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I have been a seeing a man for about 3 months that has commitment issues. He acts as if he is in it with me when we are together, but if he feels the slightest pressure from me (whether intentional or not), he says that he does not want a long term relationship with me. But his actions are not consistent.
Anyhow, I consulted the I Ching and asked what potential for us was and got 28.5 = 32
Thoughts?
If someone doesn't wish to commit to someone (male or female), does that necessarily indicate commitment "issues"? I don't see why you need to attach a disorder to either of your reluctance to commit to a long term relationship at this time. In fact, perhaps you each have your own good reasons for such reluctance to jump into a full commitment - it may in fact be most healthy not to.
You didn't say how long this spotty relationship has thus far endured, but the line indicates it won't be for a lifetime, though I do not read any negative connotation associated with such a relationship, only that neither can expect it to be more than what it is.
32 symbolizes a long term and steady relationship, literally of husband and wife. Apparently, this one ain't it. But don't give up on happiness because of it.
I consulted the I Ching and asked what potential for us was and got 28.5 = 32 Thoughts?
I did mention how long... 3 months. The thing is... I don't get that from line 5 that it automatically implies that he isn't the "one". I get more that because I thought I was pregnant, but was not in fact, that this is what line 5 refers to. That I wasn't pregnant. And that now we have the chance to take a break and rebuild what was good before the scare (thus 32). He is older than me, doesn't have kids and I do, but I am still quite fertile! I am only 36! I literally got this hexagram the day before I found out that I was not in fact with child.
Sorry, missed the three months part.
Line 5 could indeed refer to the result of pregnancy, if that was your question. However, I read your question as: "what potential for us was..."
If the whole pregnancy scare was foremost on your mind and emotions, the Yi could have addressed that anyway, even if you asked a different question, however only you can discern that for yourself. My interpretation was based on the question you had asked.
28.5 has never boded well for me for anything but a passing fancy (of any kind, not just relationships), but neither has it been harmful, so long as I didn't expect more than what it promises.
28.2 is different story, and may be what you'd rather have gotten.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).