correcting an impulsive act through 26,6

[oponopono]

I just finished a post reply in another thread of mine (about a book) with a "suddenly I realize the mess ive made"... and this thread again, same same...

I had an impulsive gesture and just bought someone a ticket for sunday, a really expensive show i know he wants to see, and mailed him "be there and there at that time" without further explanation.
Has he has been silent ever since I started thinking if it was out of line to do that, decide about his sunday, his only free time, like that.

asked :

what are the consequences of this surprise of mine ? 61, 6 > 60

and understood my words were not well taken. He somehow thinks im boosting, or arrogant in my approach. as "perseverance brings misfortune" i thought of just dropping it, trying to sell his ticket and go by myself...

than i asked :

ok, "suddenly I realize the mess ive made", how can I still correct it ? 26, 6 > 11

and this surprised me. somehow 26 for me, is about being outgoing and riding my power, my "great beasts", holding firm to what I have already done, and carry through. line 6 seems to be promising and lead to peace. I also read this line as a kind of 17... go with the flow, follow the way of heaven. So i dont see any signs to back off now or sell his tickets or apologize...



Why am I so impulsive ?!


Yoana

 

[sooo]

26.6 in this case seems to me a natural fit.

Things like reactive tendencies and feelings of wanting to break out of the limits of my life and circumstances, or when strong drives take on a life of their own and reaches a peak, and there's a strong need to break free from it - then suddenly there is a shift in consciousness, where restrictions and limitations seem to melt away. My circumstances haven't changed, but I no longer feel tense and wanting to break out of the corral and run for the hills.

When my dog was still a pup, he rambunctiously managed to escape the confines of the backyard's chain linked fence. I was alarmed and worried, threw on a jacket and hat and headed out the front door to look for him. When I opened the door, he was sitting there with this relieved and happy expression, to be allowed back into the very house and yard his instincts were telling him to escape from. He gained his greatest sense of security and freedom within his boundaries. Only his state of mind shifted.

 

[rosada]

By the way, it occurs to me your friend could be playing along with the game you've set up.
Just as you sent the ticket to him with only the instructions, "Be there!" he could be following your lead by saying nothing - just showing up!

Either that or he simply didn't receive the ticket.

Looking through the archives I say where Martin said 26.6 can indicate a "high energy restlessness" and a need to get grounded.

As you are now experiencing in your mind all the possible negative reactions perhaps you should ask the I Ching how this is going to play out. That might put your mind at rest.

-rosada

 

[rodaki]

I love positive impulsiveness that makes us buy gifts for friends or make surprises and such -our lives would be missing so much color without such gestures!
And I don't think there's any mess to fix . . it could be that 61.6 is Yi's way of teasing you for going haywire for no reason OR it could be your friend discovering the ticket . .

and then 26.6: you have an asset with great potential (the expensive ticket), take the right action that will put it to fruitful use (11) -send another message or check why they haven't responded, whatever it takes to make it work . .


(an occasional fellow impulsive )

 

[Trojina]

I love positive impulsiveness that makes us buy gifts for friends or make surprises and such -our lives would be missing so much color without such gestures!
And I don't think there's any mess to fix . . it could be that 61.6 is Yi's way of teasing you for going haywire for no reason OR it could be your friend discovering the ticket . .

and then 26.6: you have an asset with great potential (the expensive ticket), take the right action that will put it to fruitful use (11) -send another message or check why they haven't responded, whatever it takes to make it work . .


(an occasional fellow impulsive )

Ah well everyones different. I really wouldn't like someone sending me a ticket without asking me if i wanted to go at that time because I always want to do things when I feel like it and I'd feel a bit pushed around by the gesture Yoana describes even though its well meant. Mind you I am probably in the minority.

But I can't see 61.6 as Yi teasing. If the person does find it presumptuous, for example maybe they had something else planned etc I think its best to initiate a talk about it because if they didn't like the gesture they would have much trouble saying so because they will know it was meant kindly and will feel ungrateful...and if they don't know what to say they may not say anything. You know like if their feelings are conflicted they may just not respond...I think 61.6 says thats a possibility

But I agree its a good idea to send another message incase the ticket hasn't been received. I would have thought it likley if they didn't want to go or felt in any way miffed they would have contacted you about it Yoanna....but who knows, it would be very difficult to tell you if they didn't want to go when you already bought the ticket.

I actually think the 26.6 may indicate you are on the right path in recognising this is a bit messy. In recognising it you already have the solution. If your friend realises you understand how they feel, that you understand it may have been a bit pushy they will probably feel fine about it if its acknowleged. I'm projecting a bit here but if i felt discomfort about someone assuming I would go somewhere without asking me I'd feel much better once they'd acknowleged my feelings and I'd probably then go along quite happily anyway


OTOH they may be delighted and the silence may simply be down to miscommunication.....but then why the 61.6 ? I don't feel that 61.6 can be ignored but i do see that a solution is immediately available (26.6) once you've acknowleged the 61.6

 

[rodaki]

Ah well everyones different. I really wouldn't like someone sending me a ticket without asking me if i wanted to go at that time because I always want to do things when I feel like it and I'd feel a bit pushed around by the gesture Yoana describes even though its well meant. Mind you I am probably in the minority.

But I can't see 61.6 as Yi teasing. If the person does find it presumptuous, for example maybe they had something else planned etc I think its best to initiate a talk about it because if they didn't like the gesture they would have much trouble saying so because they will know it was meant kindly and will feel ungrateful...and if they don't know what to say they may not say anything. You know like if their feelings are conflicted they may just not respond...I think 61.6 says thats a possibility

ah, well being different is part of the beauty of it, ain't it?
I guess I should have added that a large part of the meaning will be dependent here on the specific nature and quality of the friendship but I just guessed that, if Yoana took such initiative, this was a good friend of hers who wouldn't feel bad being honest with any kind of problem they might have had with her approach . . I guess that depends on how well they know each other though. I'm rather difficult with my time too and I can get easily miffed if someone tries to maneuver me into something I cannot see clearly but if it's someone I 'm comfortable with I have no problem going along -or being very open about my reasons if I won't.

