies:bows:.

 

[Trojina]

54 doesn't have to be about relationships...no more than any other hexagram.

If its a general life question it may indicate you can't actually have your agenda first on the list....you are playing second fiddle to others agenda....which could mean in your aspirations, goals anything, you aren't the one who is choosing right now, you are the one who has to fit in. 54.4 says delaying finding the right place for you is okay.....that really doesn't have to be about men you are in a relationship with

Shared readings is often a very misleading place to hang out because there are plenty of people who will tell you 54 is all about your relationships with men. You didn't ask about that, you asked a general question.

When Yi gave you 54 unchanging it wasn't saying 'this is about relationships'. Why would you think that ? I think it was just re emphasising you can't have your way so much at the moment. You are better off looking for ways to fit in, looking for ways to adapt to your environment now rather than leading your own agenda so to speak. Thinking of your issues with housemates this may be advice around that...not forever...but for now you get more benefit, you progress further by adapting to others ways that may be very unfamiliar to you.

The marrying maiden goes into her husbands family and has to adapt...she would feel strange and at a disadvantage for a while. Thats the symbolism......doesn't mean it has to be about getting married or 'relationships' as such.

In any new job/place one is often in a 54 position even if of high status.

 

[answeredquestions]

"What insight do I need to help me make the most of the coming month?" and I got 54.3.4>11.

Hi, I have received this answer when asking a similar question. My question was "how can I make the best of this trip?". I was traveling with a close friend, who in the reading represented the wife or the first lady in command. She called the shots. We were heading south to meet up and stay with three friends whom two are male. She has a wonderful magnetizing way about her, and she is smart and interesting to boot. I knew when I got the reading this was saying, TAKE THE PASSENGER SEAT, which I literly did. There was no way I could have actually been "the star" in the situation. I was second and decided to go along with it and help her out as much as possible.

As for the 11, I think that represented the energy that was at hand for our trip. (what I was working with), a whole lot of dynamic interactions between all of us, pushes and pulls and a lot of great ideas formulated.

We were laying around on the couches in the morning before everyone else got up. My friend started talking about the painting on the wall. We talked about it for a good 45 minutes, just picking it apart and having ideas about it. It was just an abstract Jackson Pollock type picture, but our energy was playing with each other. Heaven came down to earth, things got flip flopped, and a lot was born of the situation..... Because I took the role of "the second". Also, I will say, that people noticed this, and it was for the good.

Hope this helps.
Personally, I don't think it is about Mr. X, but maybe more to do with your living arrangement or social interactions.

I need to do a general reading like this.. for the year... good idea.

 

[dancing white ferret]

Thank you both for sharing... I suppose it could be about my life in general. I thought this was mainly about relationships because the question I asked was "What area of my life is this reading referring to?" and I thought since the Marrying Maiden speaks aobut marriage it may be referring to romatic relationships... but I suppose it could be referring to this theme in my whole life. Relationships are where this second place/wrong placement theme is the biggest problem though. I have to admit, it is a role I have been pushed into generally, and I know I am capable of being more than just ancillary help at work and in the home etc.... It is people who are insecure, control freaks, jealous people, or with men who just have other interests that come first etc. So, I read this if anything as saying the exact opposite, although I see now where you are seeing this as go with the subservient position. I read this as saying don't let yourself settle or be pushed into a 2 position. But, I suppose it could be referring to a need to adapt to the situation, and be 2 for a little longer. This could be. Makes sense with some of the other readings I received recently. Could be work related as well... I have more thoughts, but will have to write them out later, I'm off to work:bows

 

[Trojina]

Thank you both for sharing... I suppose it could be about my life in general. I thought this was mainly about relationships because the question I asked was "What area of my life is this reading referring to?" and I thought since the Marrying Maiden speaks aobut marriage it may be referring to romatic relationships... but I suppose it could be referring to this theme in my whole life. Relationships are where this second place/wrong placement theme is the biggest problem though. I have to admit, it is a role I have been pushed into generally, and I know I am capable of being more than just ancillary help at work and in the home etc.... It is people who are insecure, control freaks, jealous people, or with men who just have other interests that come first etc. So, I read this if anything as saying the exact opposite, although I see now where you are seeing this as go with the subservient position. I read this as saying don't let yourself settle or be pushed into a 2 position. But, I suppose it could be referring to a need to adapt to the situation, and be 2 for a little longer. This could be. Makes sense with some of the other readings I received recently. Could be work related as well... I have more thoughts, but will have to write them out later, I'm off to work:bows

I could read 54.3 as saying that if you had directly asked about a romantic relationship etc but you asked simply how to make the best of the coming month.

Also worth noting that 54 can come up even when one is in a high status situation..or even a leadership role...it isn't always to do with outer status but how one feels in a situation.

