Clarifying my own intentions w him 1.1.5 > 50

[leighl]

Hi all,

I've been spending a lot of time with an old acquaintance from back home, and I've been confused about how close we have been getting because it seems like it could easily go to an intimate place. I asked Yi "What are my intentions with him?" 1.1.5 > 50

This is not my first question about him. I also asked "Would x and I be a good match?" 52 unchanging. I also asked for an overall look at our friendship/relationship- 8.1.5 > 24.

1.1 seems to be telling me not to act on this, or perhaps that I don't intend to act on this. What about 1.5? I feel like I can't get an accurate look at myself and am maybe reading these with bias. I also am somewhat confused about how to read when the question is not a yes or no question or a question on what to do...

Most of the hexagrams seem "positive" to me until hex 1-- my intentions for it all. Anything obvious here that I am missing?

Thanks!

 

[msmith]

Hello, just a quick response. You mention you are confused and I get the feeling that you are holding back somehow, maybe you are not ready for this transition to intimacy? 52UC means stilling and so perhaps hold back before getting involved further. 8>24 might reflect your confusion (seeking union but returning to a safe place) and 1>50 seems to indicate some potential. I would give it more time, until you have a clearer mind. Hope it goes well!

 

[mirian]

I asked Yi "What are my intentions with him?" 1.1.5 > 50

I also asked "Would x and I be a good match?" 52 unchanging. I also asked for an overall look at our friendship/relationship- 8.1.5 > 24.

I am sorry but I don't quite understand why you have to ask what your intentions are. Either you have a romantic interest in this person or you don't. Are you afraid of not being able to control your own actions?

Also, friendship and romantic relationship are different things altogether (you got hex 8.1.5 > 24).
Line 1 advises you to be transparent, honest, towards people you connect with. I see this line as "what you see is what you get".
Line 5 warns you not to push relationships, instead allow people to be free and make their own choice, whether or not they want a deeper connection with you.

Hope that helps :bows:

 

[leighl]

Thanks, your explanation of seeking union but returning to a safe place just sort of clicked for me and made me see my behavior in a different way. I think I've been craving intimacy and have this possibility in front of me, but I don't think it's the place to move towards.

 

[leighl]

I am sorry but I don't quite understand why you have to ask what your intentions are. Either you have a romantic interest in this person or you don't. Are you afraid of not being able to control your own actions?

Sigh. It does sound a little crazy to not even understand what my own intentions are. I mentioned this above, but I was having a hard time telling if I was projecting my own craving for intimacy onto what would otherwise be better as a friendship. I think. Thanks for responding! I always find others' perspectives helpful.

 

[danadanadana]

As to the question of your intention, with hexagram 1, The Creative changing to hexagram 50, The Cauldron could it be that you are looking for someone to share meals with, and maybe to cook for? Cooking can be very creative, and cooking for loved ones is a great joy for many people. Maybe you are not interested in cooking, but more generally speaking, do you think he can be someone who will appreciate your creative talents?

 

[mirian]

Sigh. It does sound a little crazy to not even understand what my own intentions are. I mentioned this above, but I was having a hard time telling if I was projecting my own craving for intimacy onto what would otherwise be better as a friendship. I think. Thanks for responding! I always find others' perspectives helpful.

Hi leighd,

If that is the case then hex 8 lines 1 and 5 gives you a good starting point, doesn't it. Honesty and open communication, keeping things clear between you (line 1), really talking to each other, but, on the other hand not forcing anything, just letting things happen (line 5), whatever they might be. Hope it helps :bows:

 

[leighl]

I really appreciate this point of view danadanadana. He in particular loves to cook, and we share a lot of meals together. This is definitely something I want to contemplate further.