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Kia ora Lao Tzu,What of this first location? Darkening of the Light communicates Intelligence Wounded. Does not matter how altruistic or spiritually developmental your consideration is - it is still plotting and scheming towards an illusory future.
What of this second location? Obstruction. Big brickwall in front of you with possible fruit behind it. Krishna said; “Let your concern be with action alone, and never with the fruits of action. Do not let the results of action be your motive, and do not be attached to inaction.”
What of this third location? Sage now heartbroken and wondering why you won't drink the clean water. You are developed enough to know the truth - inner peace and enlightenment is right now where you stand. But stillness is hard work, so we'll do it tomorrow instead!
The above divination paid no regards to your enquiry. As always, only sought to return querent back to center - does not want to indulge their lust (daydreaming of desired outcome).
I have the very same wish as you: to live on temple grounds for extended period. With what little understanding I have, it is imperative that I perish the thought of this wish. Instead, I begin to remove all my possessions until my house is completely empty. My weekly income is inaccessible as it accrues. I patiently await current job contract to end. I patiently await rental lease to end. I patiently await COVID travel restrictions to end. Later I maybe initiate passport/visa applications etc.
One day I may find myself with no entanglements and unrestricted freedom to move. I will then consult the Ching and ask - should I now move to rural china and live the next three years in a Taoist monastery?
I expect the sage will reply - "up to you".
The closest definition of what I would define as good, best or better is a choice or place for my journey that would manifest less harm to myself, others and the wider community/world.I am curious, you ask if any of these options are good. All of these seem to offer something a bit different, so I’m wondering what “good” means to you, what does it look or feel like for you?
For example, are you looking for a place you can retreat to, to help you grieve and process the loss of your sister? Are you wanting a place where you can have community? Or a place to retreat to because you feel out of place or overwhelmed by life? Or maybe something else?
Also, sometimes the Yi answers our questions more simply, without regards to any notion of spiritual or higher authority we want to assign to it.
Best, d
what it would be like if I stayed at each one?
Option 1: 36 unchanging.
Option 2: 39 unchanging.
Option 3: 48. 3 - 29.
A retreat from the world can be a very good and healing experience, but remember too, you need not retreat from the world in order to do less harm. In fact, being in the world allows us to experience and practice the opposite: non-harming, non-greed, non-hatred..... is a choice or place for my journey that would manifest less harm to myself, others and the wider community/world.
In order to get to a place where I could live more at peace and in a way that I could be more kind to myself and others - I’ve looked into becoming a Lay Guest at local Buddhist Monastic temples.
I have found 3 and asked what it would be like if I stayed at each one?
Option 1: 36 unchanging - Brightness Hidden
Option 2: 39 unchanging - Limping/Obstruction
Option 3: 48. 3 - 29 - Abyss within the Well?
I was intrigued when I got each answer, as each one reflected different aspects of my thoughts and feelings about where I am at - like an outcast whose brightness is hidden or diminished, overcast by shadows/ fears, obstructed by exhausted masculine energy and that there is a spiritual well or resource within me that is not fully understood, but that could be if I paid more attention to it.Hi MeltingPot 247
What you have written here speaks loudly of the loss of connection with self you are experiencing now, resulting from your traumatic upbringing and the life choices you have made as a result of your conditioning. This has been more compounded recently with the loss of your sister and the grief that you are currently processing. It sounds like it is particularly difficult to accept the loss of someone you see as yourr guardian; someone who has kept you safe on many occassions.
Option 1: Hex 36 has a meaning of being an outcast / engaging with punishment. The deeper calling of Hex 36 comes from Hex 40 Release - freedom to move with the flow.
Option 2: Hex 39 has a meaning of hardship. The calling of Hex 39 is via Hex 64 and beckons from a place where male energy is exhausted.
Option 3: Hex 48 has a meaning of wholly connecting to the source. It is deeply fuelled by the diverging views of things in Hex 38 from where you will be able to see the outsiders that inhabit your world. Hex 29 honours the black depths that have been visited so many times before.
48.3 - The well has been dredged and there is clear water to drink but the well is not being used.
I would agree that a stay at the different Buddhist Retreats does not 'sound good or bad, right or wrong'. The responses from Yi sound more like a modern Trip Advisor. Identifying for you different ways in which you can approach the peace that you are craving in your life. When you decide on a destination follow the guidance of the Noble One who has walked this way before - hex 36 or hex 39 or hex 48. Each place has different qualities and each will inspire in you different ways to embrace a different aspect of the healing you are seeking.
