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Hey friends! I did a reading on a 'realtionship' I have. I asked what this person wanted from me, and this is the reading I recieved. Thoughts anyone?
 

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What does this person wanted from me?
1.3 > 10


The hexagram of the heavens, and the third is the line of difficulty. Stormy, I suppose. In yin earth hexagram 10 the treading refers to the footprints left by ancestral spirits as they circle offerings, as in 30.1. He wants a traditional old-fashioned girl. Times have changes since his childhood, and this ideal may be impossible to satisfy.
 
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Hello,

It would help to know what has taken place recently. Your words, actions, feelings, and his words, actions. In my experience it helps to narrow down the answer by reflecting on this. In this way you can see if the answer reflects you or him. At times the Iching will answer a question about another. But more often than not it answers what you need to know about yourself in any current situation so that you can grow through it. And this can happen regardless of the question you ask. This of course is only my opinion based on my own experience. A lot of times our own thoughts and actions cause another to react the way they do. So I will give 2 examples of what I think the answer may be telling you. But it will be important for you to reflect. And amazingly sometimes the reading can answer many questions about a situation. It is my belief that the answer is for your spiritual growth. To mature and guide you on your path.

If the answer is indeed answering "what does he want from me?" I would say he wants to experience adventure with you. To play and create something heavenly. To experience both the good and the bad but he wants to make sure everything is done "right". So he is either cautious of making any mistakes or he wants you to be cautious. It is like being able to experience adventure and love but taking it slow so no one will get hurt.

But you also have to keep in mind if he does not want you to know what he wants, the answer may only show you.

So say the answer reflects you. It could say, you have been having adventure, treading the path lightly, but have or want to reach the heights of a heavenly love. And now you are nervous, and now you are being extra cautious because you want to do this "right". You don't want to make any mistakes. You are not completely confident about what action to take. To avoid disagreement and stay grounded. Yet still experience that hieght of love and adventure. Its a risk.

It seems like being in love. I also like what Tom says. And I can see that as a relevant answer. You will have to either share some background or reflect yourself and see if you can see yourself or him or both in the answer. For me, I can not ever ask "what does x want, what does x feel?" Etc. If I want to know about another, I have to ask "what position does x have towards the relation with me?" Those other questions will always give me an answer about myself. And sometimes I even get an answer that seems to slap me on the hand. Like my guardian angel is saying "you know better than to ask me that". But with that question for some reason I get a very clear answer. Another question that does well for me is "what is the state between x and I?" This will tell me what is going on now. I usually get a two line reading. I can easily see x in one line and myself in the other. At times I may get an unchanging hexagram. Anyhow, I do hope that helps some. It is a reading full of potential for me. It just depends on how that potential (creative energy) is used.

A lot of times I feel we manifest or create our atmosphere through the power of our own thoughts, feelings, and actions. How other people act or react can often be a reflection of ourselves.

Best wishes on your journey,

Blue_Angel
 

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Well, quick background. We work together, but never really crossed paths or anything, until one day I had to ask him a question, and boom. And instant flood of emotions and it was almost like I knew him from another time, another life even. He was married at the time, and has since left his wife. We got along great, neither one of us had ever been with someone where we fit on all levels. Its seemd ever since the beginning of summer, when his ex started demanded more from him with the kids and all, he's different. I honestly feel he's depressed. He keeps telling me I'm different, I treat him different. If anything I walk on eggshells around him to not upset him. I can't say anything right. I tell him I love him but he doesn't believe me. Says my actions show otherwise. It has been very, very strained between us. He just keeps saying he is second guessing everything because i have hurt him, and he doesn't know if he can trust me again. I haven't done anything, the only thing he thinks I've done is not love him anymore becase my actions speak different. Its very confusing.
 

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Yes, it sounds very confusing. He has accused you of actions taken to hurt him when you have done nothing of the kind . . .

Anyway, 1.3: "The superior man busies himself the whole day through and evening finds him thoroughly alert." This seems to be a very work-related reading. "Knowing what should be done, he does it . . ." He "labors and labors." "Hard work is required of him and alertness where necessary." The quotes are from Blofeld. It seems to evoke someone who is tireless in doing what needs to be done, don't you think?
 

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Well the majority of his days are spent doing something, either work, going to class, taking care of his kids and all of the other things he does in a day. Coaching football, he plays in a band, etc.
 
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Thank you for sharing. He wants you to prove your love to him because he has been bitten by the tiger before.The line says you have done nothing wrong indeed. And with this relationship you'll have to be willing to work very hard but do not allow him to put you down. You must stand your ground. So do not walk on egg shells. He is very insecure, your actions can easily cause him to feel that much more insecure. Any little neglect or time taken away from him. Even you succeeding at say a job or with friends without him. But it does say it is possible for all of this to be corrected. It is not sealed in fate to continue this way. It may be a rough patch you can get through. It won't be easy nurturing such a man and still keeping your own confidence as well as nurturing yourself. Just remember this is not any fault whatsoever of your own. This is an issue he has.