Anyway, I think any line can be 'teasing', or, better still, magnifying our own anxiety about something, like a caricature of our fear, especially those 6th line readings. For example I've had 62.6 to mean that I was going so far into worrying over the details that I missed the bigger picture, or 61.6 about beating myself up when there was no true reason to do so, or going because I understood something somewhat too late . . I think that's what could happen if Yoana gives up -I'm guessing this is still a surprise, her friend doesn't really know what her invitation was all about (?) That's the impression I got at least . .

 

[Trojina]

mmm well on second thoughts I guess 61.6 could be a kind of teasing...infact it often has the effect of puncturing ones bubble, a bringing you down to earth kind of line which doesn't have to mean theres any serious fault in how you behaved...just that you're human and you are blowing things up a bit.....perhaps here over anticipation of someone elses pleasure ? But thats hardly a crime...and once bubble burst just a little, a sense of deflation when getting no response, then theres 26.6.


Let us know what happens Yoanna

 

[oponopono]

Thanks everyone for all your thoughts, this time I have a follow up that might be useful. We accidentally bumped into each other this morning in a part of town neither him nor I were supposed to be - how lovely...

We talked a bit about work and then he very very mildly said "Sorry about Sunday, I already have plans, is it something we could do another day?" (there was some misunderstanding here in the thread, he never knew what was my surprise, he just had instructions to be in a certain place at a certain time...)

I told him what it was and still he did not get excited (surely he must be on valiums...!) but said "...maybe...i can try to reschedule my thing... i dont know...." I was a bit inpatient with his lack of enthusiasm and just told him I had already given the ticket away to someone else - because he took so long to reply. He apologized and said he was trying to break his appointment for Sunday.
Hum.

He didnt seem to be upset about my strange approach, nor excited, nor sorry to miss the surprise, nor anything really. It felt like he receives such emails on a regular basis, or something... ! Strange. But "whatever..."
He invited me for a drink tonight, but I have plans, and then he suggested other plans for other nights, but im fully booked. We said goodbye in peace, really. I realized I didnt REALLY want to spend more time with this guy, and it didn't seem he took my proposal anyway special. We will see us around...

what are the consequences of this surprise of mine ? 61, 6 > 60

My truthful spontaneous words were limited by him taking them as clouds, because he never considered it. "my fancy feathers rose up to the sky" - like clouds, or smoke, gone inside his mind...The rooster or an animal who boasts (for me it would be a peacock) was me loosing track of reality and enjoying more the game than the person...
Persistence in this strategy and towards this guy would be unfortunate, thats clear now.

ok, "suddenly I realize the mess ive made", how can I still correct it ? 26, 6 > 11

By having the notion I followed The Truth Within (61) half of my anxiety could already have been solved. I did what I felt I had to do, and in the end it was nothing problematic. It just didnt work out.
I think the "Great Beast" of 26 is here my own urges and drives, my impulsiveness and than afterwards my inability to rest. Those would be tamed and find peace my a natural synchronicity of events, like figuring out by myself I didn't really wanted to go with him, meeting him and having the confirmation it would have been a mistake.

I dont know if its contained in this 26.6 but meanwhile I sent out a mail to friends saying I was going to see this show sunday and an unusual number of people joined in, so now we are like a group of 8, people I really like, and for me the thought of it feels me with a sense of pleasure much more than having done it just the 2 of us.
So it came out perfectly for me, after all...

26.6 in this case seems to me a natural fit. (...) My circumstances haven't changed, but I no longer feel tense and wanting to break out of the corral and run for the hills..

sooo was very right here, because I had a change of heart even before I met him by accident today...

As you are now experiencing in your mind all the possible negative reactions perhaps you should ask the I Ching how this is going to play out. That might put your mind at rest.

That was good advise, rosada. I managed to get there without asking future scenarios to the I Ching, and Im glad about that.
I still havent learned how to deal with futurology questions, and how I sometimes find myself getting annoyed when one of my interpretations doesnt play out right...

I love positive impulsiveness that makes us buy gifts for friends or make surprises and such -our lives would be missing so much color without such gestures!

Me too!!! =D
Im still glad I did it
I can also see Trojan´s point of view, and how the guy could have been easily pissed or nagged or something. Im not sooooo careless, we have a good work relationship, we know each other for many years, and I know he likes me a lot. He was just busy, I guess.

mmm well on second thoughts I guess 61.6 could be a kind of teasing...infact it often has the effect of puncturing ones bubble, a bringing you down to earth kind of line which doesn't have to mean theres any serious fault in how you behaved...just that you're human and you are blowing things up a bit.....perhaps here over anticipation of someone elses pleasure ? But thats hardly a crime...and once bubble burst just a little, a sense of deflation when getting no response, then theres 26.6.
)

For me that sums it up perfectly, Trojan. The Y was telling me I was in my own delirious cloud, my rooster voice was not being heard, with all my performative exaggerations, the guy is really just asleep while Im throwing on a show...!
But when I did came down to earth I realized this was all nothing big and just settled for Peace -11.


So sunday theatre night with 8 people I truly enjoy - thats 26.6 > 11 in my book

Thnank you all for the insights,
Yoana

 

[rodaki]

thank you for the feedback Yoana, it's nice to be reminded how reality is always more imaginative than any speculation :bows:

have a great a time at the concert!

 

[Trojina]

What great feedback.....it all made sense

thanks