Did I just get a warning about the future?

[bionicjoe]

Hi, I'm a new poster but I've been reading this site for the last few days to try and get some ideas.

My relationship recently ended due to non-typical circumstances. I've been trying to gain a better understanding of what happened, and from reading this site I learned that I'm not supposed to ask yes/no questions. So I aimed my questions at learning what is going on and how to proceed.

What can I do to best help our relationship now?
52.3 > 23

What can I do to restore our union?
64.4.5 > 59

What is blocking (other person) and me?
57.4 > 44

What will happen if I contact them tomorrow (Wednesday)?
42 unchanging


Here is my interpretation of my answers, but I'm new to this so I'd love input from anyone, especially the regulars

52.3 > 23 - I asked "what can I do now?" It says "don't do anything now." 23 also says "keeping still" and "splitting apart." Is this saying that I definitely shouldn't do anything now? Or is it saying if I don't do anything now, then the result will be "splitting apart"?

64.4.5 > 59 - I asked "what can i do to restore our union?" 64.4 and 64.5 both say "preserverence bring good fortune." But one of them talks about a victory being won. 59 is "dissolution." Is this actually a warning that "doing nothing" (perservering) will lead to dissolution?

57.4 > 44 - I asked "what is blocking us?" I have no idea what 57.4 means here. The future hexagram is 44, "coming to meet" which I thought sounded good, until I read this line: "One should not marry such a maiden."

42 - I asked "what will happen if I contact her tomorrow?" (Wednesday, if that matters). 42 says "It furthers one To undertake something." That sounds like a "definitely do it" answer, although that also would be a more fitting answer to a Y/N question, which I didn't ask.

Help?

 

[gene]

Hi Joe

I think the most important part here is hexagram 52 line 3. The commentary says, "one ought not to try to force results." The other two readings do show some promise, but only if you are very gentle and do not try to push anything. Hexagram 57 line 4 reinforces the idea of gentleness, letting things move at their own pace. Once again, don't try to force it.

Gene

 

[diamanda]

What can I do to best help our relationship now?
52.3 > 23
What can I do to restore our union?
64.4.5 > 59

52.3 > 23 sounds to me like your head is telling you to go one direction, and your heart
is telling you to go another, and that feels far too painful. I'm sorry to say that, also
because of 64.4.5 > 59, it doesn't sound like you can do anything to save it at this
moment. Even if you try your best (64:4), and even if you are in the right (64:5), 59
does not sound very promising for restoring a union.

What is blocking (other person) and me?
57.4 > 44

My guess would be that your partner fancies someone else, or even in plural, other
people.

What will happen if I contact them tomorrow (Wednesday)?
42 unchanging

Your partner will be busy..? Almost every time i ever got 42 it always seemed to be
connected with work, so, again, this would be my guess. In any case i hope i'm wrong!

 

[willowfox]

What can I do to best help our relationship now?
52.3 > 23

****Firstly, you no longer have a relationship, so you have no option but to keep still, it may indeed hurt but you are not in a good position to go singing at her window anymore, the game is over.

What can I do to restore our union?
64.4.5 > 59

You have only one choice, to fight and see what happens.

What is blocking (other person) and me?
57.4 > 44

Surely you know what the problem is? Someone else?

What will happen if I contact them tomorrow (Wednesday)?
42 unchanging

***This is about the outcome of an action and not the action itself. She doesn't answer or puts the phone down.

 

[bionicjoe]

What can I do to restore our union?
64.4.5 > 59

You have only one choice, to fight and see what happens.

That's what I figured. I thought there might be another choice of "wait," since sometimes the I Ching tends to give that advice.

What is blocking (other person) and me?
57.4 > 44

Surely you know what the problem is? Someone else?

I don't think it's someone else.

What will happen if I contact them tomorrow (Wednesday)?
42 unchanging

***This is about the outcome of an action and not the action itself. She doesn't answer or puts the phone down.

How do you know it's about the action? I was asking the I Ching about the outcome of the action as it relates to her and me. I figured if it was a bad idea it would have said "it doesn't further one to progress" or "wait" or one of those type of answers. But like I said, I'm new to this.

Thanks.

 

[willowfox]

How do you know it's about the action? I was asking the I Ching about the outcome of the action as it relates to her and me. I figured if it was a bad idea it would have said "it doesn't further one to progress" or "wait" or one of those type of answers. But like I said, I'm new to this.

I never said it was about the actual action of calling her, my answer was addressing the outcome of any call that you may make.

 

[bionicjoe]

I never said it was about the actual action of calling her, my answer was addressing the outcome of any call that you may make.

Oh. For 42 I read "Great progress can be made at this time." So that's talking about the outcome of if I were to call her? I'm confused now

 

[willowfox]

The solution here is to simply phone her tomorrow and see what she says/does.

 

[lucia]

What can I do to best help our relationship now?
52.3 > 23

As Diamonda says - you are torn in half about this split and as WF says it is a split - 52.3 is emotions at odds with thinking. Or the urge to act is at odds with your interests...

What can I do to restore our union?
64.4.5 > 59

Not a lot at this point in time........
64.4 indicates first of all "no regrets" - it's time to sort your head out (demon country) and start afresh with the new situation as it really is - you then have a good opportunity to grow from this.
64.5 suggests that if you do this - concentrate on yourself and your mistakes it will have a very good effect on you.
But as Diamanda says not particularly on "the union" which is dispersed (59).

What is blocking (other person) and me?
57.4 > 44

there's no "blocks" as such it was just a short term thing (44)
57.4 suggests that you can't have everything you want but if you broaden your outlook there will be better opportunities. 57/44 also suggests to me that you are overthinking this - focussing on it too much....

What will happen if I contact them tomorrow (Wednesday)?
42 unchanging

increase yourself - love yourself..........

In line with the tone of your other hexes it suggests look to you not the "other"..... I also think "unchanging" hexes throw you back to yourself.

Lucia