Clarity on Love

[consuelanaona]

Hello, my name is Rachaella and I am looking for a bit of help understanding my situation... They say you can't see the forest for the trees, and I think that's where I'm at.

So, my situation is thus: In 2008 I separated (by my choice) from the person I feel to be my soulmate (in which we agreed upon a possible reunion). I knew I needed to do this and am glad I did. However, I now feel that I very much wish to reconnect.

What happened was three days after we split he decided to unite with someone else (he does not do well alone). I felt sad, yet understood. I needed very much to be alone, and he didn't. So now it has been quite some time and they are together still. Yet, I somehow feel that we belong together. He agreed to meet back in June of this year and I expressed my undying love. His reaction was positive, yet uncertain. I could tell he felt torn between keeping what he had built with this other partner, yet knew our potential had a different greatness as well. He asked for time to consider and I gave him. A month went by and I felt very impatient, and broke down to ask him what he felt. He chose to keep things as they are.

I know this sounds absurd, foolish even... I cannot shake the feeling that I wish to be with him. I have moved away for four months and return in April to where we both live. I have enquired of the Sage about this situation since 2009, being aware of my feelings all the while. The most frequent hexagram I've received is 21 and lately it has been 46.

Today I asked three questions and received these answers:

What would be the outcome of my desire to unite with B when I return to my home?

35 (Progress) - 21 (Biting Through)

What would be the outcome of me telling him I wish to be with him when I return?

64 (Before Completion) - 4 (Youthful Folly)

How will he respond to my feelings?

31 Influence (Wooing) - 46 (Pushing Upward)

My interpretation is this: Love is possible, I need to stay true to my feelings yet be careful of becoming too forceful.

Any light or other interpretations on this would be GREATLY appreciated. I do not wish to delude myself based on desires, yet need to honor my feelings/intuition.

Thanks!

 

[meng]

I'm interpreting the gist of this sequence to think of this dynamic between you as something fresh, and doesn't need a definition.

Also, along these lines, rather than seeing 21 as a restraining force, to see it as an act of will, just as with 46 and 35: an image of a knight on a steed: 46 is the will and 35 is the means.

So if this was my situation, with these readings, I'd feel FREE to assert myself, and I'd feel free not to as well. I would avoid trying to make it into a finished thing, a done deal. 31 is that way, a courtship, not a marriage. Start from not knowing each other, discovering each other.

Another little consideration: 46 reaches up while 35 reaches out.

 

[meng]

I'm sharing this horoscope from yesterday because it seems so apropos to what I tried to express above.

Walk to the beat of your own drum. If you try to latch on to the glib, fast-paced information of the day, you might lose your voice in the crowd. On the other hand, if you plant your feet firmly and try to plan in too much detail, you might deprive yourself of spontaneous events that prove fulfilling. Chart your own course, and don't be afraid if no one else comes along.

 

[consuelanaona]

Thank you, I appreciate the perspective.