Difficult relative, 2.3.5 > 39

[Juliah]

Hi friends.

I am thinking of visiting my distant relative. At one time the relationship with him was really kindred and warm but then everything ruined, the man had changed a lot as if he had been caused offence (what is not consistent with the reality). I am not sure whether he feels like seeing me again after the long period of non-communication... So I asked, "Does he feel like seeing me?" and got 2.3.5 > 39

For me it looks like yes, quite so, but he has not made a conciliatory gesture so far; he preferred being gone cap in hand to him.

What do you think friends?

Thank you in advance.

 

[rosada]

I'm interpreting your question, "Does he feel like seeing me?", as meaning, "Is he open to seeing me?" because Hexagram 2 suggests he's not thinking about you and so I'd have to say he's not particularly feeling like seeing you but if what you meant by asking your question was whether he would be open to seeing you if you were to reach out to him then I think the I Ching is telling you that there does seem to be some unfinished business between you - 2.3 - and he might be responsive if you approached him in the right way - 2.5. Hexagram 39 is about feeling one is on the outside without help which could also be about there being some sort of wall or misunderstanding between the two of you. Perhaps you would benefit from asking, "How can I reconnect?" or "What would he like to hear from me?" or "What would be another way of seeing our connection so it doesn't feel so estranged?"

rosada

 

[Juliah]

Rosada, you have read from my cast even more than I saw in it, and what you read hit the nail.

What would he like to hear from me?

11.3.5 > 60

 

[Juliah]

I have also asked if our non-communication has been getting him down:

25.1 > 12

Seems like no. But then I cannot reconcile 11.3.5 with it - I saw here an unexpected longing to re-unite, to push the limits of the artficial constraint. But perhaps, I am wrong.

 

[Trojina]

2.3 made me think he might suspect you want something from him because of his role to you. However that's no reason not to go ahead. What's to lose ? You may as well try.

I have also asked if our non-communication has been getting him down:

25.1 > 12

This isn't a great question, it's a closed question which is hard to interpret. If you keep your questions about you yourself, which I think is the business of Yi, you will clearer.

The answers you get will be for you anyway and I think this one is. 25.1 don't get caught up in complications about what you think he thinks. Talk to him then you'll know what he thinks. If this is a direct answer about what he thinks he doesn't seem to be caught up in complications at this time.

 

[Juliah]

2.3 made me think he might suspect you want something from him because of his role to you.

Not sure about it...

In view of all that has been said I am still hesitating about the visit.