A Follow up to the Thread about multiple 2>1 readings

[Amber_Rose]

Hi everyone! I hope you are all doing well!
Not a whole lot has changed with the complicated situation I am in since my last post. N is still not speaking to me. However I am making an effort to improve things in my marriage and to put all of this mess behind me.

That said, I do think that there’s something important to be learned from this (three 2>1 readings in one day is pretty significant) so I asked yi
“What can I do to make this situation better?”
21.6>51 was the response
I’m not sure what I needed to hear, he’s not speaking to me and said nothing before he parted ways, so I asked for clarification by asking
“What is it that I need to learn from this situation?”
61.1.5.6>7 was the response.
Seeing that issues of sincerity, trust, and self deception are key, my last question was
“Show me an image of whether or not N cares about me?”
30.6>55 was the answer

21.6 is telling me that I need to face up to a hard truth or else suffer pretty serious consequences.

61.1.5.6>7 is confusing because of the 5th line. I’m thinking it’s about once again seeing the situation for what it is and discerning who is sincere and who isn’t. That I should realize that I have real friends and family around me and don’t need to drag out old flames to find it.

Lastly, 30.6>55 is telling me that his actions were cruel and excessive and if he actually did care about me he wouldn’t have discarded me so easily.

This saddens me but it’s a necessary wake up because I need to come to grips with the reality of the situation.

Does anyone else see anything in these readings that I am not seeing?

Thank you!
Amber Rose

 

[Amber_Rose]

I also asked:
“What do I need to know about my relationship with N?”
8.6>20 was the response

Maybe he regrets how things ended with us years ago and now that I am married with children it’s too late? Or maybe it’s saying that the ship has sailed on this relationship and now I have to live with the “what could have beens”?

 

[Amber_Rose]

Im still mulling over these readings and I am wondering if the 21.6 is saying that I cannot do anything to resolve this issue with N since N has essentially cut off contact (like the cangue in the image that covers the ears) which prevents my words from being heard.

Its a very elegant answer.

 

[Amber_Rose]

Still unsure how to proceed and what to do with this situation (I’m concerned that something is wrong with N) I asked,
“What is the best approach I can take in this situation?”
27.6>24
Nourish myself
I had to chuckle because I was literally standing in the kitchen about to make my breakfast.

My last question was a yes/no question (“Will he come back to me?”)
38.1>64 and while I’m skeptical because I see no actual signs of him coming back, I will follow the 27.6 advice and turn back to my path (24).

Sorry for the odd posts. I’m honestly trying to do the right thing while married to a man who only cares about my appearance, my poor children who are caught in the middle, and N who has vanished.

Thank you
Amber Rose

 

[Freedda]

Amber Rose, I don't mean to be mean-spirited here, but in this one thread, you've asked us to look at:

2 > 1 (which you've gotten multiple times),
21.6 > 51,
61.1.5.6 > 7,
30.6 > 55,
8.6 > 20,
27.6 > 24,
38.1 > 64 (did I miss anything?) ...

... which equals about 20% of the hexagrams in the entire Yi!

I just can't really respond in any meaningful way - and I find myself wondering how you'd ever go about finding meaning in all that? But maybe you can ...

But if I were suggesting an approach, I'd say: do one reading and live with that for a while, to find out what you can learn from it and what it has to offer you.

all the best ....

 

[Amber_Rose]

Amber Rose, I don't mean to be mean-spirited here, but in this one thread, you've asked us to look at:

2 > 1 (which you've gotten multiple times),
21.6 > 51,
61.1.5.6 > 7,
30.6 > 55,
8.6 > 20,
27.6 > 24,
38.1 > 64 (did I miss anything?) ...

... which equals about 20% of the hexagrams in the entire Yi!

I just can't really respond in any meaningful way - and I find myself wondering how you'd ever go about finding meaning in all that? But maybe you can ...

But if I were suggesting an approach, I'd say: do one reading and live with that for a while, to find out what you can learn from it and what it has to offer you.

all the best ....