....of course this may all mean something different for you.
Good Luck
P.S The witness position really speaks to me as I am the middle child in the family of my parents and siblings... I was more the observer of everybody else rather than an active participant in sibling/family activities as a child and even as an adult - and yet when I am calm and rested, not stressed ...I do know that my family love and appreciate me - as that is also when I am acting my best towards them."Is staying with my family or leaving them temporarily the better option for greater good long term?"
30uc ~ Two girls share the torch of Clarity
In the same way that 57 is your sister, two girls; so also is 30 your two daughters 'in the middle' ~ teenagers.
The balanced and steady *insight* that you had regarding the 'distancing' nature of the mirrored push-pull relationship dynamic opens the way to the healing that you hoped to find at the Monastery: the Witness Position ~ a true refuge of stillness and equanimity in the middle of our rollercoaster lives.
The realization that you are not the rollercoaster, but rather you are the Awareness of the rollercoaster, is like finding solid ground in the stormy sea of being a Solo_Mom_of_Teen_Girls ~ and not a minute too soon, either ~ that rollercoaster can be crazymaking!
And, and, and, this is a precious treasure that you can share with your daughters, so that they might find the Witness Position for themselves, too ~ and rise above life's ups-and-downs, no matter what life brings their way?
So, 30uc ~ choose/cling to your daughters ~ your sister is smiling.
"I also asked for insight into financial opportunities to provide for my daughters?"
16.2.3 to 32 ~ The greatest treasure they'll ever find is seeing you steadily stay out of the washer machine (line 2) and in the Witness Position (line 3), instead.
If you can do this, then the way through all problems, including financial ones, will be clear.
That's what you want them to see: The Witness Position ~ above the pushing and pulling ~ is the place to be ~ in the middle of Life's ups-and-downs. And then calmly tell them to do the dishes, laundry and picking-up with all the BossMom love you've got?
So, my advice is: postpone the Monastery for a more opportune time, and put the train back on the tracks at home with your job(s) and the family...
...and do it all with the Clarity of 30uc.
All love and blessings to you and your family!
The answer here is YES, staying with your family is a better option (in my humble opinion). As I said ....Is staying with my family or leaving them temporarily the better option for greater good long term?
I received 30 unchanging - Clarity/ Clinging Fire.
So here you have two Light / Flame trigrams, which also represent two daughters (the two middle daughters); and it represents a place of safety, and I can envision it being about a fire burning in the hearth, a 'bright' safe place, and also: Favorable Offering. Auspicious for raising cows, which reminds me of domestication, of being domestic, of taking care of those around us ....The trigram Light represents a place of safety - or that you are seeking such a place; it also represents connections: how we rely and depend upon one another, as wood, wind, and flame all depend upon each other.
Hi Rosada,Looking at 48.2.4 - 31
48.2.4 seems to be referencing your current state and the need for you to intentionally do what needs to be done to heal, so I see this as the I Ching mirroring your idea of stepping back and rethinking your intentions.
31's Image says, " The superior man encourages people to approach him by his readiness to receive them". Could this be a reference to setting up the small family enterprise?
Together these lines suggest to me that you should consider what's best for your business ambition. Would having a degree somehow help you in establishing your business, would it "encourage people to approach"? Would you have more 31. Influence if you had the letters after your name? You may think you'd never use a degree but you are in a sort of out of body state right now so putting things on hold rather than dropping out completely might be a prudent move.
I love the way you describe everything - paints an encouraging and beautiful picture/visionThe answer here is YES, staying with your family is a better option (in my humble opinion). As I said ....
So here you have two Light / Flame trigrams, which also represent two daughters (the two middle daughters); and it represents a place of safety, and I can envision it being about a fire burning in the hearth, a 'bright' safe place, and also: Favorable Offering. Auspicious for raising cows, which reminds me of domestication, of being domestic, of taking care of those around us ....
The upper nuclear trigram (lines 3,4,5) is Lake, which is about joy and also communication. The lower nuclear trigram (lines 2,3,4) is Wind, which can be about having a gentle, long-term outlook or approach.
So, with Hex. 30 you can create a warm, safe place - a home - where you can have (or explore having) a gentle, long-term relationship, and joyful communication with your family - including your daughters. Here in this safe, warm space you can find ways that the different 'parts' of your family connect, interact, and depend upon one another - as do wood, flame and wind.
I'm thinking, that sounds like a pretty darn good option! And perhaps too there's a local Buddhist center where you can go to meditate? (I know there are quite a few of them near me.)
Best, D
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