Accusations 56.3.6>16

[becalm]

I became romantically involved with a guy who keeps falsely accusing me of different things. We talk.it out, he admits fault butt not until after I've had to defend myself of such nonsense. Today he did it again I said ENOUGH and walked out!! What do I need to know about this situation hex 56.3.6>16 the accusations have happened on his territory but I don't believe I'm the traveller this Hex talks about. He's enthusiastic about my way of life and outlook hoping to start blending our lives together. He's certainly lost his young helper (me) who was prepared to teach him my way of life and Line 6 I feel is saying he'll laugh at first thinking he's got rid of a person trying to deceive him but he'll realise he's only hurt himself.

 

[becalm]

A bit of background - he has a drug addict son he hasn't seen for 4 years. It looks like somehow he's getting into this man's home but the house supposedly has an alarm system so if anyone got in the alarm would go off. It's not state of the art just a basic alarm system. There's no other explanation for the happenings.

 

[becalm]

I guess the hex and lines could be a reflection of his son or whoever it is doing these things.

 

[Trojina]

I became romantically involved with a guy who keeps falsely accusing me of different things. We talk.it out, he admits fault butt not until after I've had to defend myself of such nonsense. .

Surely this must be the same person who accused you of stealing here


If not then you are highly unlucky to have 2 people in your life accusing you of things



I can't see how you could possibly stay with a person who accuses you of theft. No readings needed is there ?

 

[becalm]

Yes same one

 

[Trojina]

I cannot envisage trying to have a relationship of any kind with someone who accused me of stealing money.


How could it possibly work ? I mean it's such a fundamental trust issue. You know there always going to be trust issues arising in relationships in emotional areas, not being sure of one another and so on, that's enough to contend with but surely to God even a casual friendship can have no firm footing when the other person thinks you actually steal money from them ??

I mean even a fairly casual friendship would be trodden underfoot by that since it means you can't even leave a bag lying around in the other's presence, or hang your coat up in their hallway if it has money in it. It's just not feasible so no the relationship cannot work unless he has severe mental health problems for which he is seeking treatment - actually probably not even then.


What you need to know about this situation is it isn't somewhere to hang around. Quit, go - why would you even think twice about it ? I'd think the stranger burning his lodging down does sound like him but readings are generally for the one who asks so I think you have invested far too much in this relationship, possibly fuelled by unrealistic ideas about what it can be or who he is (16). He may have been okay as an acquaintance, as you described him in the last thread, but not anything more.


So you have tried to make his place your home in some sense and it doesn't work because he trusts you less than he would trust the average passer by on the street !

 

[rosada]

56.3 Mutual suspicion. Possibly a reference to the first time he accused you and also that although it appears he was interested in establishing a relationship to you, his true nature was not suited to stable family life. Perhaps you are not the first "young helper" his actions have alienated.

56.6 Here he is creating crisis again. Definitely time to move on.

16. What circus!

 

[becalm]

Yes definitely time to move on...thanks for responding rosada and trojina. I was hoping to get an answer on who was responsible for these goings on but the bigger picture is he clearly has trust issues period!

 

[becalm]

I was chatting to a friend of mine about the whole 'circus' of this relationship....She said he sounds like a Narcissist so I looked up the behaviours of such a person - Oh dear Lord.....this guy is a Narcissist 101!!

 

[diamanda]

Totally agree with your friend, becalm. He sounds like a highly malignant narcissist. I'm so sorry to hear you're entangled with such a person. Run to save yourself is all I can say.

 

[becalm]

Thanks diamanda I ran and saved myself over a week ago and in no way do I have any inclination to go back or even talk to the man. His number is blocked on my phone and as a matter fact I'm feeling darn good about myself and my life! Thank goodness for friends who care and can give you a clear perspective!!