Consequences 39.4.5.6>56

[aiyana]

I have been having an ongoing fling with a much younger man which has surprisingly led to deeper feelings for both of us. I feel emotionally alive when we spend time together though he is sometimes draining - a conflicted, creative type. (When we first met I did get a couple of 44's from the Yi...).

I am typically very protective of my career life vs. my private life, to the point where I haven't shared my surname with him -- we meet when I visit his town on weekends. He is asking for more emotional security and telling my name does seem an appropriate step. I asked the Yi 'what will the consequences be if I share more personal information with him', and received 39.4.5.6>56. While we are not destined to be a couple, there appears to be value for both of us in dancing in this 'relationship' such as it is...

 

[rosada]

39.4, 5, and 6 seem to be talking about the importance of having friends and also about our responsibility to be a good friend. 56 talks about how in life nothing is permanent and how we must recognize that eventually we will all move on alone.

I think this is encouraging you to be a closer friend at this time but also to think about how deep you want the roots to grow.The consequences of revealing more of your personal information seem to be that you will be come better friends, more able to enjoy each other and also more able to help each other and indeed there is a responsibility implied here that as you become better friends it will not be just for the fun times but for the hard times too. So how close do you want to be? Just someone he can talk to when he wants to have fun or are you willing to also be the one he can call when he's bored, lonely, hurting, needs help moving a couch or money for bail?

56 suggests you will eventually move on, or perhaps just that you want to maintain certain boundries so that you always feel you can move on. That is, don't tell him anything you might feel uncomfortable having out there. No "I'll tell you but then I'll have to kill you..." confessions.
rosada

 

[aiyana]

Rosada, thank you for your thoughtful and insightful response. With his being so much younger (14 years) he has been looking to me for advice & support. I have also kept hidden from him that I have contacts that will help his career, as I'm not sure how 'involved' I want our lives to be. Yet I see he is talented and his field is a difficult one to break into.