Daughters reading am I on the right path at the moment 62.1.4 to 36

[butterfly spider]

My daughter asked if her new found interest helping with outdoor centres and activities is right for her at the moment. She is trying to do things that get her out of the house - including helping with disabled riding etc. she said she didn't know if she was doing the right thing

She saw my diary with my coins and asked if it might help to ask

She got 62.1.4 to 36

My take is that she shouldn't force things too much - but I have given positive feedback
Has anyone any thoughts please just to pass to her
Thank uou

 

[Trojina]

It's difficult as one wouldn't wish to discourage her interest and yet this looks like a little too much.

62.1 says pretty plainly it is too much. 62.4 generally indicates there is a challenge to be met with circumspection.

Perhaps she could make the commitment fairly loose so that she can allow for days when she isn't up to it ? The 36 makes me wonder how much she is hiding her illness from those who are running the outdoor centres and so on. It's just if she is hiding it I'm wondering if it would be better to explain to them she is not always very well, you know so that they are more in the picture, and then maybe she won't need to take on too much ?

It would seem such a pity to be discouraging but in all honesty this answer isn't shouting 'go for it'. I think you are right, perhaps she could take it slowly. The other thing that comes to my mind is whether this answer refers to her physical fitness ? It might. If she launches into a lot of physically adventurous activities (not sure what outdoor centres do) you wouldn't want her to end up with a sprain or something that keep her in even more.

Maybe for now encourage her to build her fitness levels and take her time in getting involved with the centres ? After all there's no rush. I guess the one thing you don't want to do is discourage her, so this is a hard answer to put across.

 

[butterfly spider]

Thank you. She is getting very anxious about it all and when she should do the volunteering. She so wants to be like anyone of her own age and yet physically and mentally is just not up there with it all. I think she knows not to overdo it but gets tangled trying to deal with people on the phone. She is getting fit but it is the mental facilities that just find it all so difficult. Of course there is a lot of frustration on this one so I am being positive . She is not stupid and is worried about this herself.

I have a feeling that the outdoor centres can recognise her limitations already and are being somewhat kind in offering volunteer work actually
Xx

 

[goddessliss]

I think she has to make up her mind one way or the other and not panic if things don't turn out in the manner that she hopes or expects but at the same time don't give herself a hard time if she can't manage everything straight up - slow and steady and she'll get there. I feel she tends to get overwhelmed by things and then walks away. - Liss