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and 34.5 could describe you:
"Losing sheep at Yi. No regrets."
You "lost" him when he started seeing someone else, and you haven't really missed him all that much (or so I gather from what you're saying here - it doesn't sound as if you've been pining over him or anything. You haven't had a lot of "regrets" about it.)
The option that I believe the reading says would NOT end well for you is the opposite of (2) - you resuming the relationship in the hope that it will be different this time, or more than it was in the past. But from what you said it doesn't sound like you're thinking that way.
...common sense tells me that, rather than I can see it from the reading itself... Where does IC point that out? In 3.3, right?
And what exactly does 3.5 mean? I am not sure that I understand that one all that well...
I put myself through so much agony of not knowing what to think, do or feel - in the end I just walked away, had no further contact, best thing I did for myself. He was very upset about it but I just knew I had to do what was right for me.
I don't think "shame" is the worst omen in the I Ching (it's not "pitfall" or "danger"), but still it's something to be aware of.
Thanks, I didn't know that misfortune is, so to say, graded in terms of words...
3.5
'Sprouting's juice.
Small constancy, good fortune - great constancy, pitfall.'
"Sprouting" is what seedlings do as they grow. Going out on a limb - is your friend a bit immature, maybe, at least about relationships? Hilary says in her commentary, "Young plants use their energy to grow soft leaves and stems, not solid trunks." It sounds as if he's not ready to grow a "solid trunk" yet (in other words, settle firmly down with someone).
I think the line could be about you, too, in a different way. How do you want to use your time and energy ("sprouting's juice")? Do you want to spend it "dating" someone when the word "dating" doesn't seem to even apply? Then the line distinguishes between "small constancy" and "great constancy." In this situation, I think small constancy would be maintaining just a friendship with him, if you see value in that. Great constancy would be committing to him in a more serious way.
I don't think "shame" is the worst omen in the I Ching (it's not "pitfall" or "danger"), but still it's something to be aware of.
Thanks, I didn't know that misfortune is, so to say, graded in terms of words...
Well, that's not anything official; it's just me talking. If I ran headlong into the dark scary forest without a guide or map, and the worst thing that happened to me was "shame," (rather than being eaten by a bear or something), I'd probably consider myself lucky. And this doesn't literally apply to you, anyway. There's nothing in what you said to indicate any real danger here. I get the impression that even if you did try again to have a serious relationship with him, the worst that would happen is you'd waste more time and probably roll your eyes at yourself and feel foolish. More "shame" than "pitfall."
And, well, it does say, "Small constancy, good fortune." I can't judge what that might mean. There are degrees of good fortune. If you maintain some contact with him as a friend, maybe you'd have some pleasant moments on that level. Maybe he'd be a good friend. You did say there was a "deep bond" between you despite the ill-defined nature of the relationship.
But I don't know your feelings or what you want. Sometimes people can move from potential romance to friendship; sometimes people can't. Maybe just give it some thought for a little while.
If I had to sum up, I would say about this reading: the guy is a time waster to be avoided.
Hi Kiann, it sounds like you have a very clear view on the whole situation, it's probably just a process of fully letting go now and knowing what you are worth and what you have/can learn about yourself.
Why waste any more energy on it - it just messes up the connection between your spirit and your heart.
It's like someone caught up with an alcoholic - it's suggested they go to AA or similar to learn how to live with/work around an alcoholic - gosh why would you do that to yourself. That's just me thought. - Liss
Just to clarify that 36 -as a relating hexagram- is not actually the outcome. It is not like hex 3 is leading to hex 36. You can read a bit more about relating hexagrams on the forum. I usually take my relating hexagrams as some sort of backdrop, or the environment around me at the moment, but there are other ways of interpreting them, so have a look at other ideas as well. :bows:
But coming at this from the other end… quite often, having worked on someone’s reading, I find it comes naturally to present it to them by starting with the second, relating hexagram. (Naturally if I’m working with someone new to the Yi I explain first that we’re starting ‘zoomed out’ and will ‘zoom in’ to the crux of the answer later.) I do this because it’s the part of the reading people most often recognise. This is the part of the reading where you get to see yourself: it’s where you stand in relation to everything that’s going on, or what you aspire to or fear, or the direction you’ve pointed yourself in, or what this whole chapter in your life is about.
Hex 36 - the backdrop, as Mirian said - in this case might mean "hiding your brightness" or "wounding". You asked what attitude to take that would be good for you: it would be good to hide your brightness, maybe not get involved with him anymore (not respond to emails or other overtures).
Or, it could mean any of several ways this relationship could "wound" you, either large or small. Anything from the "agony" you went through before with him, to a small wound (possibly the "shame" in the reading) like being annoyed with him or yourself.
It could also mean to just be aware of any potential for wounding - if you would decide to respond to him in some way now, you should pay attention to the "subtle signs" mentioned in 3.3. If you would start to feel "wounded" in any way, then take that as a sign and don't let it go any further.
That last idea might seem to fit best with hex 3 as the primary hexagram, since I think "potential" is part of what hex 3 means (a seedling mostly has potential).
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