About friend/ lover

[meganj]

Are things irrepareable between us?
8.6>20

 

[cornucopia]

Hi,

My take on this is hexagram 8 line 6 about someone not being very cooperative or you both got off on the wrong foot then it was difficult to create trust afterwards. If the beginning is not right there is no hope of things ending right either. Someone seems to have missed the right moment to unite. They were too hesitant and didn't want to devote completely to a union. Someone now deeply regrets this missed opportunity to form a union. The I Ching advises to find a new and fresh perspective. Think it through first before doing or saying anything. Hexagram 20 shows contemplating the situation from a distance without getting involved.

I'm new to this so hope this helps..

 

[foxx777]

Yes, I agree with cornucopia. The time for union was missed. But by letting a fresh perspective take the lead, every ending leads to a new beginning.

 

[long yi]

No hope

Hexagram 8 has 1 yang line (male) at line 5 and 5 yin line (female). The male has many female friends and at line 5, he is in control of all the ladies.

Line 6 person is leaving the scene (change line).

Six line layout 8.6 to 20
出生时间：年　性别：女　起卦方式：直接指定

神煞：天乙—子申　福星—丑亥　日禄—卯　羊刃—寅　驿马—巳　桃花—子　华盖—未
干支：壬辰年　乙巳月　乙未日　丙戌时
旬空：午未　　寅卯　　辰巳　　午未


六神　 伏神 　　　坤宫：水地比（归魂）　　　　　乾宫：风地观
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财戊子水　应×→　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼辛卯木　　
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟戊戌土　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　父母辛巳火　　
滕蛇　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　子孙戊申金　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟辛未土　世
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼乙卯木　世　　　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼乙卯木　　
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母乙巳火　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母乙巳火　　
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟乙未土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟乙未土　应

Line 4 = you, represented by a man 官鬼乙卯木　世who you think will never be in the house of marriage.
(month of reading has the 卯木 underneath it)

Line 6 = him. He has a fling with some female and is leaving.

The marriage document is line 2 (父母乙巳火) appears as the month 巳月 of the reading, and also sits under the day of the reading. This means conflict. On one hand, you think of marriage, but on the other hand, you know this man is not the right person to be a spouse.

Hexgram 20: This male and female relationship is very boring, and eventually one party will leave. The man is the weaker person. There is no hope for marriage. There may be family objection or financial issues involved that lead to failure in this relationship. Both parties are very pessimistic, therefore no progess can be made. A word of caution for the female querent: you think you may be desirable to him, but this is not the case.

 

[meganj]

Well thank you for replying. I know what you are saying to be true.
Cornucopia and foxx I appreciate it like you wouldnt know

@longyi thats very interesting and depressing at the same time lol.
it is true he has many female friends.
I was wondering if you could take a look at another reading i did for another guy.

Is - the right kind of man for me? 61.2.4>25

all interpretations are welcome


megan

 

[foxx777]

61.2.4>25

61 is Inner Trust. It asks us to act confidently , from inner feeling and instinct.

Line 2 shows a very reciprocal sharing. Like the mother crane who calls to her young, who reply. This is a very auspicious line for relationships. I have always read good augury into this line when asking about relationships.

Line 4 is that creepy one where the horse leaves. I was just posting on this line today, I will have to find the thread. Not sure what it would mean here,

25 is Innocence, or the Unexpected...... let me try to link you to my post on 61.4, hang on...:bows: Here it is , Megan; I made a couple of posts about 61.4 on this thread today: http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=15111

 

[meganj]

Thanks, i'll take a better look when i'm done work

 

[long yi]

It would not work. Hexagram 25 is 巽宫：天雷无妄（六冲). This is known as the six lines confrontation hexagram. If you inquired about relationship, there is no chance at all for now. It is a boring match, with differences, and takes a very long time to try to develop.

Do not bother. There are better choices out there. The man is backing off.

The most important part: You are not ready for a friendship with him. Why force yourself? Your mind is not settled.

神煞：天乙—酉亥　福星—子戌　日禄—巳　羊刃—午　驿马—寅　桃花—酉　华盖—辰
干支：壬辰年　乙巳月　丙申日　戊戌时
旬空：午未　　寅卯　　辰巳　　辰巳


六神　 伏神 　　　艮宫：风泽中孚（游魂）　　　　巽宫：天雷无妄（六冲）
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼辛卯木　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟壬戌土　　
玄武　妻财丙子水　▅▅▅▅▅　父母辛巳火　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　子孙壬申金　　
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟辛未土　世×→　▅▅▅▅▅　父母壬午火　世
滕蛇　子孙丙申金　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟丁丑土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟庚辰土　　
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼丁卯木　　○→　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼庚寅木　　
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　父母丁巳火　应　　　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财庚子水　应

 

[meganj]

Wow I cant stop thinking about this reading!! (the 8.6)
Because last night we spoke and we both agreed to start over as friends :S
but in the back of my mind all I can think about is the reading by long yi.

should i involve myself with him again? 5.3>60
Waiting in limitation, it seems i am waiting in the wrong place therefore inviting the approach of injury.

is it best to just let him go? 26.4>14
Wood over the horns brings good fortune.

Should we remain friends? 49.2.3>58

 

[foxx777]

Wow I cant stop thinking about this reading!! (the 8.6)
Because last night we spoke and we both agreed to start over as friends :S
but in the back of my mind all I can think about is the reading by long yi.

should i involve myself with him again? 5.3>60
Waiting in limitation, it seems i am waiting in the wrong place therefore inviting the approach of injury.

is it best to just let him go? 26.4>14
Wood over the horns brings good fortune.

Should we remain friends? 49.2.3>58

I think you have 5.3 right, and the relating hexagram is Limitation. Wood over the horns leads to 14, Possession in Great Measure.
Now for 49.2.3 > 58:

49. Change

Line 2:

When the day is over, change is arrived at.
Going brings good fortune.
Without fault.

It takes some time before the change is happening. Things go well by going forward with this, it is not a mistake.

Line 3:

Undertakings bring misfortune,
persistence is dangerous.
When there has been talk of change three times,
there will be trust.

One must not be too hasty applying change, or things will go wrong. One must convince people whose cooperation one needs first. This may take a couple of times.

Hexagram is changing to:

58. Exchange

Exchange.
Progressing.
It is beneficial to persist.

An exchange. There is progress. It is good to persevere.

I would say this points to a process of change, leading to a beneficial exchange. Things do not come fast and easily, so there is patience and persistence needed. I should tell that to myself as well!:bows:

 

[meganj]

To be honest these past couple weeks ive been waaay overthinking things, i havent been sharing how ive been feeling and quietly dealing this while going about trying to deal with the things going on around me. my aunt just got out of the hospital and my family is having financial issues, combined with a lack of sleep and my recent breakup.. i think i need a break lol.

 

[foxx777]

To be honest these past couple weeks ive been waaay overthinking things, i havent been sharing how ive been feeling and quietly dealing this while going about trying to deal with the things going on around me. my aunt just got out of the hospital and my family is having financial issues, combined with a lack of sleep and my recent breakup.. i think i need a break lol.

Yes, too much over-thinking and I Chinging can just fry your brain, and leads nowhere. I am sorry to hear about those family troubles. Same type of thing with me, and all around me. Tough times for many. Get your rest, and let things just flow when the time is right...

 

[meganj]

Yes i need a vacation.. a nice sandy beach with a mojito in hand lol
Hmm actually i got the beach now I just need a mojito

 

[foxx777]

Yes i need a vacation.. a nice sandy beach with a mojito in hand lol
Hmm actually i got the beach now I just need a mojito

Sounds wonderful. Get that mojito