61>15 self improvement question

[viviank]

I have asked this question because I realised that there is a pattern in my life repeating quite a lot. So I thought I must doing something wrong. I want the chance to recognise it and correct it

the question is Why this is keep happening in my life?
and the anwser was 61.1, 2, 3, 5, 6.>15

I was stumbled! Five moving lines! Maybe it's not one thing after all!!!!
I always thought that hex 61 is how we perceive the world with our own means of understanding. But Rosada somewhere said that hex 61 is, what is happening in the outer world is a reflection of our own inner intension and I thought that sounds relevant to the context of my question. But when I am looking these 5 moving lines Idon't know where to start. I also had the thought that maybe I should look on the one line that is not moving. Maybe I am doing all the lines apart from line 4 and that's the problem.
Could you help on this one?

Thank you

Viv

 

[pocossin]

Why does this keep happening in my life?
61 >15

You haven't left the nest. That is, you are recreating the pattern of early home life.

 

[viviank]

First of all thank you for your time.
You shake me up with what you write Pocossin! You see I am strugling the last few years with family issues and most of all to determine my position to the family. Things are better the past six months but I would have never thought that I am projecting the "family" to other parts of my life. But when I saw your anwser it made a click. Sure I have to ponder on this and how I am doing it. Great insight. Thanks! A question: When you say early life you mean when I was a kid like 9 or 10 years old?

I did a follow up question: What is the best approach to overcome this pattern? To leave the nest?
Anwser: 13.3>25

I know that I have first to understand the 61 hex but from what I read 13.3 has to do with trust issues and that I am alienating my self from others. Any commends would be welcome

 

[viviank]

I just found this about 13.3 written from wanderer:
"I would just add that you need to have some faith. Why throw if you do not have faith that things will work out as they should? Why hope if you do not have faith that things will work out for the best? And most of all have faith that any person would be lucky to know you. You simply need to work on what is inside (peace) and the sunshine will draw others to you."

Then the spirit is "Show me the faith (to your self)"?

 

[Trojina]

the question is Why this is keep happening in my life?
and the anwser was 61.1, 2, 3, 5, 6.>15

5 moving lines is no big deal, I would just see the two hexagrams as a sentence and give preponderance to hexagram 15.

In 61 our inner truth looms large....we feel things big on the inside. Your feelings feel big to you. Hexagram 15 counsels you to take a more down to earth view, where you and your feelings are only part of the picture.

Things are as they are and you need to deal with them as they are. You might have intense feelings about the significance of certain events in your life and whilst they are undoubtedly 'true' to you, there is also how things actually are on the outside.

I see this cast as a call for balance. 15 asks for balance. Your inner truth is rather top heavy, so many lines, perhaps you need to direct attention more outside yourself ?


And this pattern you see repeating....are you sure that is all down to you ? For example if a person said to themselves "oh why can I never keep a job for long ....what am I doing wrong ?" in a time of great economic instability in their country they would be internalising, taking as their 'inner truth', that which was actually occurring in outer life. There are outer circumstances to adapt to. It really isn't all about what we create in our head. Some of it is of course, but I think 15 reminds us it's not all about us ...there is an outer reality beyond the intense inner experiences we have. That's what I think this reading is reminding you of.

Perhaps actual facts in your life have made it so that your life goes a certain way ?

When so many lines move the relating hexagram is important....Read the advice of 15


As I don't think there are these repeating patterns to 'deal with', I think you can take them more lightly and just have a bit more inner clarification about what is yours to deal with and what isn't.

Hence I don't think the 13.3 question was really necessary ...You are building defences against inner patterns that you believe are all yours.

 

[pocossin]

When you say early life you mean when I was a kid like 9 or 10 years old?

Much younger -- when the part of yourself that is hidden in the forgetfulness of Lethe was formed and that you cannot remember, although you can know it by the consequences you observe.

 

[viviank]

Tronjina,
I see what you mean, you are saying that I am somewhat hypersensitive, that feelings , my feelings, are like a wave and that is true. But maybe that is a lilttle childish on my behalf like toddlers that get exited too easy and here come Possocin. That's how I am. Some times I am overwelmed and I am looking "for the exit". While you are in such a state is difficult to see the whole picture. So I have to find ways to handle the situation. To release the energy.

The image of MODESTY.

Thus the superior man reduces that which is too much,
And augments that which is too little.
He weighs things and makes them equal.

That is indeed a good advice to deal with that aspect.

The pattern I see in my life is concerning not only my love life but my career as well. I grew up in a family that women are n't as significant as men, and their needs are underestimated. That is inner truth to me and my family, something you inherit and carry all your life. But as a person I am free spirited, authentic and straightforward and don't fit in too well too well. I always had a hard time to do what I want because I asked directly while other women had a more diplomatic way. What is more I work for the family bussiness. So family all over the place.

I say pattern because differenet people in same situations treat me exactly the some. And I have noticed that now but I remember some cases 15 years ago. The pattern is that I am always a second choice in my work and my love life. They prefer someone else. They don't underestimate me in manners but in the end when choice has to be made is not me. And believe me I am good. Meaning talented, intelignet, cute, with humor, etc. And modest truly. I am not advertising my self like I did above. But when I know there is a rival - and always is- a fear is straggling my heart and by now I don't know if I am used to, or the fear is original. So the external circumstances are indeed changing through the years but the pattern stays. That's way I am thinking that I am creating it by choosing first. I mean choosing a collegue to work with, a man to flirt.

Now you see what I mean. That is my thought and I don't know if it is right. That's why I asked help from Yi

 

[Trojina]

I see what you mean, you are saying that I am somewhat hypersensitive, that feelings , my feelings, are like a wave and that is true.

No I didn't mean that at all. Hexagram 15 is to do with simple integrity, being yourself. That's all you ever need to be. You ask about how to improve and you get 15.....The 61 here looks like you are full of intensity to change and I feel 15 is calling you back to simplicity.

If anything needs to change it is only you might need to be more who you are. 61.6 thinks all this sincerity to be better will lead somewhere...but hexagram 15 calls you back to your true nature. Rather than try to adopt false behaviour patterns just be yourself.

 

[viviank]

Thanks Tronjina, point taken. Be yourself!!! Sounds confortable!

 

[Trojina]

...however this isn't a cast that one can say 'it means this'...I think there are many ways to see it. I was just offering my view but if you find Tom's view connects with your feeling on it then do go with that and explore that.

Readings are very personal so you have to go with what connects with you

 

[viviank]

I will ponder both of them for sure! Thank you anyway for you contribution!