Bridging the gap. Hex 6- Hex 61

[brainfloat]

Hi everyone I'm a little newly born i-chinger. I actually started consulting only a few weeks ago. I have been in a relationship for 3 years and for almost a year we've lived in differant states. We got together when I was still in high school & definatly didn't have very good self awareness or any love for myself. We both have social anxiety and tend to be judgemental which might have actually brought us together, hard to admit. We've had problems for almost our entire relationship..I was an emotional wreck, extremely critical and a bit controlling in the past. And he was like a care taker. Lovely dynamics right. I stopped drinking and smoking and hanging out with most of my friends because I thought it would rock the boat too much if I did. He's very rigid and sensitive.Extremely poor communication on both our parts. Fantasy bond through the entirety of 'US'.

Anyways..I've recently had this tremendous 'awakening' almost..just to myself and the world around me in general I guess. Realization after realization constantly , and a lot of digging into what is..me. Now that I'm so much more aware of myself and slowly accepting myself more I accept my boyfriend significantly more and my love for him has grown. I want to restart my relationship and have a genuine connection..but only if its truley best for us both... Were identical on certain levels and complete opposites on all others. We are extremely attached to each other though he's definatly on the edge.

I asked the IC 'What will bridge the gap between me and _____?' I got hex 6 that changed to hex 61. I sort of have an idea..but I could really use some help from all you big brained people
I just want to know how we could connect more..were distant physically and every other way. Id like to connect even if it meant we came to realize we need to move on.

 

[ginnie]

6.1.4 > 61

It is more important that you stay with your newly recognized inner self than go backwards in your life to re-start things with this guy again.

There is a strong sense of conflict here. Why don't you just let it go at that, Brainfloat? There are so many ways human relationships can go wrong that nobody could ever list or categorize all those ways -- and nobody can say what to do to bridge those gaps.

In communicating with this fellow, Yi is advising you to be very polite and keep him at a distance. The least said about areas of differences, the better. Refrain entirely from hashing things out at this time. There's no point to it. Forgive him and understand that you probably don't need him for anything at all. Don't restart. Put it on the back burner. That's my personal opinion, I know, but one thing I learned from Yi is that such a conflicted relationship is better ended sooner rather than later.

 

[gato]

.I was an emotional wreck, extremely critical and a bit controlling in the past.

stop doing that ...
One cannot engage in conflict.
One turns back and submits to fate,
Changes one’s attitude,