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[kativa]

Hallo ichines?
I wanna shared with you my last reading because i'm very confused(anything new!!).
my questoin is about to rest in this citty where i'm, a place that i know because i used to live here with my lovefriend but where i don't speak the official language(german) or go back to my country. I'm worried because i guess that my relationship is finish( the best way of behavouring with this is 25, the innocence, so i'm expecting nothing!) and i don't know how can i deal without a house, a job, any money, my depresiv character this new change. But i don't really know what to do!! The timeand the money are going by, and i need to choose something...think it well,because i'm afraid to stay with no job here or there, but also to be not strong enough to deal with all this troubles, to trough me in the sadness 'cause i'm alone and totally break! i know me, and i don't want to see me falling so down again! in spain there are new possibilities, here i made nothing and...ya, no idea! i 'd like to connect with the Tao, to know, to not b afraid.....but i'm, i want to take a good decission, and then see.
so i asked to the i ching,
what is waiting for me here? 35, nochanges
what is waiting for me in spain? 18,6 > 46
and then, if in here this is waiting for me, how will i deal it?42:5,6>24
if in spain this is waiting for me, how will i deal it?53:1,5>13

thanks a lot for give your opinion


blessings, ev

 

[steve]

Hi there
I can see your in a jam there thats quite obvious from your post, the question I will answer is what is waiting for me in spain.
Line 6 the last line of hex 18 possibly the end of the decay and it talks about setting higher goals.
When I have been in situations such as your self , you may need to re-group somewhere like an army in retreat. I was wondering if you may have family there in spain then maybe they could help you get on your feet.
Its a big move i guess so i am trying to give the right advice hex 35 does talk dependency which could mean that it is hard to stand on your own two feet there in Germany and you need to rely on others more.
When you say if in spain this is waiting for me, how will i deal it?53:1,5>13 All i can I see is a bad relationship that went no-where as you said it has ended so maybe you wasted your time on the wrong person
I ask again do you have family in spain that can help you get it together, because to be honest if it was me I would go home but the decision is up to you.
Maybe some other people here can help
But even without the reading to me it makes sense to make yourself secure.

I wish you all the best
Steve

 

[willowfox]

what is waiting for me here? 35, no changes

Strangely, progress can be made in the place that you are residing, as it seems that you will find and admirer and a helper.

what is waiting for me in Spain? 18,6 > 46

Going back to Spain is very good as well, as you will find work and help there, perhaps going home is best under the circumstances.

and then, if in here this is waiting for me, how will i deal it ? 42:5,6>24

You need to change your attitude and behaviour then your friend may indeed return when he sees a change in you.

if in Spain this is waiting for me, how will i deal it? 53:1,5 >13

By returning to your community and joining in with everyone once again.

 

[steve]

Yes 35 was what confused me about that one because it can be very positive but considering the situation, I may have thought different.

 

[kativa]

hi!! thanks a lot for your answer!!!! It makes happy!!
So, ya, i'm totally in a jam, and i have to decide me to get out!!
The point is what of the possibilities is better for me,this i don't know!
I'm agree with Steve when says that 35 is positive, but in this situation maybe not so. this the reasons that maked me ask again "how will i deal it in here?". And the answer 46,6" Nothing increasing him. Someone beating him. The position of his heart is not steady",makes more unsure to rest.And then the hexagrame change to THe REturn, mmmm-....
In Spain i've got familly: nice friends:Them for sure can help me only with their presence! But now i'm more worried about get a job, and pay my debts than other thing! I 'd like just go for working(but is not sure that there a job) and to check some situation that is attractive to me. But the job is just for a couple of weeks, and then , with no job again and maybe come back here, and starts again:no job, no home... This the point:i don't know if to look for a job here(but i'm afraid to no mannage it with him around and my heart broken) , or go there, work, and then m i see...
i still full of doubts,......
I 'll ready again, later. And i'll check your comments again.
thanks a lot :bows:

 

[kativa]

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[kativa]

Hi there and thanks again!
i'm reading again and i realised that is very difficult to compare hexagrams, and more when both are similar. Makes me more confused than cleared!! I understood in the result about Germany (what is waiting for me here? 35)there 's a progress, solving with the terrennal attachments, ain't it?. So when i'm asking about how will i deal it and i got 42:5,6>24, i'm understanding that i have to make a sacrifice (maybe to stop bothered my fiance) and with the changing lines, that i've got good input, but there is something making me weak and unpure(maybe accept that he doesn't want to stay with anymore, i'm became to fixed to him). The return i understood it as a way of come back to my own way, forgotting him and taking my road. But WF is seeing different.I'd like that u are in true, but i don't have any control on him,and also, if i wanted is no fair and i have to learn to not whish it.(actually i asked what does he want of me when he is back' and the answer was 30:1, 5>33, and about his feelings about me 64,6>40. i understood that is over- also because he is meeting an old love)Oh!i have to stop to see more at him than at me!! this the reason that for second time he quite up with me...and i'm not learning,buffà!
About Spain, the first answer maked me happy but afraid to get money there(18,6>46) because i saw the opportunity to grow up, to repair what i destroyed, to come back to my way just following my own and universal instinct(no lords, no kings, no fears) instead to stay here and trying to get back his love (and also my auto amor) making what i didn't do in 2years. And these become (46) a progress that goes straight up, not as 35 that is more expansive like the light of the sun. Then, when i asked how will i deal it, the answer made unsecure again. The 53 is talking about a hard progress , so maybe i don't get the job? the changing line on the base is talking about the solitary walking of a learner to get the wings to fly, so is slowly for necessity, The 4th is talking about a situation where i'm not fitting, but is secure(maybe the job? maybe go to this place ? ) but the result is nice, it is the 13, the community. Actually, where i will go, i was never, this i have to say because you were asking me about a family there, but it's true that i've got friends, all of them so broke as me! But my friends are not in the place where i should go work,i meet them in the way.
i'd like to know, how Steve have seen this "53:1,5>13 All i can I see is a bad relationship that went no-where as you said it has ended so maybe you wasted your time on the wrong person"
ah! i just noticed that i wrote wrong!! the changing line is the 4th!! maybe this was the reason that made him understand in that!ooops! sorry!
thanks a lot for your help,
let me know if i 'm understanding well what I Ching is telling to me.
thanks a lot and enjoy the way

 

[willowfox]

You need to think where you will be the happiest, in Germany or back home in Spain with your old friends and neignbours.

Both countries have potential opportunities for the future, but the real point is where you will feel, secure, safe and content.

As for the bf, do you really want him back, think carefully before you answer.

 

[steve]

Hi there

I feel that reading is saying to possibly think of returning home, just when i read them and the hex 24 is what is swaying me.

Steve