64.1.4 to 41

[chocolatecookie]

Hi all

I asked - should I contact X?

This is job related. X is one of the few people I know from the industry I would like to break into, and I need help with that.
The reason I doubt is that he was very rude and arrogant last time we spoke.
But since I don't have many options I asked if I should contact him again for some help.

I think line 1 is a no, and line 4 I should be determined a do it.
But then I'm thinking line 1 is maybe talking about that what already happened.

What do you think?

Thanks for your help.

 

[diamanda]

should I contact X? 64.1.4 > 41

I agree with you, line 64.1 doesn't sound good.
Line 64.4 shows a very long struggle, and 41 shows loss and very few resources.
I don't think this person is worth your time, he won't help you.
Try to find another solution!

 

[maggie may]

Are you asking how it will go now if you approach this person? How it will go with your current perceptions and fears is different from how best to approach the situation.

You are water flowing through challenges and meeting the obstacles with flexibility. Line one is about beginnings, intentions, how you start a conversation. It is a yin line when it should be yang. It is magnetic with line four, which is yang. Line four is the place of help or assistance.To me this speaks of your intentions and what you expect to get from the 'help.' It is out of balance.

I see this as telling you that with your current way of looking at the situation, you won't get much out of it. You need to be clear (the outer trigram is fire and its attribute is clarity and clinging). What are you asking for, what do you expect, and what is the best way to achieve it. Most people do not mind sharing their insights about how they got into a field or talking about what they do. This can be encouraged by showing some admiration for what they have done. You also need to be clear what kind of help you want this person to give you. Do you want ideas, inspiration, advice, introductions, leads, or what?

There may be a valid way to approach this person for a specific kind of help. I do not feel your approach and intentions are clear. Decide how you want this person to help and then explore the best way to achieve what you want. I see it as the before completion or unfinished business is with you and your intentions, approach, and expectations.

All the best,
Maggie

 

[chocolatecookie]

Thank you diamanda and maggie may.

I didn't ask how it will go if I approach him, although I sometimes ask that kind of question. My question was should I contact him or not, meaning is he someone who can help me in this situation or not.
I approached him in a positive manner, respectful, and said I'm looking for advice thinking as you said he won't mind sharing his insights. He knows I'm struggling with this a long time now, but he didn't want to share any knowledge with me. And that's all I asked for. He was arrogant, trying to cut down my confidence and overbearing. I really didn't deserve that kind of treatment so I can't find any excuse for his behavior. I'm angry at him, and obviously that also won't do me any good, I feel 41 is also about decreasing my anger towards him.
I know my intentions were clear, if he misunderstood them, that has to do with his perception on things.
If he didn't trust me, he could have handled it differently.
But since I am aware that there could be something I don't know, it could just be miscommunication, after all, when 64.1 changes we have hexagram 38 that has to do with opposites and misunderstandings, I was willing to give this another shot, that's why I asked if I should contact him again, or just try to find someone else who can give me new ideas.
If we look at first line in hexagram 38, it talks about not chasing lost horse, letting him return on his own accord, I was thinking letting this for now, maybe in time we could come to some agreement.
Is this the right approach to this line, 38.1?
And then 64.4 is about being strong and fighting.
I will have to think about it.

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