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Difficult client: 39.1.2.3.6->61 and 4.6->7

mulberry

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I'll be blunt: I have a really annoying freelance client. She is a prime offender of the "just one more tweak" category, and in this case it is fueled by the fact I made a legitimate error in one section of something she hired me for many months ago. When she alerted to me this error recently, I made the correction immediately and apologized profusely. However, since then she keeps popping back up with more changes she wants me to make. Cleverly, most of them relate to the section where I made a mistake—but they have nothing to do with the mistake. She has not offered to compensate me for the further work and the way she words her inquiries block a good opening to ask. Initially, I did the first few further changes as a gesture of goodwill, but now I'm catching onto her and she appears to be illustrating the saying "give an inch, take a mile."

I need to figure out how to draw a line with her, but it's complicated by the fact she is a friend of someone who consistently refers me to people for work, and that I don't want this client to say anything negative about me to others. She has also continued to offer me further work, which I'm hesitant to take in case it is as draining as this project is turning out to be.

First I asked Yi, "What should I do about this client popping up over and over?" and got 4.6 -> 7. Okay, this seemed clear enough—Yi is saying not to be too harsh, but to be wary.

Then just now, as she's popped up yet again (this time asking the exact same questions as before, but slightly rephrased, as if I hadn't already given her the answers—no acknowledgement of my prior answers either though they are in the same email chain and she clearly saw them), and I asked Yi, "What do I need to know about dealing with her in general?" 39.1.2.3.6->61.

Line 1 seems to say, try a new direction in dealing with her. Line 2, something someone in Wikiwing wrote really seems to encapsulate this one: "Things go wrong for you, not because of who you are, but because of who or what you are in service to." This woman is really disorganized and scattered (I know this from another person who also worked for her). Line 3, again, a suggestion that changing direction could help. Line 6, once again, a change in direction.

So I got 3 lines saying "Going on, limping." This suggests to me it's time to cut her off, or at least stop taking any future work from her (though I didn't ask that specifically).

Does anyone have any insights or experience here? I struggle with how 61 relates.

Many thanks!
 

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Two further questions:

What if I continue working for her? 18.2.5.6 -> 39

Any commentary on me telling her I am too busy and cutting off work for her? 49.3.4->3

39 again in the context of keeping her as a client...and those lines of 18 stand out to me as troublesome. 18.6 seems to be saying that holding to her business will prevent me from more worthy endeavors (which I can see happening because I've recently been getting a lot more work offers).

The 49.4 "changing mandate" also seems to indicate that not taking her next two offered projects is the best course.

Would still love to hear other opinions!

For context, I already have a steady weekly PT job right now so the income from this client, while nice, is not worth it if all the jobs are this messy and draining.
 

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I've come to realize she is scatterbrained and ditsy rather than cunning. That said, she has popped up yet again with more changes, and in the process sent me the wrong file three times since I agreed to one more tiny change. Each time I have opened the file, started to make the change, realized it looked wrong, contacted her; she confirmed "omg! you're right, it's the wrong file!" and then sent me the wrong one...again. I think she's embarrassed now, her tone has changed. At this point I just want to finish this thing up and move on.

I asked Yi for advice on getting through this specific project with her and Yi replied 24.3 into 36 (!) which is...wow. You know that chills feeling when you're really in dialogue with the oracle? This entire episode has been one of those, where I feel like I am fully and clearly having a conversation. Hoping to get to the end of it soon though. I feel very 36 right now, having to grin and bear it and not express my true feelings while dealing with someone who is a bit nuts.
 

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An update: I tried to gently fire this client. Too gently, because she freaked out and begged me to continue working for her on a further two projects, and against my better judgement I agreed. The first of the two wasn't so bad, but now I'm doing the second one and the same thing is happening...endless tweaks past the point I thought we were done, which are interrupting other jobs I took/scheduled (which are going really well). Even more annoyingly, she's having me change a small but pervasive detail that I'd already done but she initially rejected/removed, so I have to go back and fix it all again. She's very nice and apologetic but it's all just too chaotic for me and it's really throwing off my schedule. Other clients don't act this way. Learned my lesson...I hope.
 

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Lots of approaches to the Yi here ..... maybe 1 would have been enough

What if I continue working for her? 18.2.5.6 -> 39

18: You'll have a lot of issues and you'll learn alot about yourself and the way you operate
line 2 - embrace the troubles, what's causing them and how you react to them
line 5 - identify how and in what ways you can structure things differently - for you, for her and for the way you relate
line 6 - look at this as a training camp as you go through the sausage machine -
this is not just about the business transactions.
39: Understanding how you have been limping will give you opportunities to bring about changes for the future

From your last post it seems like you are coming out the end of the sausage machine.

Good Luck
 

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