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I have an ex boyfriend who is very bitter about our breakup.

Our relationship was on the rocks for a long time and we mutually agreed we need a break. I was too cowardly to officially break up because we'd been together for 2 years. :(.... that was my mistake. So during that "break" I met someone else who I really like a lot and only then did I have the courage to let him go. I know it's my bad.

It's been two months now and he's bitter and angry. It's a complicated situation 'cos we're still working on an important project together which must be completed (it's almost finished).

He spends most of his time writing nasty ugly things about me to my room mate, then he wrote me an email saying he's cutting me off and wishes no further communication.

So I didn't respond, I had nothing to say. I've been listening to him cry for 2 months, I've skyped with him and let him shout at me, weep, and let off his steam for 2 months until he decided to cut me off. But he's now angry for my non response.

I'm fed up. His disgusting nasty messages to my room mate are just affecting my energy. I could never write such poisonous things about someone I loved. I dealt with the ending like a coward but I'm truly regretful of it and now want to move forward. I just want our project to be finished and him out of my life.

I asked the Yi:

How should I deal with him?

62.6 > 56

I took line 6 to mean that I should not ignore his email? What could 56 mean in this context?

So I responded to his email, saying that I'm sorry he's hurt and respect his wishes to cut ties.

I asked what his response would be? (I meant his emotional response)

I got 6.5 > 64

I take this as conflict coming before finally moving on??
 

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I think 62.6 - 56 was about him not getting your message that is, that by not responding to his email saying no further contact you were actually agreeing with him. So you corrected that, sent him an email specifically telling him goodbye and good luck and now you can 56. Move on.

6.5 - 64:
Yeah, it looks like emotionally he's not over it yet. Makes sense if you still have to work together. I don't think this necessarily means there has to be more confrontations, however. It seems to me that part of the problem may be that you feel - and are radiating - a sense of guilt about how the break up went down. As time passes and it becomes more and more obvious this guy is a jerk and also that you were right to get out any way you could you will probably see his behavior as more about him and less about you and stop blaming yourself. When you have completely detached and moved on his emails and rants will either stop or no longer hurt. So 6.5 - 64 could be saying you've got God on your side but it may take awhile to sink in.
 
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this person is out of line and deserves none of your attention. he should get lost.

that said, you have generously given him an opportunity to vent his frustration, and for that he should be grateful. just be aware that you are handing him your precious time. he should use it wisely to discuss things that truly matter.
 

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Thank you guys!! I feel better after reading your opinions - gave me more clarity. I agree with both of you... and now the hex's make more sense to me. So thank you again! :)
 

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