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I posted a question yesterday regarding a relationship and i think i know what i need to do
I asked the Yi if i should email my ex from time to time and just let her know how I am going and ask her the same

I recieved 9.5 changing to 26
Its seems positive, would very much appreciate a second opinion

Thankyou for your time

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The answer is 'yes' in the context of restraint, it's not 'yes' in the context of 'go for it!'
 

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The answer is 'yes' in the context of restraint, it's not 'yes' in the context of 'go for it!'

Absolutely ! Well put. (ahem were you using 26, the relating hex here, i think so, lol)
 

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Absolutely ! Well put. (ahem were you using 26, the relating hex here, i think so, lol)

I wasn't, no. :) But if I *were* using 26 in the picture, it would be problematic, right? It would mean something like applying strong restraint (26) to a light restraint (9) situation, which is difficult to image. So I'd have to reach for something like: the reason the prognosis is so positive here is cuz you're restraining the restraint, which means allowing sth to happen (but not too much, cuz after all we're dealing with restraint here).
 

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I wasn't, no. :) But if I *were* using 26 in the picture, it would be problematic, right? It would mean something like applying strong restraint (26) to a light restraint (9) situation, which is difficult to image. So I'd have to reach for something like: the reason the prognosis is so positive here is cuz you're restraining the restraint, which means allowing sth to happen (but not too much, cuz after all we're dealing with restraint here).

Ooh that sounds complicated. I think i think of it more like a painting, a picture - hex 9 on a background of hex 26. In a situation where restraint is called (26) for Steve applies just the right amount (9) though with one line moving i'd focus more on that anyhow.
 

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So basicaly she would be interested in hearing from me but not very often at this point
would I be right is saying that.

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In response to your first question, the Yi identified the situation as one of gentle restraint, and said that in that context, connecting with somebody is a good thing to do, and that you gain thereby. But if you leap from that to assuming that your ex is 'interested in hearing from you' then you're assuming stuff you don't know. It could be, for instance, that it's useful for both of you to stay in touch occasionally for reasons other than 'being interested in' the other person. For a sense of continuity, for example, or for a sense of supportive network, or just for the reassurance that you don't hate each other because of the split. I'm not saying she's *not* interested in hearing from you. I'm just saying that there are other explanations for why the Yi would tell you that getting in touch with her once in a while is a good thing to do.
 

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Thankyou everyone for your time

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The answer is 'yes' in the context of restraint, it's not 'yes' in the context of 'go for it!'

What exactly do you mean, either you go for it and email or you retrain yourself and don't email, you can't have it both ways.

The text indicates that he should indeed keep in touch, so the answer is yes to his query.

When you go to Hex 26 it backs up what the line is telling him to do, not to stay at home thinking but to get on the computer, take a chance and send the occasional email.
 

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Thankyou everyone again it is all very helpful
I think it will be ok to send an email every now and then the reason i asked the yi was i didnt want to seem to be a pest or i was wasting my time.
I think if there are positive things in my life going on she would be interested in hearing from me and i guess this what i would tell her about. I know that emailing her all the time would be a very stupid thing to do. I think she has feelings also but the way things are at the moment the relationship is not possible.
I think these emails will be more like progress reports and just to show her that i am interested in what happens in her life
So as a whole i think, i should stay in contact but only speak when its important and to think about the time inbetween the emails
Thankyou everybody so much. I am not going through the best time in my life at the moment and i have so more questions related to my business that i will definately need help with. I will think carefully about what i need to ask and do my consulting.

Thankyou again everybody
 

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What exactly do you mean, either you go for it and email or you retrain yourself and don't email, you can't have it both ways.

The text indicates that he should indeed keep in touch, so the answer is yes to his query.

When you go to Hex 26 it backs up what the line is telling him to do, not to stay at home thinking but to get on the computer, take a chance and send the occasional email.

No. Sending the email may be part of an act of restraint if really one wishes to do alot more.
 

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No. Sending the email may be part of an act of restraint if really one wishes to do alot more.

This line does not talk about restraint at all, it is about openly sharing with your pals, keeping nothing back, joining in.

The query was simply about sending an email nothing else and so the answer was a definite yes to that query.
 

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This line does not talk about restraint at all, it is about openly sharing with your pals, keeping nothing back, joining in.

This is an interesting thing you've highlighted here, and although I respect your take on it, I'm not sure if I agree. So I'm going to start a thread in the othe forum. Come and join in.
 

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This line does not talk about restraint at all, it is about openly sharing with your pals, keeping nothing back, joining in.

The query was simply about sending an email nothing else and so the answer was a definite yes to that query.



You think that hexagram 9 and hexagram 26 have nothing to do with restraint ? When you look at the line do you consider nothing of the hexagram it occurs in ?

What dobro was getting at I think was yes he saw sending the email as a positive thing but within the context of restaint. This person has already discussed how the relationship was not going well and we'd seen previous answers so it would seem unlikley the email would mean her instant return. It was therefore reasonable I thought to suggest that the email may be a positive thing for the other reasons Dobro mentioned - not to jump to a conclusion she would return to him as a result of the email.

I thought this a perfectly valid and sensitive reading. Either way there is agreement that sending the emails occasionally seems a reasonable course of action.

(Sorry to discuss you in the 3rd person Steve :rolleyes:)
 

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(Sorry to discuss you in the 3rd person Steve :rolleyes:)

When the ichinguerros and ichinguistas get their teeth into something, the questioner becomes *so* third person lol. More fun than when the ichinguerros and ichinguists get their teeth into the questioner though lol.
 

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You think that hexagram 9 and hexagram 26 have nothing to do with restraint ? When you look at the line do you consider nothing of the hexagram it occurs in ?

I never consider the judgement/image of the 1st hex when it contains changing lines.

The answer in this case was 9.5 > 26 and that is all I concern myself with.
 

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