Another relationship question

[seeker]

Well, not exactly a relationship, only been out once. But he seemed so nice and like we had so much in common. He said he had a great time and would get in touch when he got back home (heard that before). He is from Minnesota, looking to buy a house where I live and travel back and forth, or thats what he said. But I have not heard from him since we went out 3 days ago. So, I asked Yi what happens now and got 49. What should I do, 42.1.3. 49 always scares me. I see is as representing big change, but in the way of turning everything upside down and topsy turvy. The second reading seems positive, but I wasnt sure about line 3, something that is usually a misfortune that turns out to be beneficial. Anyway, was looking for some different viewpoints or clarification. Thanks.

 

[frank]

Hi Seek,

49 is about changes indeed, but as there are no changing lines I guess it?s only in the attitude and not in ?doing? things... At least I would not be to worried if I do not hear anything for 3 days... altough I still have lunch in 3 days with that one and only collegue of mine I have been mentioning here over and over... I will be patient and are not filling in anything... The Yi actually advised me to be like the traveller in hexagram 56, line 2.... towards 50... Get the feelings OK on the inside... And 49 could mean the same for you... Feel save and sound on your inner self first...

Hexagram 42 is then about being yourself and seeing that you will do just fine already. Lines 1 & 3 together makes 36... The literal meaning of the Chinese characters of Ming Yi as 36 is called is actually meaning Bright and Calm... so Bright Calmness... Just be fine inside... (Now that?s a revelution isn?t it :-D). Changing lines 1 & 3 from 42 on, you get 53... Gradual Progress... Don?t get to exided, but don?t worry either...

Hang in there.

Hug.
Frank

 

[void]

Elsewhere we are discussing why answers to relationship questions are often apparently misleading, (Needing Help thread) Bruce mentions scale and magnitude as one way we get misled. Often the image is of great magnitude so we may think we are involved with something of great import. We have to remember to scale the answer down in proportion to the question we asked or we will become needlessly excited/despondent.

You are asking what to do about someone you have been out with once. Well maybe he'll change your life and you'll live happy ever after. Or maybe you will never see him again ? Who knows, you ask too early 49,1.

 

[seeker]

Well, its true that the answers I get on relationships are often misleading, but I figured I was misinterpreting, being still so new to Yi. Thus far I have heard nothing from him, though I know he has been online. I emailed him, so we will see if I get a response. I was not confrontational or anything, just said I had seen that he had been on but had not heard from him and wondered if was still interested. Probably a mistake (I always end up emailing the guy to ask what happened and they never respond), but Im not really expecting to hear from him, so it doesnt matter. At this point I have turned off my profiles and given up. I dont how that fits in with the readings, but I am tired of meeting guy after guy who lies to me. For whatever reason, I cant find one single guy who is genuinely interested in me, and Im tired of trying.

 

[frank]

Hi Seek,

Tired of trying... Mmm, now that?s a 49... :-D. Perhaps it is a good time for a break as someday you will feel the energy again and you will find someone, even within your own image when you look into a mirror :-D... (That at least is also what I tell myself once in a while...).

Hang in there!

Hug,
Frank