A Strong and Solid Bond

[frank]

Hi all,

I mailed you already some long posts about the thing between me and a dear collegue of mine, and well, I can say that things are going just fine.
First I was a bit overwhelmed by the fact that she is back with her BF, but I remembered the Yi saying from the very first question I asked about her and me already more then a year ago that this is going to be a long run.. I was afraid of losing her as soon as BF came back, but I received a warm mail this week and she realy wants to be friends, and she even apologizes for the fact that she is not mailing that much, because the love for her I spoke of towards her has made some impact which costs her energy to 'seddle' insite her, and she need time... But she still finds me a very nice person,,, (okidoki :-D). I went to a psychologist today for some other stuff, and she immidiatly sended a mail about my experience with the talk and she even came to me to talk... We are on speaking terms I guess.,.

Well, as you could have read, I asked the Yi a lot of questions about her and most of them are well understood by me by now,,, but there is one which is making me a bit curious in finding your opinion about it.,,,

Yi, what can I do best to let our bond grow towards a solid, strong, commited and long lasting bond? The answer of the Yi was:
39.2,4,6 > 44...

Just wandering what you make of this... because I can;t grasp it much... Is it about overcoming hinderances? And the 44 then...?

Curious

Thanks for help.

Hug,
Frank

 

[frank]

Anyone?

 

[seeker]

39 is obstruction. Accept your limitations with her, but be her friend and make your time together enjoyable. In the meantime, create an incredible life for yourself. As Lise so succinctly put it, life is what you make it. So make yours wonderful. Dance, sing, shout, spin around until you're dizzy. Be more than what you are; find the person you were meant to be. Basically, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Confidence and happiness draw people to you.

And thank you. I sympathize with your situation; I too am held back from being with someone I know in the depths of my soul I was meant to be with. But he chose someone else, and I do not even get to see him. I have gotten signs that he will come back, but sometimes I think it is just wishful thinking. The longer it goes on, the more difficult it is to accept. Your question helped me to put things in perspective. Hope I have helped you as much as you helped me. And its nice to see another person here who doesn't give up easily

 

[frank]

Thanks Seeker and Anonymous for your responses. Someone else? ( can´t fit the 6th line and 44 in to the picture)...

Thankx,

Frank

 

[stuart]

I think the hexigram and lines refer to an attraction that you can not resist.This brings the obsticles.I think the sage is refering to this and has sympathy for you.Perhaps this may cause you heartace but,the other person involved will always look to you for support.You may want to withdraw but it will be difficult as there is an attraction, commitment and friendship.

 

[frank]

Hi Stuart,

Yes, now we are getting somewhere :-D... This is something I can relate to... A very attractive lady as from character and as from the sex-appeal... and yes at times it is very hard for me to say no... and yes....'this woman is strong, and I should not mary this woman'..... Thanks...

To start to analyse this question then, you can say that 44 as result does not always have to say something I'm on my way to,,, as Hillary and others have already told us in the Newsletters and some other posts... 44 here can say something about the situation as it is, or as it should be (in my mind at least :-D), but as in 39,,...there is something that stands in the way... But let's focus back to the actual QUESTION,,,:

"Yi, what can I do best to let our bond grow towards a solid, strong, commited and long lasting bond?"

Is this an answer from the Yi to tell me that I should deal with difficulties in attraction, and that I should make more out of this...?

In the 2nd line (39.2-4-6 towards 44) the Yi is telling me all this that I feel here is not for me to blame... In line 4 he is telling me to stay in contact, rather then let her go... and in line 6 then I should be focused on my inner 'pureness' as the atraction will continue as long as "I come", and not when I "go..."... So, just stay doing the things I'm already doing then :-D?

Well, that can be hard :-D...

Thanks again, Stuart, it realy makes sence!

Hug,
Frank