For example one may be in a leadership but have to bow to the demands, ways , customs of others. If the prime Minister cast the I Ching no doubt he'd get 54 sometimes...or even the Queen ! I'm working on getting the Queen interested in the I Ching . I think I shall be her personal consultant


...for the right money of course

 

[dancing white ferret]

Oh, yeah, that totally makes sense... And in terms of AQ's analogy, like it is saying don't be a backseat driver. Thanks Trojan, that is exactly what is going on here:bows:

 

[dancing white ferret]

Yes, I've been getting 56 a lot too, which kind of has a similar vibe. Has been a lot of me adapting to other people, and I suppose that is just the way it is when you are in a group situation. Especially at work... So, thank you, that does clear up the whole 54 question... What about 61.1.2>20? Any ideas about what I should be doing here?
Thanks again:bows:

 

[answeredquestions]

61.1.2>20
The inner truth of what you are comtemplating?

When you ponder something and it is rolling around in your mind being shaped and digested, make sure that you are 'seeing' it as for what it truely is?

Line 1- ‘Guided, good fortune. There is another, no peace.’
Do not allow the extra debris around your thought to affect the truth in the center (debris could be of your own or from outside people - something that molds your thoughts and hinders you from seeing the truth)

Line 2:- 'Calling crane in the shadows,
Its young one responds in harmony.
I have a beloved wine cup,
I will share myself, simply pouring it out.'
As Hilary says: "A single act of profound sharing". When making connections, base them in the truth. Have them grow and come out of an inner truth from within. Let them pour out of you, share them (the truth's you find in the center from Line 1).



roll what I have said around in your head and see if it has a center that sticks with you. Throw everything else away! Take care,AQ

 

[dancing white ferret]

Thanks AQ... Nothing sticking just yet, but I'm sure I will figure it out. It usually takes a little time for things to click. So, I will probably be rolling that one around for a while. thanks again:bows:

 

[Lavalamp]

"What insight do I need to help me make the most of the coming month?"

54.3
You will damage your self esteem if you sell yourself short. Don't settle for less than you can really feel proud of.

54.4
When the right time comes, then it will be your time. Patience.

>11.
Be at harmony with your environment, and great things will come to you.

- LL

 

[dancing white ferret]

Thanks Lavalamp:bows:... I agree there is a strong warning there to maintain one's respect, and I was starting to feel a little small. Yes, it is a tricky middle ground to find here. I am adapting to others' demands, ways, customs etc. etc. as Trojan and AQ have pointed out would be a good idea here, and it has worked out well. But, I am definitely finding that there is a need to establish boundaries with people here as well. It would be easy in this position to sell oneself short or end up with little self esteem. Better to maintain one's self esteem and wait for their time to rule... So, my experience correlates with this interpretation... that there is a need to maintain one's self esteem and respect while in a supportive position, but also to adapt to others, but it's a slippery slope, and I think this hexagram is also illustrating a need to do this in a way that maintains the peace.

I tend to be very accomadating and even keeled, and have a very sunny disposition, and for some reason this gives some people the impression that I'm some idiot peon. I will usually adapt as much as possible to others in an effort to contribute to the harmony of the group, but that's all it is. It is not a signal for expoitation!... Anyway, I don't know why some people interpret my behavior this way... So, this reminds me of hex 10 a bit... They start treading my tail so to speak, but they think they are treading on a mouse's tail or something... I'm a Leo, (not to mention Moon oppo Pluto with Aries moon) but people often miss this about me. They don't even realize it, but holy crap, they are treading on a lion's tail! It is a rude awakening when they get a good bite and find themself pinned to the floor by a giant cat paw! But, as much as they deserve to be strongly put in their place for trying to wield their imaginary power over me, it doesn't create any kind of peace, which was the original goal. So, I'm trying a different approach... is working very well. I gave a few playful nips out yesterday, just enough to maintain respect without severely injuring anyone. And have maintained my willingness to cooperate and learn their ways, like I'm in a foreign land. Feels like I'm on another planet sometimes... But that is a whole 'nother story....

 

[meng]

Howdy DWF,

This may seem slightly like a curved ball, but I'll throw the pitch anyway and see if it makes sense for you to take a swing at it.

The big picture from atop that h20 tower might say we have to assume responsibility for where we are before we can see a way ahead to where we're going. If we design a plan or path ahead based on seeing ourselves as a helpless slave of our life's circumstances and the will and actions of other people, we're accepting a precedent that is based on incomplete or false information (61.1). You know the old saying: insanity is repeating what you've already done but expecting different results? To really set upon a new path based on your own tao, you first must understand the part you have played in getting to where you now are. That is the part you have the power to change. You can't change how others think or what they choose to do, only on what you think and what you choose to do. Even asking the Yi what to do is placing yourself in a 54 position again. But we know, if we do what we think the Yi is telling us to do, we still must assume the responsibility for doing it. Luckily, the Yi is advising you to listen to your own inner voice, which hides in the shade, and which you can trust.

 

[dancing white ferret]

Thanks Meng, I have been thinking along those lines, and I'm starting to see how this happens. In part, it is just the nature of my position. I am in training, which is very 54ish. I am already adapting as much as possible to everyone around me. But, my inner truth tells me not to take this too far. I have to maintain my own individuality, and I can't just become a doormat.
Thanks again:bows: