Another romance question

[madison]

Somebody please help me! I am infatuated with a girl, requested i ching's help, but don't know what to make of the answer. Some experience would help!
This girl has just started going out with another man, and I asked the Yi 'please comment on the possibility of a romantic relationship with X'. I explained to Yi the situation beforehand. My answer was this:

25.1.5.6 moving to 16

Seems positive, but it looks like I have to tread carefully. 16 is the future hexagram, right? I am uncertain as to it's precise connotaion. It seems to augur well, but I need to be sure. Still very cryptic advice to me! Forgive my impatience in demanding a straight answer.
Can somebody kindly calrify this for me?

 

[willowfox]

"I asked the Yi 'please comment on the possibility of a romantic relationship with X'."

Hex 25.1 says to follow your heart's desire and it will lead to success.

Hex 25.5 she now has a boyfriend but this line advises you to take no action because it says that he will disappear on his own.

Hex 25.6 this line tells you not to do anything but to wait patiently until the time is ripe for a move.

Hex 16 is about having the enthusiasm to carry this off, so go ahead and ask her out on a date, preferably to a place that plays music. So prepare carefully and I am sure that she will be happy to go out with you. Don't forget that it is entirely down to you whether you make a success of it or totally screw it up.

 

[thedave]

I would like to chime in on this.

25. - (Wu Wang) - Become free of negative emotion - seems to me to be about purity and innocence. Reacting naturally. Karcher gives the translation of "disentangling" which is freeing yourself of negative emotion. Being infatuated with someone is not a healthy state, it is not with the Dao(especially when she has a boyfriend). The Yi seems to be telling you to relax and let things happen. Free yourself from desire and let the way shine through. If it is meant to be it will be.

21.1 - Become innocent. Live free without getting caught up. The way will open.
21.5 - You are caught up with this girl. Just relax and everything will work itself out.
21.6 - Don't advance. Now is not the time. She has a boyfriend, and no one will appreciate it if you stick your nose in things right now.

16. - (Yu) - Prepare for the future - Be happy in yourself. She might come, she might not, but you will be joyous in the Tao if you have confidence and humility.

Of course you may not see it this way. One of the great things about the I Ching is that everything is so personal. What do these images and words say to you? After all, it is speaking to you, not to us. It knows what you will understand, and what you won't. The fact that you are seeking advice here show that you are confused by the message. Take a step back, "disentangle" yourself, and think about it again. An innocent has no desire, they let things come.

Good luck, just be happy in yourself and I think everything will work out. Don't press things. Its ok to like this girl a lot but express it positvely. Don't let the emotion rule you. Live your life. Be innocent like a child and take things as they come. This is the way.

 

[hollis]

Good luck, just be happy in yourself and I think everything will work out. Don't press things. Its ok to like this girl a lot but express it positvely. Don't let the emotion rule you. Live your life. Be innocent like a child and take things as they come. This is the way.

Im gonna print that out and tack that up on my window.

 

[patro]

hi,
an update about the outcome?
thank you