63.1.3.4.6 to 12

[chocolatecookie]

Hi all,

I really need your help with this.
I know I'm always asking questions, and don't contribute..well, I don't feel confident answering others questions..I don't feel I'm that good at this..hope you don't mind.

Well I have a tough time at work with my colleagues. It's not the first time I'm asking about them, but now I got this answer, I'm not sure how to take it. I rarely get 4 changing lines and that's confusing.
Some sources say you should read the upper non changing line. What are your experiences with 4 changing lines?

My question was what to do to stop their bad behavior? - hexagram 63.1.3.4.6 to 12
Since I came to this place (almost a year) they are doing very nasty things to me and I really did nothing to encourage that. Now this almost looks like a war between me and them. They are crossing every line there is and it's just disgusting.
I don't have a problem with my job, I like it and I'm doing well, so quiting is not an option. Also I don't think that escalating to the management would help.

Please help me with this answer.

Thank you

 

[diamanda]

hat to do to stop their bad behavior? 63.1.3.4.6 > 12
Pause at first and don't play their game. You will then spend a very long time battling this Demon Country war and get exhausted. At some point the war appears lost and someone escapes on a leaky boat, and feels like drowning. I'm afraid you can't stop their bad behaviour even if you fight for years. 12 says 'saying no' and keeping away from nastiness. So I guess you'll have to leave at some point. The sooner you leave, the better condition you'll be in.

 

[chocolatecookie]

Thank you diamanda!
They aren't nice people but I never thought it will be that bad to make me leave.
Yi was mostly positive when I started here. It did mention some troubles but I thought it will be temporary.
You don't see anything temporary here, meaning it can be resolved?

 

[diamanda]

When a nastiness war starts at work it never gets resolved, in my experience, unless someone leaves. The only hope could be if you have already been through a "3-year war", for example if you had to struggle to get this job. If you already had to go through hell. Then the solution would simply be to start saying 'no' to these people and stay away from them (12). If this is not the case and the lines haven't already happened, then I'm afraid it looks like really tough times ahead.

If your casts sounded to your benefit when you started working there, then for sure this position will be good on your CV and will be good for you in the long run, in one way or another.

 

[chocolatecookie]

Thank you diamanda!
Well yes I did have to strugle to get this job. I posted couple of my readings here when I was looking for a job. It was a long battle. And it took me 3 years exactly. I invested so much time and energy and into education to get here.
I'm little disapointed by people but that's life I guess. I was hoping I finally found a good place.
I will try to stay from them, but that's what I'm doing anyway. They seem to be 'obsessed' with me and won't give me peace.

 

[soshin]

Hi chocolatecookie,

I have to second what diamanda already told you, but in your situation I would ask the Yi WHY they are so obsessed with you and won't give you peace.

Ask about their motivation. In the Yi's answer there may be a hint about what YOU can do to go to the roots of the problem. Are they just nasty by nature or is there something you are doing or not doing which get's them crazy?

Warmly,

Soshin :bows:

 

[diamanda]

Thank you diamanda!
Well yes I did have to strugle to get this job. I posted couple of my readings here when I was looking for a job. It was a long battle. And it took me 3 years exactly. I invested so much time and energy and into education to get here.
I'm little disapointed by people but that's life I guess. I was hoping I finally found a good place.
I will try to stay from them, but that's what I'm doing anyway. They seem to be 'obsessed' with me and won't give me peace.

In a way I'm glad it took you 3 years of struggle to get where you are! In that case the cast means don't let them influence what you've acquired. Staying away from them includes not trying to make them behave better (which was your original question), just keep your distance and don't engage with them at all.

 

[chocolatecookie]

Hi chocolatecookie,

I have to second what diamanda already told you, but in your situation I would ask the Yi WHY they are so obsessed with you and won't give you peace.

Ask about their motivation. In the Yi's answer there may be a hint about what YOU can do to go to the roots of the problem. Are they just nasty by nature or is there something you are doing or not doing which get's them crazy?

Warmly,

Soshin :bows:

Hi Soshin,
thank you for helping.
they are just bad people, that's it. There are no excuses for what they are doing.
I don't like asking too many question, I think Yi told me pretty much everything about them. So here's my last reading, a month ago, very similar - I asked what to do about them?
Received hexagram 24.4 to 51.
24 is Return and line 4 is "Walking in the midst of others, one returns alone." 51 is Shock/Thunder.
I think this is also about keeping the distance and not compromising who I am.
What do you think about this reading?

In a way I'm glad it took you 3 years of struggle to get where you are! In that case the cast means don't let them influence what you've acquired. Staying away from them includes not trying to make them behave better (which was your original question), just keep your distance and don't engage with them at all.

Thank you. I do think that's the best but it's so hard when they're attacking me in every shitty way they can think of. I will try to keep that distance.
Can you also share what you think about 24.4 to 51?