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Distancing myself / hex. 15.3 to 2

MariaPedro

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Hello all. I am Rita from Portugal. This is my first time on the forum, although I am an avid reader of some of the posts. I have been using the I Ching for about a year but I always need help interpreting. This time I decided to start a thread because I feel I should start making my I Ching habit more “real” and solid and this seems like a good place to do that.

Regarding my reading, I asked if it was a good choice to distance myself from my mother.

Last summer she did something totally unacceptable and from there I started realizing how emotionally detached and cold she was during my childhood and - mostly because I am now a mother and need to find emotional stability at all costs - I decided I couldn’t t accept what she did and silently distanced myself from her. She never said she was sorry and won t even acknowledge what happened. I established boundaries, I will not spend the night at her home and I won t visit her very often, I will not be alone with her, etc. I hate doing this not only because she is my mother but also because my Son will grow up having not much contact with her, however I can t go on pretending everything is fine when she is very toxic. I do doubt myself, Sometimes I think maybe I am being unfair or too picky, but deep down I think I need to do this to survive.

I think hexagram 15 changing into hexagram 2 seems like a positive answer saying I am doing what is right by being Modest (distant?) and that I should nourish myself (?) but I have no ideia how to use the I Ching, to be honest. Could anyone give me an opinion on this.

Thank you
 
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Hello. Thank you so much for your answer. Does it mean that what I chose to do will lead me to nourishment? I am very happy that you answered. Honestly, this all situation is breaking me apart, but I think it will be for the better. I do have an amazing son and husband but what I also have is a childhood where I was denied an identity so, in a way, I feel that the birth of my child propelled me into the finding of that lost identity, a rebirth in a way , but with a lot of emotional baggage and unconscious patterns which makes it extremely painful. I feel scared of what lies ahead and I do feel very lonely.
 

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Just now I asked the I Ching Am I on the right path with my life? 22.3.6 > 24. Can you maybe elaborate on that? I see it as a good omen, meaning I am purifying myself, but the 6th line I don t get. As I said, I have little idea on how to interpret the I Ching, my mind is so foggy lately with anxiety …
 

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Hello Rita,
yes, Yi states you are on the right path ☺️

Line 6 (Hilary’s commentary):
'White beauty.
No mistake.'

White meaning 'undyed', with nothing added. This could mean pure simplicity, a natural display of one's true nature. It might also mean a nature especially ready to take a colour, to be changed by its environment. Like 'writable media' for the computer.

22 zhi Hexagram 36, Brightness Hiding. The idea of expressing the essence, brought into a context of hiding the essence for fear of injury. Some of the motivation behind this line is fear of the consequences of displaying one's true nature, or of appearing too 'bright'. Hexagram 36 can also mean 'lack of appreciation.' We might conceal something about ourselves to avoid seriously displeasing or disappointing others.

'White beauty': not painting yourself in elaborate patterns to fit in, not changing yourself to avoid upsetting people, but also not displaying anything so naturally bright or distinctive that you might not easily 'go with' them. Not compromising the essence in the way you express it, but also not explicitly showing your 'true colours'.

There is a spectrum of meaning, from being ready to take on the colour of any situation (not dyed through with your own colour), through to genuine modesty that reveals a lot of good things.

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so looking at line 6 in the context of what you shared about the nature of your attachment pattern with your mother, it states your past experience (not showing your Self for fear of injury - toxic attachment) as well as how now expressing quietly your true nature/ essence carefully is right.
on ‘ being foggy with anxiety’, it is to be expected when you begin to change a lifelong pattern of relating/ seeing yourself, and truth be told, very common for attachment trauma to hit you right in the face at the birth of your first child (somatic memories) so you may find it helpful to work for a time with an attachment-focused psychotherapist/counselor. Good luck 🌸
 
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