Apologizing, 10UC

[Juliah]

I asked if my friend who treated me badly in the past would make an apology for his behaviour.

I got 10UC.

The answer was not clear to me, so I asked to clarify the meaning of it and got 46UC.

Is there a possibility that he will make an apology? (The hex 10 is one which is rather cloudy for me, I often feel confused interpeting it.)

Thank you for your thoughts friends.

 

[moss elk]

Hi,

So, 10 can be about respectful conduct and etiquette.
(It may have just been mirroring the subject matter)
Coupled with the 46 says to me you may get a small apology.

You might want to work on forgiving them beforehand though (By that I mean dispersing your anger.)
Reason being, small apologies can feel half hearted from someone that wronged you. They may know they did something wrong, but not have the capacity to fully understand how it felt to / affected you. I got a half hearted apology once from a man that nearly killed me twice. Imagine if I let my own happiness hinge on what he offered.

 

[Juliah]

I am afraid, my case is specific... I'll be able to remain friends with him providing that his apology is sincere, not formal.

 

[altair139]

I dont think he will, because i believe he thinks that it's your fault he treated you badly. Anyway if you still wanna be friends, you should contact him first and work it out. Do it like the Yi suggests:
"In terms of a human situation, one is handling wild, intractable people. In
such a case one's purpose will be achieved if one behaves with decorum.
Pleasant manners succeed even with irritable people."

 

[Juliah]

Unfortunately, I will not contact him first. The situation was extremely clear, and, I think, he realizes that his behaviour was offensive and humiliating (I will not go into details, sorry). I cannot behave as if nothing had happened - it was a serious rift which helped me know my friend better.

"...one behaves with decorum" - I asked about that. Can it be so that he will approach me with decorum, after the months of estrangement?

I cherished him a lot, and if he has already become my former friend... well, there is nothing to be done.

 

[moss elk]

Yes, he may be the tiger altair139.

 

[Juliah]

The intractable person is me, no?

 

[altair139]

the tiger here could be any one of you, because both of you think that it's each other's fault. So the one who goes first will have to tread carefully, the rest is like the Yi suggested. Definitely one will have to break the ice, if you cherished him that much, confront him about it, but dont increase the tension.