As I watch this story unfold...

[chacha1]

Hello All... My social life has been my main focus lately because certain people are exhibiting very bizarre behaviors. I have asked the I Ching a couple questions in the past few days and today I asked a third question. " Has Max told John that he has feelings for me? I received Hexagram 17( Sui) Following, changing to Hexagram 45 (T'sui) Gathering Together. In a past reading I was informed that it may be a possibility that John feels intimidated by someone( which is why he backed off from me). I thought it was a woman but from recent events I'm thinking that it may be Max. In hexagram 45 I don't know if the "desire for union" is Max or John. Any thoughts on this would be welcome.

 

[lloyd]

Hi chacha
I suggest that you rephrase the question in such a way that you look at your role in what is going on (with John). Application of the answer to a maze of relationships you propose is bound to be unclear.

 

[chacha1]

Simpler question...

Hi Lloyd! Thanks for the advice. I think the situation seems convoluted because of all the background details I provided. The question I asked is related to the two others that I posted recently. Either way, I attempted to ask the question in a different way, because this is the information that I want to know. I would ask about my role in the situation but, I already know. ( Now, that I think about it, I probably should have asked "what role do I play in the situation with Max and John"). Anyway, this time I asked "Has Max expressed his desire for me to John?" The main reason I asked this is because I want to know if John's behavior is because of something that Max said. I received Hexagram 26(Ta Chu-accumulating resources/moderation) and Hexagram 44 (Kou-Coming to Meet- possibly preventing undermining virtue). I don't think this response answered my question, but rather let me know how to behave in this situation. I'm thinking the Yi is telling me that the repeated (accumulated) interactions should be limited because feelings that are not appropriate are growing. We all know that desire can intensify with repeated exposure and that would jeopardize my virtue. I also noticed that the changed hexagram in my last question was *Gathering Together* and the changed hexagram on this one is *Coming To Meet*. I'm a Scorpio and I often find myself in very complicated situations(especially when it comes to men). Any thoughts?

 

[lloyd]

Dear chacha
My general advice to you finds support in the I Ching Treatment. It mentions that the book answers the one who questions and adds:
“The superior man consults the Changes, and he does so in words. It takes up his communications like an echo. He sets his person at rest before he moves; he composes his mind before he speaks; he makes his relationships firm before he asks something. If he asks something without first establishing relations, it (the answer) will not be given to him. Though you have no teacher, approach the book as you would your parents. (Wilhelm )"

 

[chacha1]

Well...

Thank you Lloyd for your contributribution, however I do not understand how it relates to my dilemma. I am familiar with that quote from Wilhelm as I have been studying the Yi for 10 years. I may not be as sophisticated as others in interpretation because I am prone to see too many sides of one story. I ALWAYS consult the Yi in the spirit of focus, and solemnity, so for you to suggest otherwise is highly offensive. The study of the Yi is about reaching ones highest potential as well as a divinatory tool. In the future, I suggest that if you do not know, then don't say anything - because otherwise you may risk someone being offended by your words. I take the Yi seriously, and I take my life seriously( as fickle as these situations may seem to others). You see, what you don't know is that there is a friendship, a marriage, and an entire social ecosystem at stake, not merely a maze of confusion. I said all that to say, honestly you have hurt my feelings, as if the questions that I ask are foolish. If they don't make sense to you that's fine, however do not dismiss my queries as if they are not valid. ThankYou. Eternal love and growth, Cha Cha.

 

[lloyd]

Dear Cha Cha
Thank you for your clarification.

 

[lloyd]

Hi Cha Cha

Hi Cha Cha
For reasons mentioned under "Where's the talent" I am resting from this forum.
On relationships, enjoy:
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[chacha1]

I understand. At this point, I'm just kind of thinking out loud, posting for anyone who may benefit (in a similar situaton). Thanks for the links.