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Trixibelle

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Dear all,
I am new to the forum and I need your advice for a difficult choice I have to take FAST.
My 16 year old boy, failed school for the third time and I am desperate. He is bright (the teachers said) some said very bright for science but not performing, distracted.
I am now looking into two schools with a different method of teaching (more intensive, very small classes, individual support and attention and oriented to pass state exams that will allow to recuperate lost here - it's a special system of our country).
The first seems more relaxed, with homeworks to be done in authonomy and normal schools hours and it'closer to home.
The second is more boot-camp like. They have to stay longer hours and is a little bit more futher away from home.
I asked first if this kind of school will be right for my son.
Reply 1 unchanging
Second question: will school 1 be the best suited for my son?
Reply 37.2.5 to 26
Third question: will school 2 be the best suited for my son?
Reply: 58.4.5 to 19
I see positive and negative in both. Can you help me please make sense of what the Yi is advising me? It's too important to get it wrong.
Thank you in advance for your help
Trixi
 

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The first seems more relaxed, with homeworks to be done in authonomy and normal schools hours and it'closer to home.
The second is more boot-camp like. They have to stay longer hours and is a little bit more futher away from home.
I asked first if this kind of school will be right for my son.
Reply 1 unchanging
Second question: will school 1 be the best suited for my son?
Reply 37.2.5 to 26
Third question: will school 2 be the best suited for my son?
Reply: 58.4.5 to 19
I see positive and negative in both. Can you help me please make sense of what the Yi is advising me? It's too important to get it wrong.

Without a doubt I would opt for school one. Lovely cast. 37 looks to me like there is sufficient order, care and security for him to feel focused and safe. He seems by these readings to need the structure of a caring family like environment. So although their rules appear more lax in fact they 'hold' him far more than the shouty boot camp school. Also school one fosters self reliance which I see in 37.5 and assists focus in 37.2. And of course 26 here is very good. Great Taming. This more seemingly gentle environment 'tames' parts of his nature far more effectively than the boot camp school. Also 26 speaks of storing knowledge, referring to past knowledge which is good for learning so I think he will be getting something solid here. Looking at the change patterns 29/30 I think it is a slightly risky point in his development but there is sufficient clarity and understanding here to see him through. (no need to worry about what change patterns are if you are a beginner....I just like to use them)

What about 58.4.5>19 Line 5 says do not place trust in disintegrating influences and my general impression here is this school can come off a lot better in marketing of itself than it can actually perform. Is their PR quite alluring ? I think with the 58 you could be pulled in by their talk (58.4) but I don't think their methods are so great for him at all (58.5). You see 37.5 showed him developing self government and self reliance whereas school 2 in 58.5 might make bigger shows of discipline but end up with students with no self discipline. I don't think much to this cast. Not that it would necessarily be terrible but really I don't like the 58.5 there and the 37 cast is so much more promising.

Also it could be the 37 cast also refers to his relation to his home with you. It seems better that he is nearer to home and 37.2 might possibly be a call for you to really focus on being the centre of the home for him. I think he can flourish at school 2 as I think he needs family atmosphere not a boot camp one and what is more can become a more independent secure individual through the approach of school one.

Disclaimer. This is an important choice and those are just my views of the cast.

Oh I missed the 1uc cast but not sure which school it was about but in any case I am quite clear the 37 cast is far more profitable here. Also if he gets distracted he doesn't want to be going to a 58.4.5 kind of place I think. It may actually seem like more fun to him but in the long run it's not so helpful.
 

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Thank you trojina for this long,thoughtful and caring reply. You helped me a lot. Hugs. Trixibelle
 

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Two more options showed up:
What about option 3?
29.1 to 60
Seems like a clear no to.me
What about option 4?
27.1.4 - 35
Better but option 1 seems still better. Am I right?
Thanx again trixi
 

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Two more options showed up:
What about option 3?
29.1 to 60
Seems like a clear no to.me
What about option 4?
27.1.4 - 35
Better but option 1 seems still better. Am I right?
Thanx again trixi

Yes I still think option 1 looks best. Also sometimes when consulting the I Ching with many options we can get a bit muddled and lose track of our ordinary ways of thinking things through. I mean sometimes that's a good thing, the whole point of consulting the I Ching is to get another perspective but I think particularly with things like this your own judgement has to go hand in hand with the readings.

If you weren't consulting the I Ching which would you pick ? That is if you had been to look around all these schools, not sure if you have. which would you pick ? What I'm trying to say is the I Ching is a good guide here but can't altogether replace fact finding about these schools. I think we need to consult the I Ching alongside using the ordinary way to make decisions. I'm just saying this as sometimes a person can get more confused with multiple casts and then it's time to sit back and reflect on what you think yourself and then re examine Yi's answers. Also with these latest casts I get the feel the I Ching is suggesting you can now make the right choice without it. For example 27.1 often refers one back to one's own judgement and I also wonder if 29.1 here is saying you are getting in a bit of pickle with all these choices when if you stop struggling with the choices so hard the right one will come more easily into view.

So given all that which would you choose if you didn't have the I Ching ?
 

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Well, school 1 and 2 are different but offer the same goal (two years of.school in 1 with a state exam at the end-so he will get, if he succedes, one of the lost years back) . Option 3 is staying.in the same system as last year (the headmaster called me today and told me that if I file a complaint against the results I have a good chance.of. success) but the school already showed its limits.in.my son education ... so I am really doubtfull.
Choice number 4 is a super fancy school that I can't really afford, but the teaching is excellent ... no recuperating lost.years though.
I agree with you, my feelings are now torn between option 1 and 4. I think I need to sleep.on it. Thank you again!!!! I'll come with updates
 

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I have enrolled my son in school 1. Before doing that I asked what will be the school future of my.son. if I enroll him in school 1. Reply 14 unchanging.
I combined that with my gut feeling and took the decision together with my son. I will follow up with updates. Thank you again for your help
 

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14uc does indeed seem a good auspice for the choice . Hope it all works out well. Let us know how it goes.
 

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