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What will happen is you'll get the blame and it's not your fault. A lot of time the one that prefers things to be harmonious shoulders the blame etc. because we think it's better/easier but the truth is if you do it one time it's a pattern you set up with you and the other person.As a follow up I asked “what if I send her a message saying I’m thinking things over and just want to let her know that’s why I haven’t contacted her back” to kind of deescalate. Received 9.1 > 57
Yes. Because your trying to work out what to do through you emotional reaction and not your response from self.Is that what you think “returning to my own path” is? Like just not intervening or trying to control it? I’m so torn because I would love to leave it in a better place but I guess that’s not looking great.
I like this approach very much. This is very much about boundaries. The questions that came to my mind are these:HI Redoleander,
I guess this is a sitaution that most people have encountered in somw way or other in their life...and so the answers reflect the experiences that people have made with resolving it.
I was tempted to do just that, answer with "well, you should absolutely do X..." based on how it turned out for me.
But then I reconsidered, and actually looked closer to your readings
So here go my thoughts:
13. 4 --> 37 is on the surface about company with other people. However, it is clearly stated that this is not about intimate, personal friendship, but rather about a more overarching theme of whether this sort of companionship is to the greater good. So there might be a moment for you to reflect, is this friendship for the greater good (can even be the greater good inside yourself, i.e. is this friendship worth your efforts, does it enhance you in some way?)
The inner trigram hex 14 is fire, or clarity. Clarity is needed here, before proceeding.
Line 4 goes in the same direction: "He climbs up on his wall; he cannot attack. Good fortune."
Being on the alert, having a bigger view from the top of the wall is obviously of advantage.
So your initial reaction of withdrawing and not acting seems to be the right way to go.
The changing hex 37 to me is also about quiet but firm behaviour.
One of the main themes for Hex 37 is to me always "like on the inside, so on the outside" again asking ou to examine what is going on the inside of this friendship. Is your friends behavior symptomatic of other issues in your friendship? Do these issues need to be addressed first? 37 too has fire/clarity inside...
Not going into the follow-up queries in detail, but 23 2.4. -> 64 does to me say that currently no peaceful resolution is possible, the estangement is too wide. There is hope for the future, but just not now.
9.1 -> 57 also seems to point to the fact that right now a release of the tension is not possible, and only small steps should be taken.
On an entirely personal note, without any backup of a reading at all , I don't think that you should do anything at this moment - your friend was the one who initiated the rift, and was not open to your attempts to address the situation. So she is not entitled to any follow-up action on your part, she is the one who needs to get things rolling again, if she is interested in that.
best wishes
angelatlantis14
So easy to take action when we just WANT resolution instead of being able to let things be. I'm exactly the same. Let's sort it out TODAY, hahaha that's me!! And if we can't I get highly anxious.Thank you everyone for your replies! They’re very helpful. It’s useful to see the different ways of breaking this down as well as useful to see a lot of common themes. I definitely have an issue without acting even when I know I shouldn’t because I’m too anxious. The outside perspective is useful. It’s so interesting because even though I’ve known this person for a while we got closer fairly recently. I remember doing a reading about our connection a while back truly expecting nothing but a little more info on our dynamic and felt surprised that it was such a negative reading. I have to go back and find it… I’m curious what it says but my readings aren’t that well organized (have to work on that this winter!). I’m 100% sure it was Hex 23 but I can’t remember the lines. It’s easy to dismiss or just not know what to do with certain info. And I feel like I was doing that here with wanting to contact her. Helpful to have confirmation that’s not the best idea
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