Desperate

[merrylittlefrog]

This morning I had an awful conversation with my ex bf. I simply asked him why after such a long time together, he utterly ignores me now. Even though I never bothered him, and let him go (he as a new gf) very easily. I had asked the yi wether to contact him or not and the answer was 35.3.6, which seemed to me a kind of 'go haead' advice. But I feel more desperate than ever now, & feel my life is totally over, and have no hope left. Can anyone consult the yi for me? Because I'm in utter distress. Very Sad. And I'll be spending ny's eve alone tonight...
mlf

 

[pargenton]

Hi merrylittlefrog,

well, me too am spending ny's eve alone, but I'm not desperate...

Hug...

Seriously, if you really let him go easily why do you feel so hopeless now ?

What exactly do you want to ask Yi ?
Peace
Paolo

 

[pargenton]

If I am right 35.3.6 > 62, i.e. may be Yi adviced you to go ahead but with a low profile.

35.3.6 seemed indeed favorable, with a warning from line 6 not to be too harsh with others.

Anyway when I see hex 62 I always think something like "do not fly too high".

If you are interested we can continue intepretation of 35.3.6

I would suggest to clarify what exactly what you want to know from Yi; Subordinating your home town
(35.6) could mean something similar, don't let yourself go amok, try to self control, I know it is not easy when you are in the middle of negative emotions, try breathing meditation or go out for a walk.

bye
Paolo

 

[merrylittlefrog]

nothing works at this time.
Anyway, I was not harsh (but he was). I just needed some explanation i never got.
There is nothing going right, unfortunately, least of all meditation or a walk.
But thank you anyway
mlf

 

[pargenton]

mlf,
sorry, if you want to talk let me know
a hug
Paolo

 

[seeker]

First, if you read my post you will see you are the only one spending new years eve alone instead of with the one they love. I know how you feel, and I know there isn't anything anyone can say that would make it any better right now. However, I do think Yi was telling you to make a more delicate approach than you took. Sometimes a letter or email is better because we can edit ourselves. You have to be careful not to ramble, but if you say the wrong thing, as long as you have not hit send, you can take it back. You can also ask Yi about it before you send it, something I failed to do the other night and am paying the price for now. Unfortunately, like me, there is nothing you can do now, unless Hilary has a time machine somewhere in her bag of tricks.

I did ask some questions for you:

What should she do regarding her ex bf? 32.4 to 46

What are the prospects for her and her ex? 58.4 to 60

What direction should she take? 39.5 to 15

I would like some help in interpreting this for you if others would so oblige, but here is my take. I think 32.4 says there is nothing to do now, back off and leave him alone. 58.4 is a bit more positive, but not sure if it refers to you or him. I could see it as saying you will find peace only when you let go and move on, but if it refers to him, and I hesitate to give you possibly false hope, but I could see it saying he will work through desire for lower pleasures and then be interested in a real relationship. The type of relationship he is in could give a clue. If he is in a serious relationship, then I could see it referring to you, but if he is off playing the field, it could refer to him. 39.5 is definately more positive, it talks of obstructions being removed by attracting helpers. Again, it could mean the obstruction between the two of you, or it could mean the obstruction to your moving on via support of family and friends.

I do know your pain, and right now that is what you need to deal with. Unfortuately, there is no easy way to deal with it. I think right now your best course is to focus on yourself. I myself am choosing to be by myself, but that is what I need. Only you can decide what you need right now. I know, what you really need is for him to come back. I know because that is how I feel. I was talking to my mother yesterday, and she was trying to be supportive, but I finally said, while I know you are trying to help me, the only thing that would really help right now would be for him to change his mind, and that is not likely to happen. All we can do is live through this and go forward with faith that there is a reason for this and eventually the universe will bring us what we need. Actually Yi pretty much told me that when I asked why this was happening. I don't remember the exact reading, but the moving line was 39.6 which says because of the experience he is able to create something great and complete that brings good fortune. Here's hoping. Just remember that you are not alone.

 

[pargenton]

I am too in the club of "new years eve alone" !!

However I try to convince myself that are not the external facts important for happiness, but how do you deal with them.

I'm trying...

anyway I also think that with her ex the road is closed (32.4, no hunt in game)

 

[merrylittlefrog]

Thank you Seeker, thank you Par. My problem is this ending comes after a year & a half of struggles in any aspects of my life. I didn't attack my bf on the phone, I just asked for explanations. I just hoped for a little help, as I think I helped him a lot in the past. But got a defensive attitude and a simple 'forget about me you are bothering me' answer (in the last two years I tried to contact him more or less three times). And there was no need for being so rude. There is nothing going right. I'm exhausted. That's it. Well thanks you for listening and for the reading.
mlf

 

[seeker]

Life been one major suckfest??? Yeah, me too. Don't know if you have read any of my other posts, but my year has consisted of my husband filing for divorce and numerous subsequent revelations that have led me to the realization that I never knew him, I spent 8 years with a stranger, the most recent of which was that he had friends and a girlfriend that I never knew anything about, storm damage to my condo, termites in my condo, fights with my home owners assoc because of the above, difficulties in my job, financial difficulties including notification that my mortgage will increase another $104, can barely afford the current one, finding and losing the man of my dreams, in part because of my ex, same man reappearing twice to no avail, my grandfather passing away, the tearing apart of my family as they fight over his will, and this morning, a threat of foreclosure to my property for something I am supposed to have until Jan 21 to take care of. So, thats mine, feel like sharing???

 

[merrylittlefrog]

Yes, just to share, a couple of seriously ill relatives I'm very sorry for. My beloved cat passed away in summer (so this was my second summer at home alone and desperate in a row). I'm having problem with the new house I rented (actually subleased) so I might find myself with no home at all. My job is getting worst and worst since my low spirits don't allow me to work in the best conditions and my job requires for a lot of concentration. In the last two years I haven't met anyone (ANY) whom could even slightly look like, not the perfect person, but at least someone interesting to go out with. Very often I don't know what I am living for, and I'm scared even worst things might happen. Besides, my ex bf, whom I always loved & treated with the utmost respect behaves as if we were totally strangers. So, quite a difficult situation too. YOu really have all my understanding.
Love mlf