About a boy - 26 to 34

[shefa]

What approach is in my highest and best interest regarding x?

26.4.6 to 34

I am feeling really gun-shy in this situation. I want to contact him but don't because I keep hoping he'll contact me first. Then I can't decide if this is dumb or smart. I can see both sides and I am not sure which is best for me. Thank you.

 

[willowfox]

There is no best approach, there is only one approach and that is to make contact with him. The ball is in your court, it is your turn to serve.

 

[dobro p]

What approach is in my highest and best interest regarding x?

26.4.6 to 34

It's good for readers for others to explain their reasoning, and not just make their pronouncement out of the blue.

Hex 26 is all about strong restraint, and 34 is all about exercising power. So, I'd say the answer to your question is 'the best approach is to strongly restrain the surge of power that impelling you toward X right now'.

Alternative possibility: "By your exercising strong restraint, the relationship will surge forward."

 

[shefa]

Oh I just love it when I get opposing feedback!!!!

 

[shefa]

Dobro, what do you feel this is about strongly restraining myself versus shifting from restraint into exercising my power? ( am assuming here that great power implies taking action.) Others, your thoughts?

 

[shefa]

Twilight, I know 26.4 is about getting past difficulties. Can I assume these difficulties are my indecision or could it be something else? I guess the difficulty of the situation is my indecision. I hesitate because I have made contact in recent weeks and his response has either been fully there or he has ignored it. Inconsistent. I hate that. That's why I say either smart of me to restrain, or dumb because who cares? If I want to contact him then I should. People aren't always available. But, you all know what I mean here, right?

 

[shefa]

OK, since my hesitation is tied to his inconsistency, I thought I should ask about it. I asked Yi for an image that helps me understand why he has been inconsistent.

53.2.5.6 to 46

Although this sounds like a great reading, I don't see how to apply it to my question. The reading is all about gradual movement forward and very positive, so perhaps I'm supposed to see this inconsistency in that light, not sure.

 

[zhan1]

Can you see your situation reflected in line 5 of Hexagram 53? This line suggests that a period of time has passed without the expected results being achieved, but there is an indication that eventually you can obtain the desired outcome.
The appearance of Hexagram 46 reinforces the idea that this situation is still moving or growing slowly and steadily.

 

[shefa]

Yes, thank you both. I do see that I am being obsessive about this ... that is probably a larger issue for me to explore and thanks for bringing it to my attention. I sometimes do obsess on trivial matters.

I also see that line 5 of 53 may be a good indication of what's happening now, yes. And generally the trend of both readings is positive and forward moving. Thank you so much.