It does show how well you both started together. Like heaven and earth uniting. Walking the path easy. You will have to show him in action like he told you. Words won't work with this sensitive man. Do think positive. Your own insecurity in him will double his insecurity in you.

Best wishes on your journey,

Blue_Angel
 
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A good book you might want to grab is "The 5 Languages Of Love" by Gary Chaplin. The book discusses psychology on each persons "language". How they express themselves. What makes them "feel" loved. How to nurture this. How each one of us is unique and how we can better learn our own "language" as well as our partners. I found it very helpful. Helps with communicating as everyone communicates differently. Opens up a new perspective, hopefully it can be of help. You should be able to find it in the library.

I must add, I do get a lot of insight normally from Blofeld. I just could not seem to grasp that. So Ginnie may be on to something. Hopefully, from one of us it will come together and make sense for you. Initially I stayed away from the line itself and focused on both hexagrams , which is not normal practice for me. The key to the answer is usually in the line, in a one line answer. At least that is what has worked for me. However, when you added a bit of background the line jumped out at me in the way I wrote in my last post. It seemed to all come together. But you know your situation better than any and I may very well be completely wrong.
 
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Thank you all for your insights. It has been very helpful. Espically this very confusing time when I get accused for not showing how I feel, and then I try to do things, hang out with him, make plans, and there is always an excuse on his end. Its almost like being in the twilight zone. He accusing me of doing things that he is actually doing himself. Its a weird, weird situation to be in.
 
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I wonder if he is projecting on to you, his feelings about himself or from the past he had with her. Or maybe it's transference, you have now become his wife. So whatever she did that hurt him, the blame is put on you. Especially if he didn't have any time in between the two of you. You know? A rest time, to get himself in order after the divorce, before jumping right in with you. If that is the case, to the point he never dealt with those old issues or emotions, now he's working so hard, seems from sun up to sun down. Is he even thinking clearly, with that much stress? Unresolved issues, new issues to go with them, and lets just do so many activities I don't have to think about it or deal with it. Like an alcoholic, except a workaholic. When he comes down from his buzz, the issues are all still there, waiting on him. I'm not sure... I do wish you the best. Don't let his issues bring you down.


Another thing to consider, depending on the full of the circumstances is... (and if you decide to check out that book, Gary Chapman goes into better explanation) In the beginning of a mutual attraction and love interest. We experience this chemically induced high. Eventually that high goes away. Then we have to make a choice, whether we want to stay and work out arising issues day to day. And really learn, grow, and love each other or not. In the beginning that chemically induced love is considered an illusion. The people that stay together, do so, because they "chose" to love each other. But many people when they lose this high, just jump out and jump in with another just so they can feel that high again. And the pattern repeats. Like an addiction. Which, he's all over the place right? He continuously needs something to fill his space. It seems from what you describe, he can't be alone. He needs something to fill some void within himself. You'll have to decide if this is healthy for you to go on with this man. It can't be one sided. You doing all the work and he just receives with no effort...


With the readings its almost like... he needs to stop being a tiger. He has you afraid you are going to step on his poor little tail. To the point of you being afraid he's going to growl at you or worse jump out and bite you. He needs to get himself together, before he loses a good woman. Perhaps he should consider downsizing some of this work he has created. Perhaps he should put some time and effort into your relationship, so you can enjoy your time together again. I hope he recognizes this before it's too late, and you've decided enough is enough.

Or... He has you all worked up in a frenzy, he seems to be creating this situation where you are damned if you do, and damned if you don't. He is being ridiculous. He really needs to get a grip. No one has time to cater to his every little need, especially when he can't even voice what it is he actually needs. He probably doesn't even know himself, so how can he expect you to know? What does he expect you to be his mother? His psychologist? My goodness.
 
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Thanks for your input. This has all been very painful and depressing all the way around. I also forgot to mention in any of my previous posts, that he suffers from depression, and hasn't gone to talk to anyone about it, so his behavior is double confusing on top of everything else.
 
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It does sound confusing and I can see how it would bring you down. What if you let it go for a while? What if you do the things you would normally do without him? The things you enjoy, to nourish yourself, and keep up your own spirit? What if you ask the Iching "What do I need to do right now?" or "What position should I take towards the relation with _____?". For now...
 

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That's for all of your input. I thought I would add something to this thread, almost to close it out or bookend so to speak. I'm pretty sure he is getting back together with his wife. I'm not sure what that means for the hexagrams I got orignially, but I just thought I would let you guys know, since you took the time to reply so generiously to my questions. Thank you.
 

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