An old flame and Good old #51.

[miss bovary]

Hi everyone! I am new to this forum--although I've been throwing the I Ching for about 3 years. It's such a marvellous pleasure to have found this forum. No one in my walking world uses the I Ching and it's great to give/receive encouragement and insight so! I am happy to be here.

I threw the I Ching this afternoon about a complicated past love affair I am feeling very activated by right now. I have a deep intuition that this man is going to get in touch with me again very soon. I am, for the record, currently partnered and *content*.

I threw #51 "Shocking", with a changing line in the second position--which changes into #54 "The Marrying Maid"--a hexagram I used to throw about this man all the time. (It probably goes without saying that he left me for another woman.) So it *seemed* to me as if the I Ching was saying, "Remember what happened? Don't go there again."

So then I asked the I Ching, how does this situation work out if I choose to ignore any attempted engagement and process my feelings privately?

I threw #45 Assembling with changing lines in the 1st and 5th positions, which turned right back into #51, Shocking, again.

I don't really know what to make of this and I think it's because I am too close to it. Does anyone have some insight--something I might not be seeing?

Does shocking always indicate an earth-shattering life event or can it mean something more...nuanced?

I appreciate any and all feedback greatly.

Be well, FS

 

[bradford]

After the initial experience you are now supposed to have an idea
of what you can expect the next time. The question is, are you
able to learn from feedback from previous errors? If you can't
do that you'll probably just get shocked and spill the wine again.

 

[bamboo]

Hi Miss Bovary,

Your second response is interesting. I could read it as you are at first hesitant about what to do, but then wholeheartedly commit yourself to your wellbeing with integrity, and ignore the guy. ( when you have been 'shook up' by the re-activation of someone/something disturbing, you need to recover your equilibrium; )

On the other hand, beware of the guy having so much charisma that he pulls you in despite your misgivings.
good luck. and welcome to Clarity!

 

[willowfox]

The first answer could well describe what you have said, the guy running off with another woman, you going your own way and now the possibility of him coming back into your life once again, trying to worm his way back in.

Choosing to ignore any attempted reconciliation is exactly the right thing to do and thus your life will go on as normal. If he comes back into your life it will certainly be a bit of a shock to you and will upset the applecart initially but go into a denial mode and all will be well.

 

[miss bovary]

Thank you Bradford, Bamboo and Willowfox for your thoughtful responses--I think I was afraid "Shocking" portended a cataclysmic life event, when in fact the I Ching was talking about feeling emotionally upended.

The email came--right on time!--and I just deleted it right away. Thanks guys!