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regardie

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Hello!

I've been dating a girl for one year. Last Saturday, it happened something that made me angry and at the same I felt sadness in a ballroom. I didn't want to dance anymore, but if she had asked me I would have agree to goes on. She met a guy and she danced with him without asking me... I was astonished, when dancing she threw an eye with a mocking smile on it. I felt betrayed! I nearly ecaped, letting her with that guy. And don't know what they've been chatting....

I perceived something I never have before....I tried to tell her that she hurt me, but didn't mange to do it. We planned to live together.....

So I asked a question about this saturday problem:
Wich relation there is betwen F(the guy) and D (my girlfriend): unchanging 64

I asked a question about my relationship with her: Wich decision do you advise me to take with her?
Unchanging 25

I don't really understand these unchanging Hex, perhasp can you lay me a hand. I need it!

Thank you for your help

regardie
 

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I'm sorry that happened to you. I'll give my interpretation of the answers:

Wich relation there is betwen F(the guy) and D (my girlfriend): unchanging 64

I don't think there is any relationship between them. Perhaps she danced with him in order to make you jealous? If so, it seems to have worked.

I asked a question about my relationship with her: Wich decision do you advise me to take with her?
Unchanging 25

Whatever you do...think about it first. Make sure that it is a decision grounded in logic not emotion. In other words, don't be quick to take action. When you do decide to take action ask yourself if it's an honest action that you will be comfortable with later. I think it's advising you here to be careful about acting in haste. She may have been doing this just to make you upset.
 

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Hexagram 64 is fire and water- each flowing different directions; I don't think there is any connection between them at all. H64's judgment says "the superior man is careful in the differentiation of things, so that each finds its place", which to me suggests that you aren't differentiating between dancing and something else, you're getting way ahead of yourself.
Hexagram 25 is the Innocent, the Natural- it says "the noble one brings disaster through shortsightedness". You are so jealous over something meaningless that you're about to act in a disastrous way. I think the course that you're being advised to take is the one you would naturally towards her, if your emotions hadn't been stirred up- "Below Heaven rolls Thunder, beings associate in innocence". H25 also says- "rich in virtue, they nurtured all the beings"- you may feel hurt right now, but when you let your jealousy evaporate and your natural caring for her take over, everything will be alright: "Supreme success".

After all, you have no evidence beyond your possessive feelings that there is anything going on. You're her boyfriend, not her owner. If you trust her enough to live with her, why don't you trust her enough to let her have a good time at the ballroom, even if you're sitting one out? Just take a moment and think about things, calm down, it's okay. :)
 
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Hello!

I thank you both for your accurate advice!

Thank you very much!

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