Consequences of break? 22.2.4.5 > 1

[tealight]

I am trying to decide whether to take a break from someone. I will write him a brief note that I'm taking a break for a while. My only concern is that this could damage the friendship and he'll lose trust in me.

(A couple of days ago I asked for general advice on how to proceed with the friendship, and I got 2.4.5 > 45, which seems to advise me to be passive in the situation if it's to progress, so this is why I'm worried about taking an initiative here....)

So I put this to the IC: what will be the outcome of telling him I'm taking a break?
And I got 22.2.4.5 > 1

I'd really appreciate an interpretation of this. The 5th line seems to be positive. I'm not sure how to interpret the resulting hex 1.

 

[answeredquestions]

(A couple of days ago I asked for general advice on how to proceed with the friendship, and I got 2.4.5 > 45, which seems to advise me to be passive in the situation if it's to progress, so this is why I'm worried about taking an initiative here....)

Hi Tealight,

I see your first reading as (45) that you would like the both of you to be on the same page with the friendship. Hexagram 45 is where you are coming from when asking the question. The advice is to be receptive like Hexagram 2. 2 is like a field. It is an open space for something to exist. Rather than being the powerful energy or decision maker in the situation, it is about being the space for the energy to exist. It often means to not be the initiator of the situation but instead to let the situation shape you. It is about being receptive to the energy from your friend. Let him call the shots. You soak everything in that is happening and can reciprocate and join in the feelings that he presents to you. It isn't as easy as just setting back and doing nothing. A good way of seeing it is like being receptive to a babies cries. The baby initiates the cry to tell you something is making it uncomfortable, you follow in by caring and helping out and being receptive to it's needs.

Lines 4 and 5 of Hexagram 2 - 4 is about not being able to see the energies at work properly at this time. And so, best thing to do is be receptive. Not initiate things. 5 and the yellow skirt are a symbol of service and willingness to be open.

This whole reading says to me that you do not see the friendship clearly at this time, and the best thing you can do is be open and receptive and not to proceed with dynamic force (which is the characteristic of Hexagram 1).

So I put this to the IC: what will be the outcome of telling him I'm taking a break?
And I got 22.2.4.5 > 1

Hexagram 1 is where you are coming from in the situation, you would like to be the opposite of Hexagram 2 in being receptive, and you would like to take the initiative to shape the situation yourself by telling him you're taking a break. Hexagram 1 is about being the force behind the situation and creating and making things happen.

22.2.4.5 - My interpretation of this for your reading would be, if you are infact going to tell him you would like a break, to be graceful about things and make the communication (a letter) beautiful and purposeful delivering the message inwhich you think is best and to get creative with it. Dress it up. Line 2 is about patience in telling him. Line 4 is about not using threatening actions and instead gracefully incorporating friendship. So, if you choose to write a letter, the advice would be to be positive in the letter stating good things about your partnership etc. Line 5 is a picture of someone making a small offering. They are ashamed at the size but the person receiving will not care about the actual offering as much as the enthusiasm put into it.

I think the overall advice through both readings, in my opinion, would be to follow the advice of the first reading, but if you do choose to not be receptive (2) about it, do it with grace (22).

 

[tealight]

Thank you so much This is very helpful to me and you've described it all so well. I now understand the reading and the situation so much better. And I've decided not to go through with the break. It felt yesterday like I really needed to, but what you said helped to change my mind, or maybe just clarify what I already knew but was confused about. If I was going to do it, I would have been nice about it anyway. He hasn't done anything wrong, that I know of. The problem has just been with me trying to deal with the fact of being so far away. However I think it would have repercussions if I was to do something like that. I know he would understand, but there would be a loss of trust too I think. So I just need to find a better way to deal with things that doesn't somehow involve him. Actually the more I think of it now, I can see clearly that I'd regret having done it and it wouldn't have solved anything.
Thanks again for your reply. You have amazing insight!

 

[answeredquestions]

Getting H1 and H2 can be tricky and at the same time it is very potent and exact what Yi is saying. I am glad you found something out of my interpretation and please let us know how things turn out. Wishing you the best, -AQ.

 

[FlyingFish]

I know this is a rather old post, but I got the same reading with regard to my vocational fulfillment and I am very intrigued by the placing of 1 before 22.2.4.5 in your interpretation, in that "1 is where you're coming from." I hadn't thought of it that way...

Anyone think the same possible in my situation? And if so, what does the whole thing mean for me? Here's the post:
http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...to-take-action-to-improve-my-situation-or-not

All thoughts welcome!