Fredda your comment isn’t mean spirited at all! My anxiety is causing the silence coming from this other person to spiral. That’s probably why I got the 27.6 response, because I need to care for myself. Or at least that’s my interpretation of the line.
Thank you for responding!
Amber Rose

 

[Trojina]

I just responded in your other thread here click this link

Don't waste any more time on readings about him is my view FWIW

 

[Trojina]

I also asked:
“What do I need to know about my relationship with N?”
8.6>20 was the response

There's absolutely no commitment to this from either of you really. You can tell that as he just blocked you on social media...

 

[Trojina]

Still unsure how to proceed and what to do with this situation

How can you proceed with anyone as childish as to block you on social media, it's not a question of proceeding. As you say you have a wonderful husband and kids in the other threads ffs don't throw all that away on this jerk.

 

[Amber_Rose]

How can you proceed with anyone as childish as to block you on social media, it's not a question of proceeding. As you say you have a wonderful husband and kids in the other threads ffs don't throw all that away on this jerk.

I was worried about him and the possibility that I had hurt him but he’s definitely not worth it.

 

[Trojina]

I think the readings are clear here anyway

“What can I do to make this situation better?”
21.6>51 was the response

You weren't hearing you can't make it better

I’m not sure what I needed to hear, he’s not speaking to me and said nothing before he parted ways, so I asked for clarification by asking
“What is it that I need to learn from this situation?”
61.1.5.6>7 was the response

Honesty, truth, integrity. I think there's a snake in this line in some translations, certainly this is a line I've seen crop up where if there is an 'other' they can cause great harm. For example suppose you had had an affair and then 3 months later he lost interest. Your marriage would have this disturbing secret, an unsettling influence. If nothing has happened yet, no affair happened then that's good. Compare how much he has to lose to how much you have to lose. Maybe he has no kids, no wife or home. I wonder if 7 is asking you to look at actual long term plans, at least the 7 here seems a disciplining influence on the intensity of feeling in 61. Line 5 may be showing your good qualities of integrity. Line 6 can overdo the pleading, it goes a step too far. Perhaps 7 here is the part that says 'these intense feelings are all very well but where is this actually going long term, what's the goal ?' Ah you said it here quite well

61.1.5.6>7 is confusing because of the 5th line. I’m thinking it’s about once again seeing the situation for what it is and discerning who is sincere and who isn’t. That I should realize that I have real friends and family around me and don’t need to drag out old flames to find it.

“Show me an image of whether or not N cares about me?”
30.6>55 was the answer

Perhaps the meeting served a purpose in that you both needed to mourn the past for a while, to get clarity through the cleansing of tears.

Perhaps the way he acts heighten the drama and so may stir strong feelings. Indeed I'm wondering, not from the cast, but what if he unblocks you and starts talking again is that going to destabilise you ? I think you do have to be really careful he doesn't cause damage in your life.

 

[Amber_Rose]

Perhaps the way he acts heighten the drama and so may stir strong feelings. Indeed I'm wondering, not from the cast, but what if he unblocks you and starts talking again is that going to destabilise you ? I think you do have to be really careful he doesn't cause damage in your life.

Yikes, I have never considered that. He’s a musician so he has skill in putting on a show. Now I’m going to consider what I will do if he indeed tries to make a reappearance.
It may not work to try to talk to him about it but I don’t want to sink to his level and just block him unless it’s absolutely necessary.

 

[Amber_Rose]

Actually I’m pretty sure you’re onto something, Trojina. He has done similar dramatic exits before, only to return later in hopes that I would be ecstatic to see him that I would forget about whatever bs we had been arguing about.

Guess it’s his “reset” button? It’s emotionally abusive and I am not a fan.

Now that I’m thinking about it, he really is an egotistical immature jerk. Funny how time blurs that stuff out so that it seems so minor or even completely camouflaged.

Amber Rose