7.2-2 Boundaries

[Lodestar]

I have spoken to a friend of quite an original project I've been doing for some time now. Then recently we met and they spoke to me of 'this great idea' they've had for a project. Much to my amazement, it was word for word, my project that I had shared details of..I tried to bring it up, saying 'hey that's exactly like my..' but was firmly brushed aside. This has happened to me several times in the past, I carefully build up trust in someone, but always seem to gravitate towards highly competitive types who leave me maimed on the roadside. I feel disappointed at this person that they have behaved this way, I held them in higher esteem. But I'm really, really, really disappointed in myself for choosing yet another unreliable and competitive confidant. I would have been happy to have them join in, I was thinking along those lines for a future part of the project. - but now the energy of what they are doing reveals a side I'd hoped wasn't there & feels so bad..

I asked iching how can I deal with this? 7.2-2.. I just can't understand this..

I'm also scared, but I don't want to back down yet again... yet I know how any challenge could easily be twisted into me being sensitive, or they will deny it flatly and shame me. I need this to stop repeating, it's killing me.

How should I deal with this person? Retreat? 1.1.4-57
At the moment I just can't see the application of this either.

How do I need to change to stop this dynamic happening? 14 great possession
Value myself?

Any help appreciated :bows:

 

[peter2610]

Hi Lodestar,

7,2 - 2 This reflects a situation of ongoing conflict and difficulty, but you have not been defeated. The I Ching is asking you to conduct yourself as a commander - be aware of your options in any situation that develops, and try to be aware of his options AS HE SEES THEM. Many would quite understandably seek to withdraw from a situation such as this but the I Ching is urging you to carefully proceed For now don't even challenge his claim to your work, simply ignore it, and at the next suitable opportunity present your work again - in your own name. By not challenging him directly either you will put him in a condition of uncertainty as to your intention or you will throw him into a wrong assumption of an easy victory Use your lack of further response to conceal your future moves. What you are seeking is a situation in which the creation of your work is brought to the attention of a powerful superior.This situation calls for sustained, silent determination.

How should I deal with this person: 1,1,4 - 57
1,1 Hidden Dragon - Be prepared to wait and wait keeping your intentions completely concealed. Maintain a firm politeness, but nothing more.
1,4 Wavering Fight - At the right time you will need courage and determination. Take further I Ching readings in order to be certain of your timing and direction.

Peter

 

[peter2610]

Hi Lodestar,

7,2 - 2 This reflects a situation of ongoing conflict and difficulty, but you have not been defeated. The I Ching is asking you to conduct yourself as a commander - be aware of your options in any situation that develops, and try to be aware of his options AS HE SEES THEM. Many would quite understandably seek to withdraw from a situation such as this but the I Ching is urging you to carefully proceed For now don't even challenge his claim to your work, simply ignore it, and at the next suitable opportunity present your work again - in your own name. By not challenging him directly either you will put him in a condition of uncertainty as to your intention or you will throw him into a wrong assumption of an easy victory Use your lack of further response to conceal your future moves. What you are seeking is a situation in which the creation of your work is brought to the attention of a powerful superior.This situation calls for sustained, silent determination.

How should I deal with this person: 1,1,4 - 57
1,1 Hidden Dragon - Be prepared to wait and wait keeping your intentions completely concealed. Maintain a firm politeness, but nothing more.
1,4 Wavering Fight - At the right time you will need courage and determination. Take further I Ching readings in order to be certain of your timing and direction.

Peter

 

[ginnie]

In 7.2, the leader is said to give out directives three times. This points to a future need to repeat oneself again and yet again, until it is cleared up who is actually in charge here. Don't feel defeated!

 

[Lodestar]

Thank you Peter. I decided to do as you said..
partly, I dread confrontation, but also I think the gentler approach is best when dealing with strong characters like this.. They will always overpower in any stand-off or call for fairness, so why fight a battle I can't win.
I think it's one of those icky situations, in artistic communities, where people appropriate and at most will say they were 'inspired by' ..

Thank-you Ginnie, I will try and find a time to drop into conversation reminders about the times I shared my project ideas.. see can I raise awareness and acknowledgement that way first..