An abusive sister

[motherofpearl]

My sister has been cruel and cold to me for a long time. Her methods are passive-aggressive, and it is so difficult because no one else in the family acknowledges it openly, although they know she treats me differently. It makes family gatherings uncomfortable for me and my children because my sister is like the queen bee. It has been a discomfort for so long, that recently I backed away and my own family stayed away from certain gatherings. Now, several family members remark on my absence with criticism and finger-pointing. But I just don't feel that it is worth compromising myself anymore just in order to "keep the peace" among family. It isn't really "peace," it is like being in a cold war.

I asked how to handle this situation with my sister? 54 with no changing lines.

Am I correct to withdraw? 48.3.6 turning into 7

I am confused about 54. Seems to just describe my situation without advising me. But 48 with 3 and 5 seems to say that I am not accepted for who I am (true) and I should find my source of well-being elsewhere.

Any insights from anyone?

 

[exnihilo]

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