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Hi. Just trying to make peace with someone and setlle for a defined relationship eg friends. Our history is turbulent and it is clear that we like each other and like spending time but somehow we clash when we try to be a couple. I was wondering if he was ever actually in love with me (that's what I asked YI - 31.1>34) or if it was just all more out of convinience. It would really help me to know when looking how to approach this and finally bring resolution to it and settle down on something. Thank you for imput
 

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Hi. Just trying to make peace with someone and setlle for a defined relationship eg friends. Our history is turbulent and it is clear that we like each other and like spending time but somehow we clash when we try to be a couple. I was wondering if he was ever actually in love with me (that's what I asked YI - 31.1>34) or if it was just all more out of convinience. It would really help me to know when looking how to approach this and finally bring resolution to it and settle down on something. Thank you for imput


The title says 32.1>34 but in your post you say 31.1>34.


32.1 goes to 34. 32 line 1 shows one trying to make 'a thing' out of something before it is ready. Trying to make something 'last' before it has even had time to begin. Who is that about you or him ? I don't know but I think it's probably you trying to impose a lasting definition on something that isn't ready to be so defined.


I mean who the heck defines what 'in love' is ? And even if they have defined it for themselves how can they possibly judge whether or not someone else is 'in' it. It isn't like a bath whereby you are wither 'in' or 'out'.


Actually here is your 32.1 right here
It would really help me to know when looking how to approach this and finally bring resolution to it and settle down on something.[/B




Yi is addressing your wish to 'settle'. The line says from Hilary's translation

'Deep into lasting.
Constancy, pitfall.
No direction bears fruit'

Here one is trying to 'settle' and 'last' far too soon as if one wanted it all labelled and packed away. This cannot be so so you must just let it be as it is. Whatever is happening you cannot aim for any kind of resolution now, to try brings 'pitfall' so you have misunderstood what this is so far so if you go on with that misunderstanding with the aim to resolve things you just go further into confusion.

Much better to realize perhaps you haven't explored the half of it yet so you simply don't know how it will be.
 

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32.1 is like imagining there is a relationship (and picking out your dress) when all one has done is Swiped a screen to 'match'.

It is like proclaiming a thing as set, that hasn't been given the time to naturally grow.

It is like proclaiming 'we are a couple now' instead of noticing what is actually happening between you, if you really like each other or get along.

I think it is basically skipping steps.
 

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I've had it when I'd known someone for a long time in a certain capacity and wanted it to be something else more definite which it was sort of becoming. Looking back I can see it was more a time to discover than to try to fix it down as some named relationship already predetermined. There is generally a sense of urgency experienced with this line which makes one blind to 'just let it be' advice.


I actually had it a few days ago with other lines when I wasn't sure if I had full on infection or another condition I tend to get. It was very painful so I asked if I needed to contact Dr. I think this line was telling me 'no don't fix this as a defined thing, an infection that's here to stay - let it be what it is'. Sure enough I didn't need antibiotics though the pain of it gave an urgency so I did collect some from my Dr without needing to use it.


I think it takes some self discipline with this line to just take a step back. Do you really need to 'settle' what this is ? Really ? Why ? Yi says you don't.
 
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I wonder, it seems that you are looking for a relationship that is going to be lasting, enduring, to have some continuity to it, is that about right? But sometimes we get so caught up in the emotion or sensual-ness, that we forget this 'bigger' picture. If so, I could imagine that the real issue was that this person did not have those qualities that would make a relationship with them endure. So whether they loved you or not might be a bit beside the point.

Perhaps then, it's not the best approach to push too hard with this issue, but to instead consider the 'bigger' issues of achieving a loving, lasting relationship. There could be really big forces at work here. There's creativity and joy to name two - that's maybe the place to focus on.

Best, David.
 

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I think it takes some self discipline with this line to just take a step back.

Ah yes. and the Ram doesn't have self discipline and just wants it NOW, smash all obstacles!
 

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