8, unchanging; How to work on what has been spoilt? 4.1.2.4>21???

[sevilla_spain]

Hello everybody!

I need some help about these lines. My question was related with a girl I would like to have as my partner. However, I've been watching indulgently problems caused by my father (universe, god, situations, mutual friends, ...), and I thought that the relationship was over for sure.

So, I consulted the I-Ching: What is the best thing I could do for my relationship with her, please? And ...Here it! I received Hexagram 18, unchanging.

Repair? Is the Yi pulling my leg?!! ... Hmm, well, ok, ok.. this's wonderful!!!

What is the best way to rebuild my relationship with her, please?

hexagram 4.1.2.4> 21?? Does the Master said: "I will not teach a man who is not eager to learn"??? Do I need help??

Does that say that to be with her I resolve myself (4.1), and to not be wrong to ask for help (4.2), see other reviews (4.4) and eliminate obstacles (21)?

Other explanations of this forum (which I appreciate):

4 "describes someone who doesn't know what to do and because the person cannot handle the situation any love interest will not succeed."

4.1 "does not bode well generally, and probably will lead you to failure, but one that can be overcome in the future in another way, a way attained by decreasing what you and increasing what others need."

4.2 "says the kid looks great enjoying his own life, and it is good to consider what even a little guy might be able to contribute to the group"

4.4 "I see it as a situation where one is acting without having enough experience to do so. One is not up to the situation."

21 "make clear decisions to keep it clean."

I hope you can understand me, I'm not native English (quotes are google translator or webs) ! Thanks for your help!! :bows:

 

[blue_angel]

4, line 1- release your mind. Your thoughts may be negative right now or you may be trying to grasp this situation and fix it. However, it may not all be up to you to do. Let go. Rest your mind. Regain your balance and inner peace.

Line 2- you're learning, you're gaining needed experience. Its ok. You are generous at heart. You are capable of achievement. Learn what you need to. Experience what you need to.

Line 4- you are holding on too tight to this relationship and repairing it. Let go. Free your mind. Trust its going to be ok. Think positive. Believe you're in the right place at the right time.

(21)- is where you are, trying to bite through, get to the core of this
trouble you are having with this break up.

(4)- can refer to your need to learn and experience or a relationship that
has not reached maturity. Perhaps even a problem in the relationship that has not reached maturity.

(18)- working on what has been spoiled. What are the details of that which was spoiled in the relationship? This could also be stating, the relationship is spoiled, work on yourself.

I am sorry I can not give you a more enlightening reading. It may be best to rest, recover, trust that everything will be ok, and then come back to ask a question. After you are feeling balanced and at peace. Accepting the way things are, then you can ask "what is best for me to do now?" Or "what can I understand about my relationship with (name)?"
Depending on your answers, go from there.

Best wishes,

Blue_Angel

 

[blue_angel]

Your English is just fine.

 

[sevilla_spain]

Thanks Blue_Angel!!! Your interpretation makes perfect sense in light of the situation and my thoughts about it. I can not tell you how much this helps. .. Feel much more confident now.

Yeah, I have been studying Tao, Reiki, Paulo Coelhos, Carlos Castaneda, J. Krishnamurti, Robin S. Sharma, Peaceful Warrior ... and I Ching for months.

Because this relationship was more spiritual than physical, we were attracted to each other, despite problems that arose. I'm a Pisces and She is a Sagittarius, in good times and in bad. So, I Ching told me "release your mind", "you're learning", "you are holding on too tight to this relationship ", ... as you well said. :bows: :bows: :bows:

I've been looking for balance and peace a long time,... i'm learning!!!

(My English is copy and paste after seeing similar expressions, , thanks)

Thank you so much for the reading/interpretation!!! And best wishes too!!!

 

[sevilla_spain]

After I am feeling balanced and at peace, I ask the I ching "what can I understand about my relationship with X?"

59.2.3>53


59.2 I read Dobro's thread, the interpretations of this line, and I loved every post of it!!!:bows: :bows: :bows:

I feel like "dispersed one" right now , "confused and unintegrated", with loss of any normal sense of 'personal space' or safe boundaries. I dissolve myself and evolve to another support system.

59.3 Hilary's interpretation is "get rid of anything you think you stand for right now, you won't lose anything by extending a hand."

I'll let the maestro, my inner being, guide me (I'm leaving behind the ego and rejection), helping others, as I have always done.

So, I'll can achieve to also the restoration of health and happiness gradually, progressively (53).

Thanks everybody, above all to Blue_Angel!!!!