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Since I have not been doing this very long, was just wondering about other peoples experiences with answers vs the type of question you ask. Are your results easier to understand and more accurate for questions that ask about action or approach vs questions that ask about outcome or how someone will react? Just more of me trying to fine tune my relationship with Yi
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I get on better with action/approach/advice questions, personally. Though I have to remind myself from time to time to ask whether something is a good idea at all, rather than jumping straight to how to do it.
 

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I try to let the Yi have its say. I try to ask: "What do I need to know about...?"

That's pretty open-ended, both for the Yi and for me as well. That way, the Yi gets to tell me whatever it likes about the issue, and I get to see whatever occurs to me when the hexagram appears - I'm not limiting it particularly with a narrow question.

I mean, I'd never ask questions like: "Does she love me?" or "Will she stick with me?" I'd ask the same old question: "What do I need to know about her?" or "What do I need to know about this relationship?"

See, Seeker, for me it isn't so much a question of the answer being easier to understand or more accurate, it's a matter of the answer being more *useful* if the question's right.
 

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I tend to get the most useful answers asking about stuff that's relevant to my own life and coming up fairly imminently - things like "Any advice for how I should deal with *event*, where *event* is either something that I'm going to do, or a current situation going on in my life.

So for me, giving the topic and a time frame but keeping it otherwise pretty open-ended works well.

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Action/approach questions give me good results in terms of understanding & accuracy.
Occasionally I have got clear answers when asking about the possible outcome.

And I usually get puzzled when I ask how someone feels about me or how someone would (or will) react.

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What about something like "how does my weekend look?" I got 61 to 19. Of course, I have my usual confusion over the 2 lines that sem contradictory, but with greater research (I'm at work), they might be clearer. But does this type of question usually work for you, or should I have asked something different???
 

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I think that question's fine. For one thing, I think the Yi understands the intention of the question and responds to that. The problem is that if your question is unclear, then *you* won't always understand the response.

If the meaning of the question is clear in *your* mind, then you're better situated to understand and benefit from the Yi's response.

For instance, sometimes the Yi doesn't really respond directly to your question (cuz your question isn't really addressing what's really important for you to know at that time), and it comes back at you with what you really need to attend to. It's easier to spot that when you're really clear about your question.
 

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By the way, I've started using a slightly different approach to asking the question sometimes. Sometimes, I'll tell the Yi my story before I ask the question. For instance:

"Okay, I'm pretty upset and confused about this. I thought I was being helpful, but she just thinks I'm being thoughtless and inconsiderate about her feelings. I don't feel the need to apologize, but she thinks I should. I'd like to tell her what I think of her oversensitivity, but I know for a fact *that* won't help. Okay, what do I need to know about this?"

There's something in telling yourself (or telling the Yi) your own story that's useful. It sets the scene and provides a setting for the question. Nice.
 
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Yes, I do that too. I tend to have an actual conversation, not just ask a question. Sometimes, when I am really confused about something, or if I have been getting answers from Yi that I can't make sense of, I will ask for a very straightforward answer, something even I can't misinterpret. And I usually get what I ask for. Not always happy with the answer, but can't blame the messenger
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"Sometimes, I'll tell the Yi my story before I ask the question.'

Yes, I also do that. Seems to help (or at least help me sort out where I'm coming from).

"Sometimes ... I will ask for a very straightforward answer, something even I can't misinterpret."

Interesting - I'll have to try that sometime.

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