Completely Let Go?

[herrmyte]

So another speculative relationship question.. hopefully somebody can help me with some perspective. Recently some events have reminded me of a person and after being over it to a fair degree Im wondering about her again. Short summary: I have had sporadic contact with a woman over the last two years. And around 7 months ago things ended. She was just formally ending a 10 year relationship in therapy and at an invited group night out she also invited what became obvious was another male interest. There seemed to be some ambivalence on her part that night, and on mine leading up to events and on that day, but sad to say I left with some hurt feelings. I wont go into laborious detail but I think, (wishfully? Im not completely sure), that there was really potential for a deep connection and mutual attraction. Perhaps the timing wasnt right, she was/is rebounding from a long relationship and my situation was not completely stable coupled with the fact that I dont have much relationship/dating experience.

So yesterday I asked the I Ching :
Is she sill thinking of me the way I sometimes think of her? (as in a desirable relationship partner/maybe somebody very special) 20.4.6 --> 45

Are recent clustered events that reminded me of her, a dream etc. meaningful at all? 15.2.3.6 ---> 4

And still thinking of her, maybe hoping to stop,I asked today:
Am I just barking up the wrong tree? 56.2.4 --> 18

Im just wondering if this is an inherently incompatible match or whether a little time and much better, more honest communication could lead to something between us. 20.4.6 --> 45 leads me to think maybe so. Hex 15 to 4 seems to be saying not really. I dont know how to interpret 56 to 18 though. Is there potential for repair or is it just decayed and all over dead? Thanks very much

 

[rosada]

My experience has been that when I question the I Ching repeatedly about a subject without understanding the advice it has already given me, or acting on it, so there hasn't been any change, the answers tend to become more and more negative. I compare it to giving a blood sample. At first the doctor can look at your blood and say, "Yeah, you're fine," but if you keep asking for more blood checks, more information eventually the response is, "You know, he was okay but he bled to death..."

Anyway, I think your first answer is telling you what you need to know. There is a friendly feeling here and developing your connection slowly as friends seems to be the way to begin.

Rosada

 

[herrmyte]

Hmm.. thanks for the reply Rosada and the advice. I think that was part of the problem the first time. Just bled it out. Thanks again